Very emotional

[Blessing11]

I'm almost 16 wks and I'm so emotional. Is anyone else feeling like this? I know I have so much going on right now but I really feel very alone. It seems like I cry everyday. My fiancé left and is ignoring me, my family wants me to snap out of it, and some of them are even choosing him over me when he's the one that gave up on a 6 yr relationship and baby.

[Blessing11]

It is definitely his family influencing him b/c he was excited then they started and he just walked away. I've tried talking to him, asking him to call me to talk or come by, but he refuses to answer. His family knows what they are doing and they could care less. They rather see him miserable w/ them than happy w/ me and his baby.

[Blessing11]

Thank you. Yes this is our first. And he was scared but then he was talking about shopping and names within a week then days after that he just took off.  I'm trying to hang in there but he's not giving me much hope. It's been two months since he's been gone. I've tried communicating and he shuts me out. I even tried talking the other night and he refused to even answer me. In my heart I feel like he is just struggling bc he has his family telling him so much negative about he has to choose who is more important but still he didnt have to go out partying and saying hes single :( He was the one that promised me we were forever and he was never leaving :(. I keep praying he comes around.

[KTowne]

Family can be a big influence on people, especially if they're not supportive, sounds to me like his family is what's pulling you two apart, you need to get him away from his family and their opinions and talk to him alone about everything and what they're doing to you guys!

[Blessing11]

That was exactly it! But it was her and his mom. They basically said pick who is more important. I've tried ignoring but this one they started I couldn't ignore, I cried my eyes out hearing the things they told him. He only tried contracting me this week bc his mom wants info on appts so I didn't response and he got mad yet he went 2 mths ignoring me. I'm just at a loss of what to do anymore. I get blamed for him giving up bc his family upset me, I get blamed for not communicating yet he doesn't :( I just really don't know what to do anymore bc I don't understand how he could be happy and talking about forever then right after his family starts he can just give up.

[KTowne]

I know that feeling my SIL likes to push along fights between my husband and I, just ignore them, focus on keeping you and the baby healthy, and happy, and he'll catch up!

[Blessing11]

Thanks. I'm trying to stay positive and hope he comes around. But it seems like his friends and family are supporting and encouraging him to give up :/

[KTowne]

I'm sorry! Sometimes it just takes time for someone to come around, give him his space, let him party and see how much he's missing out on, and how stupid he's being, sometimes that's all it takes!

[Blessing11]

Guess its not going to work out :( he made it clear he rather be single and party and act like a teenager than be w me and his unborn baby. I just don't see how someone can change so fast and go back on all the promises they made :(

[Blessing11]

Thank you. I appreciate it :)

[KTowne]

I can imagine, I hope everything works out for you hun, and a year from now you're going to be soo far from this place, you deserve to be happy!!

[Blessing11]

I'm trying to relax but seeing how he is acting is so hurtful. I don't know who he's becoming and it scares me because I can't help him. He's acting like someone I don't know. He went from ignoring everyone, to now still ignoring me but acting out like he's 17 again not like a person 30 +

[KTowne]

You are going through a lot just being pregnant, but going through relationship problems with a baby on the way makes it way worse. You have every right to be upset, just remember, whatever you feel the baby feels, so try to relax and think of your baby, you never know, babies bring people together, things will work out in the end, either way!