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trying again after 17wk loss
Well, long story short here ladies:
background info ; 1 living daughter who is almost 5yrs (first pregnancy, NO issues ended in c section), one 8wk 'missed' miscarriage that I had a D & C for, and a 5wk one I let myself do naturally)
I found out I was pregnant on June 14th - 5 wks.
Everything was progressing fine. 5wk u/s looked good, but sent us for another one at 8wks because I wasn't entirely sure when my last period was. (I had stopped taking my pill to have my period, started it again for a week then we decided to stop using it, therefore - ending in me spotting/having another period).
Dating of the 8wk u/s was fine. Another u/s at 14wks, baby moving around - everything looked perfect.
16wk check up (Sept 5/14) she went to use the Doppler, all we heard was static. She asked me if I felt the baby move prior, and I had told her I actually hadn't felt him the previous day and that I expressed my concern to the Boyfriend and he said I was worrying. ANYWAYS, my heart was racing, and she left to get me a form to be seen immediately in the U/S dept. When she left I kept poking at my belly, telling the baby to move or kick, or something. And I remember going down the elevator. alone, as it was just supposed to be a routine check up. And reading the paper.... I started bawling... "Check for viability". Anyone who has had a miscarriage - regardless of what week you're in, knows that feeling I'm talking about.
The U/S tech said nothing the entire time. Sent me back to my Dr. and she comes in and smiles and says "did the tech tell you anything?" *my heart stops racing. she's smiling. This has to be good? right?!* I answer "no, she didn't", she replies "yeahh, there's not heartbeat anymore, I'm so sorry"
*insert worlds most dramatic emotional breakdown you've ever seen and multiply it by ten, that's what happens when someone tells you that your baby who's still inside you, that's supposed to be safe from everything, is dead*
I drove home, in a daze, by myself. And went to my boyfriend and just cried. We talked about the options the Dr. gave me. D & C, naturally (waiting it out), or being induced and giving birth.
We opted to be induced so as to not wait around and start healing ASAP, both physically and emotionally.
Sept 12th 2:18am I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy we named Levi. He only measured about 14.5wks. And aside from fitting in the palms of my hands, he was absolutely perfect in every way.
I'm still emotional - obviously.
I fit into my jeans again, which is every pregnant womans DREAM after having a child. But not mine. I'm angry I fit in them again. I'm angry I started my period already (on oct. 13). But in a way happy. That meant we can try again after this cycle, right? Wrong.
I'm angry my Dr. has said my OB/GYN might tell me to wait 3 months or more to try again. It was HELL even waiting the mere 28days to start my period again and now they want us to wait 3 months or MORE?!
So, now that you've read my entire life story for the last month. I want to know what you ladies would do (who have BEEN through this), I don't want anyone's opinion if they haven't endured a loss such as this because you have NO idea.
Would you wait? What if it takes me 3 months to conceive? Me and boyfriend talked and we're not opposed to going against Dr.'s orders. Are there any hopeful stories out there regarding this kind of thing? 2nd trimester loss and getting pregnant with success immediately after?
I'm READY for a baby. No one can take away my sweet boy, I know that. I'm NOT ready for another loss, although at this point, it almost seems inevitable.
Ps - We get pathology results back Monday and I see my OB/GYN then.
background info ; 1 living daughter who is almost 5yrs (first pregnancy, NO issues ended in c section), one 8wk 'missed' miscarriage that I had a D & C for, and a 5wk one I let myself do naturally)
I found out I was pregnant on June 14th - 5 wks.
Everything was progressing fine. 5wk u/s looked good, but sent us for another one at 8wks because I wasn't entirely sure when my last period was. (I had stopped taking my pill to have my period, started it again for a week then we decided to stop using it, therefore - ending in me spotting/having another period).
Dating of the 8wk u/s was fine. Another u/s at 14wks, baby moving around - everything looked perfect.
16wk check up (Sept 5/14) she went to use the Doppler, all we heard was static. She asked me if I felt the baby move prior, and I had told her I actually hadn't felt him the previous day and that I expressed my concern to the Boyfriend and he said I was worrying. ANYWAYS, my heart was racing, and she left to get me a form to be seen immediately in the U/S dept. When she left I kept poking at my belly, telling the baby to move or kick, or something. And I remember going down the elevator. alone, as it was just supposed to be a routine check up. And reading the paper.... I started bawling... "Check for viability". Anyone who has had a miscarriage - regardless of what week you're in, knows that feeling I'm talking about.
