my mother inlaw is driving me crazy!

[AngelaQ29]

I'm 1week overdue, and my mother in law text me more then my own mother, if i don't text bavk right away she freaks out , over thinks it snd text my mom wondering why shes not helping me over every lil preg thing. A few days ago it got so bad that she made my mom cry and to thinking shes a bad mother. I stop talking to her, told my husband all the added stress cause by her. He admits she over reacted. And she has asks forgiveness. Which i gave her. But I'm very concernd , that one she only ask bc my baby is coming any day and two when our lil angel does come she's going to make me feel like a bad mother to. What can i do?

[ibethiswithchild]

Send her to hell, and dont let her in your home. Thats a monster in law.

[lkaykirk]

1. get a hotel lock on your doors.
2. If she is texting after the baby comes send her one back that says you and the baby are napping. Or text back hours later and say your phone was on silent because it was nap time when she texted.

[AngelaQ29]

Thank you!, we plan on having  the baby in the next two days . I'll just put all the cards on the table with her. ( She has talked about quiting her job and taking care of the baby. I really don't want her around to much) I have worked in early childhood for 5 years before i met my husband, so I'm more worried about   the labor then taking care of her. I don't want to hurt her feelings but i might have to

[wyattsmom2015]

Don't worry about it. Ignore her and don't let her in. Just because you forgave her does not mean you got to let her all in your business

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, set boundaries.  My mother in law was a bit tough.  I had certain things that were musts---  no pop in visits.  Nope, I locked doors and didn't answer if someone just knocked (might find me with a boob hanging out any way . . .  you know how it is with a newborn in the early days).  she also said occasional comments.  If my husband were present---  he'd tell her to stop.  If she wasn't, he'd tell her later that it was inappropriate.  He was on the same page as me.  She told me that I was 'retarding' my son once.  I mean, can you imagine how that made me feel.  I told her that this was inappropriate for her to say and she will respect me in my home.  She basically always backed off.  

I realized she wasn't trying to put me down but just said a lot of stupid things without thinking.  

So, set boundaries with her.  And texting is great.  Here's why.  You do NOT have to respond.  Or even better so she doesn't drive you nuts---  tell her that you aren't using your phone today because you are taking care of the baby and don't want to be distracted.  Then don't answer her texts.  :>)  

good luck