shower drama..help!

[lray103]

How can I nicely tell my family that I want them to change my shower? From the beginning I have asked them 2 things, don't try to surprise me and I want it at my house. I found out today that invite states that it is a surprise and its not at my house. I had the same issue with my bridal shower. Although it was nice, it was not what I wanted and I find myself in the same dilemma but now I am pissed. I'm not a fan of restaurant showers because the guests just sit there for 4 hours and you barely interact with them. Also, I am going to be very pregnant and want to be comfortable in my own home. Not to mention that its about a quarter of the price to have it at my house than it would be to pay $20/person at a restaurant. Is there anyway out of this?

[mommy4ever1999]

I say be happy that they want to throw you a baby shower! Many women don't even get one. Like you said it is only for a couple of hours. You can cope with that. Don't worry about the cost. You won't be paying for it!

[Liske]

Talk to them and try see if they can change it. If you explain your reasons like you did here, they should be willing to change it.