need advice upset

[due22jan15]

I just looked a my partners phone and on it ive seen him being on a talk app and on youtube I seen him looking at girls on webcam I dont know what to think or do he has a history if this and he said to me that he wont do it again but he has

[honeybee103112]

I say with four kids he should be man enough not to do those things. If he hasn't stopped his crap by now he will never ever change. So don't let anyone tell you to stay bc all it will do it stress you out and cause pain.

[feistyone89]

With 4 kids I say don't leave him just yet. Do you, be you, tell him your not gonna stand for this and if he has an intimacy problem try to be understanding, tell him you are heart broken and he can't be trusted. Make sure he isn't on the internet or his phone when your around. If he cares he will try but if he continues than maybe he does have an issue. I feel your pain. Today Im gonna ignore my guy and just have a nice day off spend it with my Mom. He is sorry about it although I feel he is sorry he got caught. Idk why they do this when they have a real life woman with them. But try to hear them out and talk about it, don't let it go unanswered or forgive them so easily. Sooner or later they will regret it if not than screw them dude. Their loss.

[RockRose]

due.  I'm not quite clear on what he's doing.

Are these webcams of girls he knows or somehow has contact with,  or are these webcams posted on YouTube by complete strangers that he doesn't communicate with?  So really not different from watching porn videos you can download and watch and have no idea who the participants are?

[due22jan15]

He has broken my heart so many times and I keep on letting him do that to me im so stupid but as from tomorrow morning he said hes going so I hope he does this time anx I wont be letting him back in again but im so scared of being by my self with soon will be 4 kids

[wyattsmom2015]

Forget the fact that he can not be completely faithful or forget him. Those are your only options.

[feistyone89]

This really breaks my heart and spirit. Last night I too went to charge my boyfriends phone and the screen came on when I plugged it in, he was watching porn, which I kinda expected OK fine, your a guy and I work all day so I'm not that surprised. But its killing me because I found out he has made a separate instagram account following nothing but girls, naked girls, couples posting pictures having sex, AND he follows people I know on his IG he doesn't even know them but follows them, comments on their pics and likes EVERY pic they post. Its just so weird cause all the trust problems we have had and gotten through yet he still chooses to be this way. We have been together 8 years  too:(( I slept on the couch cried myself to sleep just heart broken. 6 months pregnant feel so ugly and unwanted. Men suck! This morning he said he's sorry and embarrassed but this happens time & time again so idk. I have come to realize I'm on my own more than I think. He is there for me, says he loves me and does show he cares, but honestly its not enough, if I feel so alone than no its not enough. We have to be strong and not let them see our weaknesses, crying or broken heart. Its not about revenge either, its about standing on your own two feet, doing what you can to succeed and be happy in your life for you AND baby. If they want to be this way fine that's who they are, don't let them break you and don't let them feel stupid cause that's just who they are, we have to accept it one day. Its sad and I'm still in shock but life goes on.

[due22jan15]

Sorry stupid phone

[due22jan15]

Im not sure if it has been getting worse ive tried to forget about it and start trusting him again he ssid he wasnt going t Ok do it but now hes going on chat sites is tgat what talk app is im not sure and I said that he was available I just asked him about it snd hes said I dont know what your talkung sbout so I dhowed him and he mad a big fuss about it saying thsts just my email address and I ts probley l9oking for work but im sure its not he kept on making excuse about it as for the porn thing I dont thinkhe will ever stop im just worried now bringing up 4 kids one on the way and ones not his  j u st cant think right now

[JaeMama]

He's not going to change. Sounds like a porn addiction. Often times men who get too far into this action can't actually be with real women. Has this behavior gotten worse? Do you want to live like this the rest of your life? This is hard you have 3 little ones. I'm pregnant with my second and my husband is leaving me because he wants to date other people. Haha we've been together 8 years married for 7. At the end of the day it's almost a good thing because when I think about it we weren't to make it anyway. He refused to change and I couldn't live with his mine-field temper forever. I was quickly losing my patience with it. Right now we're still together but soon we won't be and I'm 12+3. I understand the fear. Being a single mother was never part of my plan but it's part of my reality now. Is this the behavior you want to sound your life just accepting? If not you need to do done thinking about your future or lack thereof with him.

[Brooklynnmommy]

My boyfriend also thinks its ohk to get on Twitter &d Facebook think I dont get on Twitter &d he also looks at porn website on his phone, I dont really to much care about the porn because after he wants to have sex, its the twitter thing im worried about.

[due22jan15]

Ive been with him for 8 years and will have 3 kids with him soon and its been like this for so long ive woken up through the night catching him in the act

[JaeMama]

Well, going through his phone is an invasion of privacy and shows how little your trust him. However, since it is done there's nothing to do but decide what to do with this information. I would tell him that you need to be certain where you stand with him. With this baby coming this isn't a time for his immature crap. He needs to really think about it and decide if he wants to make this work and be a family. Because now is the time to tell you when you can prepare emotionally and financially to care for this baby without him. If he really loves you then you should be enough and he should be ready to step up and be there for you. Tell him adjusting to this baby will be hard but if you guys can stick together as one unit you can adjust seamlessly and be a happy couple and happy parents. Good luck. I hope I didn't upset you with what I said about privacy but if you think about it rationally, I think you'll agree with me. His behavior has obviously planned a seed of doubt in your head about him. With this child coming you can't have any doubt about the man you're raising your child with. Trust is fundamental. Good luck.

[due22jan15]

I meant hes on youtube lookibg up " girls on webcam" as a title I dont know what to do

[due22jan15]

Sorry im such a mess even my writing is s***!!!!!