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so I need some opinions it would help allot. I am 35 weeks today so by little girl will be here any day. Her bio dad is not in the picture but I have been with someone since me and him split up so for about 7 months and have known him for a few years. He is wanting to give her his last name, an I am okay with that but at the same time kinda undecided. It has been kinda rocky with us, defiantly because of the pregnancy emotions. Other then that I love him to death an plan on having him in her life from day one until the end an one day soon marrying the poor guy lol. He also is very excited (sometimes I wonder if he is more then me) an always tells people my baby girl is due in August (remind you again not the bio dad)  an I can't wait for her to be here.... I just need some opinions ladies and guidance with this one. Thank you all
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I would give her your last name and don't let him sign a acknowledgement of paternity. If you all get married later then he can adopt her.
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I would wait too. Start with giving her your last name. Right now you have your hormones flying around, then there will be a little baby changing your life and relationship, ... There are a lot of big changes coming, and you can't predict how it will effect your relationship. Besides that, your new partner still has to prove himself as a father, and he can only when the baby is born. He has shown the wish to be the girl's father which is very valuable (and far more meaningful than a sperm donor), and tells me he seems a guy to keep, but sofar it is just words. Let him be a father to her first, before makng it official by giving her his name, have him adopt her legally, and give him the same rights and duties a biological parent gets. Because if he delivers on his promise to be her father, keep in mind he will love and care for her as much you do, he will deserve some assurances.
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I'd give ur baby her father's last name. Even tho he's not in the picture he & his family are still her blood. If that's not an option I'd give her your last name. 7 months isn't long at all. Good luck with ur decision.
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I also agree with the others.  give the baby your last name cause you never know what can happen & if years go by, change her name. would you rather use both names & have to remove one if something bad happens or be happy about changing it to his when the time is right
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what about using both names?? Just a thought I have had suggested to me
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Yes I agree with the other two posts. It won't hurt to give your last name and in the future down the road if things go good-change it. Just feel that's definently the safe way to go.
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I agree. You'd be pretty insane to give her his last name right off the bat. If things will really work out in the long run there is no rush and you can change hers when you get married and he can legally adopt her. He might be hurt by this but you gotta watch out for you and your baby. Better to have a fight over it now then be screaming and crying later if you break up and your daughter has his last name when he doesn't actually have legal rights to her.
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You should give the baby your last name. If you two get married in the future you can always change both you and your baby's last name.
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