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sex after birth
My bf wants to have sex within the 40day of giving birth to our son cause he wants me to get prego fast for another baby. I don't mind but I know were supposed to wait..any thoughts..
i thought you were supposed to wait 6 weeks.
it is really hard on your body having kids that close together too. also, another pregnancy can cause your breast milk to dry up. you should really wait 6 months before getting pregnant again
it is really hard on your body having kids that close together too. also, another pregnancy can cause your breast milk to dry up. you should really wait 6 months before getting pregnant again
You should do it when you feel ready. Talk to your doctor.
Most doctors recommend over a year for your body to recover before you get pregnant again, so two years apart should be the earliest. Regardless, you should wait until after your six week check-up before you have sex at all. Definitely check with your doctor first.
You will have an open wound inside you honey. Best to wait the six weeks. Give your hormones a chance to settle. Be intimate.as a family through bonding cuddles. I only waited.four weeks and resented him a.little for pushing me into it. Your.body needs a rest. I am due on the 27th of July and my.youngest is 17 months. I got.pregnant within a year and honestly it.is so draining. My body's reserves were still low and my.pelvis not fully back to normal. I hurt. Enjoy some special time with your baby as an only child.for a little. I feel sad that I haven't really focused on this pregnancy as so busy with my others. Also feel so guilty that my.tiredness and pain stops me enjoying time with them. Wait a little. Xx
Im having a hard time having sex now that im pregnant I don't even want to think how it will feel after just having a baby..for real men should get pregnant too to know the pain a woman goes tru..
Yes to be honest U should wait a litle, first for ur body to heal propaly. Getting pregnant again so fast will actually do more harm then better. To much pressure on ur body, ur bones are still soft. Ur pelvic has to go back. And not only that. U will be tired the first month..with sleep energy etc. And putting ur son trew another pregg symptoms, u will just have giving birth. Ur son also has rights upound U guys. He needs the attantion the first year. My girl will be 2 year old when I give birth and am strssing about making her stop nappies befor baby comes, I have to make her sleep by her self in her owm room when we move and more. And I feel bad sometimes that I cant play with her or bee activ with her(shes a activ child), but at the same time I am very happy getting another one and they will be close so they will play with eachother. But 2 years apart is perfect for ur first and second child I think.
Having another baby closesly will not dry up your milk thats a myth your milk returns to colostrum at 4-5 months pregnant.
Having a second baby within 18*24 months of the first baby greatly increases the risk of preform birth and other complications. Allow your body to heal, allow your first baby to have you all to himself for a while. Enjoy your little family and get used to the routine before making it harder on everyone by adding another right away! Your first baby needs you. And yes it is possible to breastfeed a young child through a pregnancy and then tandem nurse the siblings together - but it is NOT easy.
Why would you , you wont be able to enjoy your first baby be smart and you decide its not like your bf is gunq be the one suffering its guna be hard. Hope you thibk about it your guna make ur oldest grow up faster because you have to pay attention to the new baby. Not fair. But at the end its on you. Youll be one to take care of them.
I am due in a couple days. I got pregnant withthis baby when my son was only like six or seven months old, and my body is soo depleted.I can't even imagine getting pregnant within a few weeks of giving birth. Even if you feel great after having this baby, it takes a huge toll on you getting pregnant again right away.
I want all my babies close together but no earlier than 6 months from birth to conception. As others have said pregnancy is very hard on ur body in the 1st 6 weeks u can give urself a nasty infection from open wounds INSIDE (its not just from tearing or being cut) and greatly increases risk for birth defects and preterm labor having babies too close together. 6months MINIMUM is what my doc advised me 1yr is better. Explain all the risks to ur bf or have the doc do it so he understands
I agree with shortanddumpy1. I fell pregnant with this one when my first baby was only 10mths and its tougher then I imagined. I've had terrible morning sickness and I feel so guilty with my head down the toilet while he's tugging at my clothes to go play, or my husband having to do everything at night because I'm exhausted and in bed by 8pm. We really wanted them close together and planned this but you need to be prepared for it. Also, the first 6wks with a newborn are the hardest. You may not feel up to sex, and just need to give each other time to ease into your new roles of mum and dad.. As well as the risk of infection during that healing time. Lots to consider, I'd wait until the babies born before commiting to any family plans.