The U/S tech said nothing the entire time. Sent me back to my Dr. and she comes in and smiles and says "did the tech tell you anything?" *my heart stops racing. she's smiling. This has to be good? right?!* I answer "no, she didn't", she replies "yeahh, there's not heartbeat anymore, I'm so sorry"
*insert worlds most dramatic emotional breakdown you've ever seen and multiply it by ten, that's what happens when someone tells you that your baby who's still inside you, that's supposed to be safe from everything, is dead*
I drove home, in a daze, by myself. And went to my boyfriend and just cried. We talked about the options the Dr. gave me. D & C, naturally (waiting it out), or being induced and giving birth.
We opted to be induced so as to not wait around and start healing ASAP, both physically and emotionally.
Sept 12th 2:18am I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy we named Levi. He only measured about 14.5wks. And aside from fitting in the palms of my hands, he was absolutely perfect in every way.
I'm still emotional - obviously.
I fit into my jeans again, which is every pregnant womans DREAM after having a child. But not mine. I'm angry I fit in them again. I'm angry I started my period already (on oct. 13). But in a way happy. That meant we can try again after this cycle, right? Wrong.
I'm angry my Dr. has said my OB/GYN might tell me to wait 3 months or more to try again. It was HELL even waiting the mere 28days to start my period again and now they want us to wait 3 months or MORE?!
So, now that you've read my entire life story for the last month. I want to know what you ladies would do (who have BEEN through this), I don't want anyone's opinion if they haven't endured a loss such as this because you have NO idea.
Would you wait? What if it takes me 3 months to conceive? Me and boyfriend talked and we're not opposed to going against Dr.'s orders. Are there any hopeful stories out there regarding this kind of thing? 2nd trimester loss and getting pregnant with success immediately after?
I'm READY for a baby. No one can take away my sweet boy, I know that. I'm NOT ready for another loss, although at this point, it almost seems inevitable.
Ps - We get pathology results back Monday and I see my OB/GYN then.
At 17 wks I gave birth to a stillborn boy back in 2007, last November at 7wks, this year I miss carried in Feb at 6 weeks, June at 9wks and I'm currently 13 wks and 6 days pregnant. It hurts like Hell to go through this,but all I can say is let go and let God. I've been holding my breath and continue to do so, but I have faith that I lost those little angels for a reason and I won't lose this one. Let nature take care of it. If you stress about trying it'll take longer.
update:
Dr. Appt went well yesterday - she said to at least wait one more period before trying again because this one was so soon, she isn't sure if it was an actual 'cycle' or not. test results came back, no abnormalities from Levi, perfectly healthy baby. Said some babies just aren't made for developing past a certain time, or outside out bodies :(
Dr. Appt went well yesterday - she said to at least wait one more period before trying again because this one was so soon, she isn't sure if it was an actual 'cycle' or not. test results came back, no abnormalities from Levi, perfectly healthy baby. Said some babies just aren't made for developing past a certain time, or outside out bodies :(
thank you for your replies and condolences ladies.
I'm so sorry that any of you have had to endure this journey.
It just feels like it's been so long already, when it's only been 5wks since I gave birth to him.
The days get easier but time just seems to be dragging on :(
I'm so sorry that any of you have had to endure this journey.
It just feels like it's been so long already, when it's only been 5wks since I gave birth to him.
The days get easier but time just seems to be dragging on :(
First let me start by saying I'm truly sorry for wat ur going through. I miscarried before and its a shock, becuz I didn't even know I was having a miscarrige, I thought it was a veryyyy longgg period. Clearly I didn't know I was pregnant. My experience was pure hell becus the er doctor told me that the OR was completely booked and they couldn't get me in to do a D&C. Instead she give me these pills and said in a few days everything will come out natually. I woke up one morning and there was blood everywhere, thick clots, even the sac. It was the worst experience. I sat on the toilet and it wouldn't stop coming. I thought I was going to bleed to death. Anyway, my point is this happened because a few months prior I lost a baby and didnt want to wait, the feeling to have a baby was just too strong. My bf and I decided not to wait the 3 months. Wen I got pregnant my body havent fully recover, therefore my body couldn't sustain another pregnancy so soon and thats why that happened. At least thats wat my dr said. I say wait bcuz to go through another lost bcuz ur body is not ready is not worth the emotional pain. Best of luck
I say just wait now that you have your period and try once your cervix is closed since that can make a miscarriage happen and stay positive id say pray and have faith but don't know what your beliefs are
AH! Yes, DJ. I totally forgot about that aspect! :(
I took a pregnancy test 2 weeks after the surgery and it said negative. I was more concerned with my levels getting to zero :(
I took a pregnancy test 2 weeks after the surgery and it said negative. I was more concerned with my levels getting to zero :(
So sorry for your loss hun I lnow its hard.waiting but your body.needs.time.to get back to.normal since you.gave birth Id.say wait 6 weeks because thats when everything is good.again.and.thats when the.cervix should be closed
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