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intimacy issues

I know this is TMI but my husband wants to make love and every position is uncomfortable for me other than me on top but with my belly so big I feel as if I'm not sexy so it takes away from the experience for me. I also feel as if I'm too heavy even though he said otherwise. Do you mommies have any advice to help me get my "groove" back
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I have no sex drive. I do it for the sperm to soften my cervix.. Sex does not feel good at all to me and my bf is very aware lol. But to make it better he puts a pillow under my butt and I lay on my back .. He cannot lean down cuz my belly is big but it gets the job done and also I lay on my side sometimes and that is not too bad.. Sometimes it just hurts though
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Every pregnant woman feels that way about themselves! I have had the least amount of sex since being pregnant than I ever have because I don't feel attractive or I am huge or my man would talk about other gorgeous women and that.. and would over analyze my body and feel so sad... but those other women aren't holding a precious baby! And you know what this is not a regular time in your life, this is special... may as well enjoy it! You never know how many times this can happen for you both. Live in the moment and tear his clothes kid and nd surprise him haha he obviously loves you and need finds you irresistible!  My man didn't want sex with me for the LONGEST time this pregnancy cuz he was scared of hurting the baby etc. You're lucky. Just go for it!! :)
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My advice is to relax n don't let your head get in the way U obviously are still attractive if he can't keep his hands off of u and u are not to big if he is still tryna fold you in every position like origami!! So be more confident and u will get it back. He probably thinks ur more attractive pregnant cuz ur carrying his child it might sound weird but I think it's flattering.
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We do it from the side.  I lay on my left side with a small pillow under my belly.  Works great.  
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Just take your time and figure it out. I never had this problem.
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I'm 35 wks n never had sex... now of course but I tell u what sex has turned me off n i feel disgusting even thinking about letting someone geting close... I've been alone thru the whole preg without sex.. tryd my toy n wasn't feeling that either.. so I feel u..
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Since sex is kinda hard at this point it's more about fore play for us..get close as you can that way and then move to sex. That way it's not so uncomfortable and you can actually enjoy yourself. :)
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Need advice on how to get my husband's groove back.
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