leaving baby...

[emmaftm]

My baby is now 20 weeks and ive still not left her, im finding it very difficult and panic if i think im going to have to be away from her! Due to this she is very much a mummies girl and wants to be with me constantly.... i dont mind this but other people do (something else that i dont mind lol).
Im breastfeeding and i feel that if i leave her and she wants milk she cant get it, then she will be upset, crying and i wont be there to comfort her! Ive tried giving her a bottle but she wont take to one. I dont mind not leaving her, infact its probably me that has the problem......... anyone else feel like this and how did u over come it??

[crstl11]

It's hard leaving ur first but it will get easier with time. I didn't breast feed but for like maybe 3 weeks and she stayed away a night at 8 wks my 2 I didn't breast feed but a week or so and pumped and she stayed with my sil just up tr road at 9 days old.

[emmaftm]

Your husband sounds just like my bf. When i found out i was pregnant i just had to bite the bullet n tell him. Im sorry if my previous comment sounded negative, it wasnt ment to be. Im just not very good at expressing what i mean lol i just read it n thought wow thats not nice :-(
I was so scared at telling my bf, i was crying and shaking. I really thought id end up a single mum even tho we had been together 12 years!
Perhaps u can go the docs together and get the doc to tell him? Xxx

[libbyz]

I no exactly how this happened I have been on BC but I went to the hospital two weeks a go cause I had a uti and the put me on antibiotics and BC and antibiotics don't mix. I am afraid that he is gonna blame me for this happening. We wanted more kids but I honestly don't no when we were gonna try again. I no that he is just afraid of everything which I do understand. I just like how he acts when he is stressed. And I also believe that things always work themselves out but he don't and its hard to talk to him.

[emmaftm]

Try bigging him up as you tell him, super sperm n all that. Were you using protection? If not then just say thats what happens. Make sure u have all the good points in ur head before telling him so that u can make it happy news.... i cried when i told my bf i was pregnant, i was so scared he would leave me because we werent in the best place financially and he had been talking how he wasnt sure if he wanted kids. He had a bit of a break down when she was first born because he suffers from depression but now hes amazing with her and neither of us would be without her x

[libbyz]

He does have good job. I just don't think it would ever happen me staying home. It would be awesome. Right I am really trying to figure how I'm gonna tell me if I am pregnant. The first time I cried  cause I thought he was gonna be mad when I was telling him. It wasn't a happy time at first and I don't want to do that again.

[emmaftm]

You should tell him to get a better job then you could stay at home with the babies and he wouldnt have to watch them :-) men are arses when there in moods. Ive told my fella hes got to get a descent job when he finishes his uni course next month because im not going back to work at all lol x

[libbyz]

Yea abortion is not and option for us. It just sticks cause I took to tests today at work and I come home to a pissed off husband. He was mad cause he isn't able to get his stuff done on the weekends that I have to work cause he has to watch Samantha. Well then he goes on to say that we can't have anymore kids till I find a job that I dont have to work weekends. So obviously after him saying all that I am really afraid to tell him I might be pregnant again.

[libbyz]

Yea abortion is not and option for us. It just sticks cause I took to tests today at work and I come home to a pissed off husband. He was mad cause he isn't able to get his stuff done on the weekends that I have to work cause he has to watch Samantha. Well then he goes on to say that we can't have anymore kids till I find a job that I dont have to work weekends. So obviously after him saying all that I am really afraid to tell him I might be pregnant again.

[emmaftm]

I havent done a test yet.... ive been having some spotting which is something i normally dont get when on the depo! I know my bf would freak too if i was preg again, we cant afford things as we are!! Things would work themselves out tho. We wouldnt have a choice! I had a termination 7 years ago because of cercumstances (same bf as now) and it was the worst thing i ever did so we would definatly be having another if i was lol xx

[libbyz]

Well I just realized that I'm so post to start my period tomorrow and I am having like no signs of it. So I took a test today and it was very faint positive. So I'm gonna take another test tomorrow. If I'm pregnant again my husband will freak out and I honestly don't no how I'm gonna tell.

[emmaftm]

A lottery win would be amazing lol

[libbyz]

If I had a choice I wouldn't have gone back. I need to will the lottery or something so that can happen lol

[emmaftm]

I think i would of had a break down if i had to go back work at 7 weeks :-S thank god i get 9 months maternity pay!! Tho to be honest i dont think ill be going to work then either lol

[libbyz]

Yea I felt like that when I went back to work when she was 7 weeks. I was also bf and it was very hard. I also ways made sure she had more then enough breast milk and then also formula as back up( which she never needed lol). But I was so busy at work that I honesty didn't even have time to think about her which is sad. But she was also at the daycare that is located in the same building that I work it. I would just try to leave the house for short periods of time and work up to longer time period. It will be hard on both of u but it will get easier.