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525485 tn?1314361301

Another Baby?? You probably think I am crazy!

Well girls....I will lay it all out! Yes, I want another baby already!! I have always wanted two kids....as well as having them very close in age so that they can be close......
I have discussed things with DH and he wanted to wait 2-3 years.....and yet..he doesnt want me on birth control...so...

Anyways, last night he didnt seem to "not want" to ......because well....we had sex with no protectoin whatsoever...(normally he pulls out, which isnt the best method)...and, it happened to be in the middle of my cycle. (i think.....my cycle was weird this month...dont know when I should count it starting..when I spotted, or when it came on full force!).

So girls.....maybe in a couple of weeks I will be saying I got a BFP! Who knows...
DH thinks that since it took us 3 years to get Sarah..its going to take us just as long..we will see!!
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489000 tn?1364302227
Me,too!  I want another baby as soon as possible!  However, due to my c-section, Im going to wait the recommended year before ttc or somewhere around that.  I don't want to risk any complications of the placenta attaching to my scar or others complications that could arise from getting pg too soon after a c-section.  Plus,  I want a good shot at trying for a VBAC.  (my c-section was planned and not an emergency; and the further you are away from your orginal c-section and giving birth, the better chance for a VBAC. This is what my midwife told me.)

I have had friends that got pg soon after their c-sections and all went well for them but for me, I just want to wait a bit.

Good luck to all on getting your next baby! :)
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404232 tn?1253965956
Although my life is totally crazy right now with three children under the age of three I still can't totally shut out the possibility of more - well maybe just one more hopefully a little girl. Hubby says we are done totally but I guess I will believe him when he signs up for the vasectomy =-). I love my boys with all my heart but I would really love to give hubby a daddy's girl...I guess only time will tell but I know for a fact there is going to be a definate age gap after the twins.
I would totally be a surrogate but only for my sister, she has two girls and is pretty sure they are done having babies as with her factor five liden pregnancy is very dangerous for her not to mention her numerous heartbreaking miscarriages!! Kudos leighanne!!
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525485 tn?1314361301
Glad Im not the only one wanting babies now! lol.....

whats with the men wanting to wait?? most women do all the work anyways..lol
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518733 tn?1333017015
i sorta want another one now i loved beig pregnant and do want lots of babys hubby wants to wait 4-5 years though :(
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525485 tn?1314361301
Reading everyone's posts makes me glad to know such wonderful people! Its amazing how many people are out there in the world like you ladies..and if it wasnt for this website....we would never have had eachother for support!

I hope all of your babies are well....I think Sarah has a cold....poor baby..!
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342988 tn?1299782356
gina.  if you join the community, which now i can not find that button, but if you do it will show up on your home page so you can just click it right from there.

gina me and you think a lot a like.  so funny cause i think both our boys were born 2/10, there names are so similar also.  but yes, i totally could could carry a baby for a person close to my heart.
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341551 tn?1266980730
Leighanne-I too would carry a child for someone very close to my heart. My siblings or one of my closest friends. After having 2 M/C's myself and now experiencing motherhood I know the true miracle and blessing of having a child and it breaks my heart to think that there are women/people out there that could not experience this on their own. So I would without a doubt carry a child for someone close to my heart. Of course most people carrying a child would get attached and feel a great bond with the baby but its an even greater gift to be able to give someone the gift of life! I would do it in a heartbeat!

P.S. How the heck do you all find this forum? I don't see it anywhere? I keep having to go back to the last time I posted on here to find it. Weren't we supposed to put Feb mommies in front of it so its easier to find?
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341551 tn?1266980730
I am totally content with just having one baby right now! Before I had him, I wanted all my children really close in age, but Caiden has been such a handful! We don't live super close to family & friends either so it's been tough. Hubby working, me thinking of going back to work soon...I don't know if I would be ready for #2 right now!

I agree though, I miss being pregnant! It's so weird, the last 2 weeks of my pregnancy I couldn't wait to just have him and see what my son looked like. Now that its over I miss it SO much. I miss my sleep the most! ha! But I know I'll be pregnant again...so I just try and remember that. I honestly dont know how people care for more than one child, especially when more than one are babies. I feel like I have my hands full with just one, I can't imagine!