Terrible idea! That causes miscarriages because your body is not ready to be pregnant again. The longer u wait the better
No not true it does not give preterm labor discuss with ur obgyn first but I hv had friends and sister get pregnant right after giving birth and there babys are fine.. everyone is different ..depends on ur age and health but definitely can happen after the 40 days.. gd luck
Damn girl your brave my lil girl is 10wks nearly and i have a 4yr old and i find that hard just spending the time i need to with him, one baby is hard enough, but goodon you havin the gonads i wanted my 2 close together but tbh im glad i waited but again good luck hope it works forcyou xx
I say it is between you and your BF... People will all have an opinion and few will agree with you. There are just as many cases where it has worked out fine and mom and babies have been healthy getting pregnant right after birth of another baby as there are problems. It doesn't increase the odds of miscarriage or preterm labor, those things happen for other reasons that no one has control over. And as said before, it will not decrease your milk supply if you choose to breastfeed. If that's what you do you will not know any different and it will be great for you!! Not for everyone, but for you and that's all that matters. If you have stitches, you should wait for then to heal so you don't get them infected, my Dr always says that takes about 4 weeks. Good luck with your decision momma... I wish you the very best!!
My first 2 babies are only 10 months apart. My dr told me after my first that I could have sex as soon as I felt I was ready.. I went to my 6week postpartum appointment and found out I was pregnant again. My body is fine I had very healthy pregnancies and my kids are best friends! There is 14 months between # 2&3 and im having my 4th child on friday there will be 19 months between this one and the 3rd. I have 1yr old, a 2yr old ,and a 3yr old and I'll have a newborn. My point is its up to you! I wanted my kids close so they could all grow up together and it really is amazing.
@ shortanddumpy1, we are due on the same day.
Thanks,me and him have been talking a lot about it I have a 3yr old and I'm due July 31st.this is his first and my second.we have sex regularly and I have no problems or pain right now.but he always assures me if I do have any pain discomfort to let him know but I enjoy it so I'm fine.
I won't have sex if I have stitches if I will wait at least 4weeks and know most of you were against my whole post and some with my post but it all comes down to me and if we as a family can handle it.I'm pretty sure I'm aware that its going to be hard for a bit but I know just having one child is hard..
I won't have sex if I have stitches if I will wait at least 4weeks and know most of you were against my whole post and some with my post but it all comes down to me and if we as a family can handle it.I'm pretty sure I'm aware that its going to be hard for a bit but I know just having one child is hard..
From the Mayo Clinic website:
Research suggests that a pregnancy within 12 months of giving birth is associated with an increased risk of:
The placenta partially or completely peeling away from the inner wall of the uterus before delivery (placental abruption)
The placenta attaching to the lower part of the uterine wall, partially or totally covering the cervix (placenta previa), in women who had a first birth by C-section
Autism in second-born children
Research also suggests an increased risk of uterine rupture in women who attempt vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC) less than 18 months after a previous delivery.
In addition, a pregnancy within 18 months of giving birth is associated with an increased risk of:
Low birth weight
Small size for gestational age
Preterm birth
Some experts believe that closely spaced pregnancies don't give a mother enough time to recover from the physical stress of one pregnancy before moving on to the next. For example, pregnancy and breast-feeding can deplete your stores of essential nutrients, such as iron and folate. If you become pregnant before replacing those stores, it could affect your health or your baby's health. Inflammation of the genital tract that develops during pregnancy and doesn't completely heal before the next pregnancy could also play a role.
Research suggests that a pregnancy within 12 months of giving birth is associated with an increased risk of:
The placenta partially or completely peeling away from the inner wall of the uterus before delivery (placental abruption)
The placenta attaching to the lower part of the uterine wall, partially or totally covering the cervix (placenta previa), in women who had a first birth by C-section
Autism in second-born children
Research also suggests an increased risk of uterine rupture in women who attempt vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC) less than 18 months after a previous delivery.
In addition, a pregnancy within 18 months of giving birth is associated with an increased risk of:
Low birth weight
Small size for gestational age
Preterm birth
Some experts believe that closely spaced pregnancies don't give a mother enough time to recover from the physical stress of one pregnancy before moving on to the next. For example, pregnancy and breast-feeding can deplete your stores of essential nutrients, such as iron and folate. If you become pregnant before replacing those stores, it could affect your health or your baby's health. Inflammation of the genital tract that develops during pregnancy and doesn't completely heal before the next pregnancy could also play a role.
back to back pregnancies was one reason women used to die during childbirth/pregnancy with such frequency
I didn't wait w my first to have sex I think it was like 2 wks. But we didn't much until after 6 wks. I say go for it if that's what you guys wants. I want my kids close to I started trying when my 14 month old was 4 months and it took almost 8 months. Everyone will Give you your opinion but do what you want to do. :-)
It won't make your baby grow up any faster either thats bs . any good mom can handle two babies and give each of them the attention and love they deserve. You'll be fine :-)
My exs. Grandma had 15 kids everyone she got pregnant while breastfeeding within 6 months apart. prenatal care for woman has came along way over the years so no I doubt you'll die from it. Anyone can die from childbirth at any point so I don't think k back to back has any reason ing. Just my thoughts though
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