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What should I do?

So ladies, I'm officially 38 weeks along today with my little boy and cannot wait to meet him, hopefully it won't be long now.
Throughout my whole pregnancy my partner has been absolutely fantastic he's comforted me, made it to every appointment, looked after me, made sure his son and myself have everything we could possibly need, supported me financially and emotionally through the hard times and I couldn't fault him for anything.. Except for now, my amazing boyfriend who I love so much, with 2 weeks until his son is due to be born has gone and slept with some random woman with no real explanation other than it was a one off to relieve stress! I'm absolutely heart broken and devasted, we've broken up now unfortunately but any advice on how I should move forward as a single parent? Should he still be my birthing partner? How to approach things etc.. My head is fried :,(
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Also, at 38 weeks I came home and found my bf having a 3some with 2 women.  He said it was a last fling since we were getting married the next day.  I still married him.  We have an agreement now about him having a certain number of 3somes per year,  but I will be involved and set them up. Communication is key.  Search some websites about polyamory.  Maybe an alternative lifestyle could work for you if you love him.  Accepting his sexuality is tough for me,  but I'm happy with him.
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Men do strange things.  They're very different from us.  Sex in their minds is not as big a deal. Maybe you can try keeping everything in your relationship pretty much the same except don't sleep with him until you learn to coparent.
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Its unfortunately not the first time he has done it and he only confessed because I saw messages on his phone between him and the woman
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I think he should still be your birth partner. Maybe put a decision on the relationship on hold for a bit. Have your son and see how things go organically? I'm so sorry to hear that he did that, it really is awful. I'm hoping that he confessed as opposed to you finding out. That's more indicative of true remorse.
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Most women would say once a cheat always a cheat, but i've seen people forgive and move on with the relationship after one has cheated. Weigh your pros and cons before you end the relationship. Has he done this before? Is he truly sorry? Does he want to fix it? Do you think you can forgive him and learn to retrust? I wouldnt end it unless you know he has done it before or he doesnt want to work it out and isnt sorry. Its hard i know, but if you love him then maybe its worth fighting for
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