BUT I know myself...and as soon as Caiden gets out of the "baby" stage...I will miss having a baby and want to get pregnant again and we prolly will! But were going to try and at least wait until Caidens 2! This way by the time we get pregnant and deliver he will be 3ish and out of the terrible 2's and he'll be more independant. I don't know if I could handle two babies at once! Maybe its just because Caiden hasn't been the easiest baby!! But I still love him to death!! :)
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342988 tn?1299782356
thank you ladies.  being able to give someone else the miracle of life is amazing.  but again i would only do it for limited people.  i can only think of 2 actually.

supersally- yeah 4 is a lot of children but i give a lot of credit to anyone who can do it.  i would need to be a stay at home mom to manage 4 of them.

lance- i am enjoying every second with my lil man.  he is the best gift in the world.  it is just amazing the love you can feel for someone else, its unimaginable.
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231441 tn?1333892766
Love your attitude.  I have a friend like that. I know she and her hubby would be fabulous parents, but they've not been blessed (multiple IVF attempts now with no success)...

I too would love to carry a baby for her.... but we're not in the same country....
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231441 tn?1333892766
Hi Lance,

you know I am the same and want another one as soon as possible.  However, I don't mind waiting a few months before going through the pregnancy thing again.....  Anyway I'm exclusively breastfeeding so I should get at least 6 months - but won't use protection, so if it happens it happens.

Was out with baby's father yesterday.  People were asking if I wanted another.  He piped up.  Yes, 3 boys (to give a total of 4).  I'm like, whatever!!! Everyone was just laughing at his enthusiasm.  I definitely want one more (besides I've only got 2 hands so reckon 2 kids is ideal), but 3 more????  I told him we better get twins next time 'cause I don't want to go through pregnancy too many times (particularly I am nearly 40!).
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525485 tn?1314361301
Your a good person for having that mindset!

Hope your enjoying mommyhood!
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342988 tn?1299782356
lance- i have one friend who i would do anything for and i could def carry a baby ffor her.  after having my 2 mc's and seeing that having a baby is something i depseratly wanted, i would give that joy to her.  but yeah i am totally not ready for another one of my own and not sure if i want another one.  i probably will in the future but not yet.  
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501796 tn?1253328394
I have felt the sameway.I alrady want another one. I would like for my hubby to have a boy. We have talked about it and he said in a few years. Which means anywhere from 2-5 years. I would like to have one sooner like 2 years. But since I have minera I can wait till we are both ready. And plus i'm trying to get things started in a career for me. Gonna be any EMT. Dunno how I will handle the hours. Being away from my hubby and little girl for 24 hours on day then 48 hours. Since my family means the world to me. But since still on the young side I still got time to decide.
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525485 tn?1314361301
Wow leighanne..more power to you if you were able to be a surrogate if needed..me...def couldnt do it/....esp after carrying the baby for so long..I would have a majro attachment issue!
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342988 tn?1299782356
see i am totally content with just one although i miss having the belly and being pregnant, yes i miss being pregnant already.  i did not have a bad pregnancy, very smooth til the last few days and even then i did not know i had preclampsia, i felt fine.

i could see myself being a surrogate for a close friend if they could not carry a baby cause i loved being pregnant, i just dont want another now and not sure if i do in the future, only time will tell.
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487124 tn?1256654549
me iam not so sure i want another  one  but i have decided that  when i tried not to have any by having my tubes tied i had my lil miss ( whom i love dearly) so we are  going by the  if it  is meant that we have more then we have more.
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448723 tn?1301454958
Usually women fall pregnant faster the second time.. It is like your body has learnt what to do! I have been feeling the same way (want to start trying for number 4 now) but I want 18months between them so I am trying to distract myself and be patient!
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543966 tn?1234735968
Haha, my husband is the same way! Which is hard to believe, since he is a pretty hardcore man's man, a former marine, and was never the least bit interested in babies before little Annabelle came along! She wrapped him around her tiny little finger so fast.... I would love another right now, except for the fact that we live nowhere close to family...it's so hard to take her everywhere, I can't imagine having two. And it's scary with the economy too... but I know God would take care of us. My husband REALLY wants a son. I read a scientific study somewhere that women who ate a lot of breakfast cereal were more likely to have boys. Ha!
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