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Lost a twin

We didn't know we were expecting twins until the u/ s yesterday. One baby, 10 weeks, we were told was ok. The other died at 7 weeks and 6 days. Very shocked and very sad.
Now, I am really concerned about the remaining one. Does anyone have experience of this? Will the other be okay with the one who didn't make it still in there?
It has really taken the excitement out of seeing our little one for the first time I feel bad for admitting.
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I think when one of the twins remains inside there is no problem! Every pregnancy is different and unfortunately For it didn't work! Last year I had twins, lost one of them at 6weeks, he came out, lost lot of blood, the doctor told it could affect the second one but it didn't and at 5months! According to the doctors it was due to an incompetent cervix but they also think that the loss of the first has led to the shortening and opening of my cervix  at 14weeks which caused a preterm labor and I had to deliver my baby boy at 20weeks, he died after 15minutes!it was a real drama for us and really painful!
Stay positive every pregnancy is different and I heard lot of stories about women who carried the second one full term!
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Thanks for being so supportive and sharing your experiences. so sorry for your losses though. Have a scan in two weeks and just trying not to worry. It's nature's choice and there seems to be no added reason to worry - my midwife mirrored what you guys had said and told be there should be no reason why it causes complications for the survivor.
Wishing healthy bumps to you all!
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That happened to me with my second pregnancy. Baby come out by itself. I was supper scared because I thought it was only one baby in their and I had never had a miscarriage. I didnt tell My doctor at the appointment because I was still having morning sickness . When she went to find the heart beat she was having a hard time. In my head I new their wasnt a baby in their when BOOM a heart beat to my relief!
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I'm 12 weeks 5 days and also lost a twin around 7 weeks. It was sad because I saw it at 6 weeks with a heartbeat, but it lost it. The other is very healthy and my doctor assured me that it shouldn't affect it. If there are any problems, it's not related. It's fairly common. My other twin was there still at 12 weeks and she said it should absorb on its own soon. I know how you feel, but just remember that it's in God's hands.
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I'm very sorry for your loss. A friend of mine had lost a twin early on and she just had her baby girl last month, no issues at all. There shouldn't be any problem as far as the other baby goes
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