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how young is to young

Okay so I'm only 21 had my first baby at 17 and my second at 20 and now I will have my third due April 4th....am I still to young to be getting my tubes tied?
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Thank you ladies for all the advice...I think I'm gonna just go with the implanon that's good for 3 years my doctor told me I would have trouble with the iud....but as for right now I am good with my little girl and two boys :) hopefully I an my fiancee can have another little girl in the future
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I had my tubes tied at 23 after baby #3 ... biggest mistake of my life! I vowed to never get married & lol I met my husband when I was 24 (he has no bio children). We married after dating 3 years & I recently had my tubal reversal after 10 years of waiting. It was very painful & recovery was no walk in the park. I was blessed to get pregnant soon after the reversal but some women are not so lucky. We are expecting our bundles in Aug. Please think really long & hard about this decision as situations change. I wish you the best!
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In my state u have to have 2 kids to qualify, no matter what age u are. Im getting mines done, this is my third child.
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No I understand that.  Mine keep getting worse too.  I would definitely look into iud and other options.  Talk a lot to your doctor and do a lot of research tho bc I have heard of ppl having issues with them.  But especially if you and your partner aren't on the same page you may want to wait.  My cousins bf got vasectomy without telling her and she had wanted a second.  It caused lots of isdues and eventual break up.  But you are very young and may decide in 10 years to try for another and would still be young...tho one thing you could use to convince him is that when your 39 all your kids could be off to college and you guys still young and enjoying the house to yourself ;-).  I am 28 and my husband and I look forward to taking vacations when we want when we are 46 :-).  Not to mention being young active grandparents compared to most :-)
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I'm not married but been with the same partner for two years he says he wants me to wait because maybe we would like another kid when ours are grown up but I'm just not sure my body could handle another baby I'm in more and more pain with each child...I'm totally healthy but for some reason another pregnancy makes me nervous
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My doctor said 21 but it depends on your insurance.
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I think part of it is also that health wise it is a big deal for women.  If you are married or with the same partner maybe you guys want to consider vasectomy.  It is much safer for the guys than the women.  I was planning on having mine tied if allowed but after talking over with doctors and doing research my husband actually decided no for me.  Just much safer for him.  Plus to be honest he never had any pain and was back to normal within a day, while for us it takes weeks to heal.
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I'm 21 and I want it to do it and my doctor denied so I pretty much think you won't be able to.
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Known not none
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Usually doctors deny you if your under 25. I have none a few girls that were denied.  My mom was denied when she was 28.  
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Well, sweetheart, here is the thing.  Tubal ligation is expensive and painful (and not for sure) to undo.  SO many women write into the site regretting their tubal ligations.  Either they got a divorce or their spouse died, and they have now met the love of their life who is super and does not have kids and just loves children, and they really want to have another baby because their own kids are older or out of the house.  I realize that what I'm saying means you'd have to go onto an IUD or the Pill for a long time against a possibility (loss of present partner and changing your mind about another child) that seems pretty remote.  Only you can decide.  My only suggestion is not to do it for a few years, if you do it.  You'll be able to bear kids into your late 30s or more, you have a lot of time to make this decision.  Don't make it when dealing with small kids and pregnancy hormones and all that.  
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