problems with my mom

[dyingangel246]

So I told my mom I was pregnant yesterday and she's already trying to take over. I was texting her and she started asking if 'we' know what 'we're' going to name the baby. Not one mention of my fiance'. How do I get her to stop hijacking my pregnancy?

[hannah_louise10]

Oh my mother was the exact same with my first,  I was 18 and living at home, she convinced me that my daughter was not getting enough milk (because I was breastfeeding) and so persuaded me to stop, told me the name I had chosen was awful and just tried to control the whole thing it was so bad I had to move out!! And I told her that she a as a grandparent not a parent, and that she didnt habe a right to control everything.

[MomOfKjKupkakeAndHunnibunn]

Reply back with " Me and My FIANCE is naming Our baby ...."

[bigmamapagaza]

Just be honest and stand up for yourself.  I know it  may be the moment of truth but if you dont now it will get much worse and you'll feel miserable.  I've been through it. Good luck hun.

[HannahJohnson]

She loves you a lot. She wants to be included in the most beautiful moment of your life. My mom has seen my daughter now 1 like 3 times. I know its annoying but she wont be around forever.

[wingsfrompye]

:-( good luck. At least your mom's excited. I was waiting to tell mine in person (she lives out of state) but ended up having to cancel my scheduled visit to see her because I had a miscarriage, so I told her that over the phone, and she came damn close to saying that maybe the miscarriage was for the best.  My hubby and I are not pleased with her.  I'm her only child, 30 years old and I've been married for 4 years!  It's not like I'm in an unstable place, or really young.  
I hope both our moms come around.  

[dyingangel246]

Thanks everyone, yes this is her first grand baby and I understand her excitement since this will be my first baby. When I spoke with her I was telling her that my fiance and I would discuss names and other important details when the time comes and that the two of us would make a decision together and it was like she still didn't get it. My mom and I aren't on the best of terms right now because my parents are going through a divorce and I'm stuck in the middle. If I can't get her to back off I'm worried our relationship will be damaged permanently.

[abbb01]

I would start everytime she starts saying we I would politely interrupt saying the father &I are discussing it when we decide the father & I will let u know. And if she gets pissy or pushy about things then I would have a sit down with her and let her know that u want her involved in babies life but u are the mother and will be making decisions for baby. Prepare urself it can get way worse after its born my mom everytime she saw some green tinge in my sons poo "he's got an infection he needs meds right away" or he sneezed "hes got allergies he needs allergy testing hes miserable" gmas seem to think because they've did it yrs ago they have the responsibility and the right to take over.

[KieaRai]

I had to kick my mom out of my house and refuse to tell her anything. But she was throwing out all my food and trying to force me in to buying things I didn't want or need and trying to make me pick names I didn't like. Even told me my baby would suffer without her bc I'm an idiot. I'm 25 and raised all the kids she popped out. So kicking her out was my only option. You need to tell her it's your baby not hers and that what you don't know you will learn or find out for yourself. Set some ground rules. If you don't she'll run all over you til you snap. You want to set ground rules while you're still on good terms or it'll get nasty.

[brit333]

She might just be super excited. Is this her first grand child?? If she keeps it up just tell her that we (meaning me and my fiance) are...... Fill in the blank. I was meaning for that to be like you are saying it lol.... Make sure to always include him and hopefully she will get the clue but I'm sure it is just she is excited...

[jenjen08]

just let her know the way you feel and let her know that she is grandma.. And that you and your fiancé are the ones that are gong to decide everything and hopefully she can understand that