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Bad news ladies, I had an ultrasound today finally, turns out the baby had died and stopped growing at 8 weeks. I'm 15 weeks now and I've been carrying this dead baby around for 7 weeks. I have to go in on friday for a D&C :{ I'm so sad and torn apart girls. I've been thinking this whole time that my baby was fine and growing. As soon as the Dr. begun the ultrasound, I knew something was very wrong. I saw a tiny, still fetus, no heartbeat. I was not prepared for that.
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448723 tn?1301454958
I am sorry for your loss! Miscarriage is a horrible shock and many of us end up experiencing it. What actually made me feel better about mine was when I realised that if it hadn't of happened to me then I wouldn't have my Lucy. (I miscarried 3 months before I conceived her) Now I wouldn't have it any other way.

I hope that your arms are filled one day soon with a baby that will make all your pain worthwhile!
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Thanks, I feel horrible. My little angel grew wings too soon and is now with God. I hope I can conceive again later. It's so sad because my 4 year old little boy keeps asking why the baby's not fine. It's like he gets it for a while and then later he doesn't.
448723 tn?1301454958
I had the same problem with my daughter who was 4 at the time of the loss. She understood that the baby was dead but kept insisting on seeing or holding it. I had a D&C and so she assumed that I left it at the hospital and she wanted me to go and get it so we could bury it in our backyard where it could be close to us. And then with the next pregnancy she was worried about the baby dying again (because she didn't understand why the last one did) and she needed to be reassured that it was still alive and still in my tummy.

Anna turns six this March and has been completely fine this pregnancy. She seemed quite surprised when I finally gave birth to Lucy though. I think she still expected the worst but stopped asking about the dead baby once she had a baby sister to cuddle.
589816 tn?1332976771
Oh gosh..I'm so sorry. That has me in tears. I had a missed m/c and didn't know until the day it happened that my baby had stopped growing 4 weeks earlier. My kids took it really hard and it took them a while to get over it. My 4 year old (at the time) asked a couple weeks after when we were going out to the car if we were going to pick up the baby..
Just know that we are all here for you if you need anything. I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't found some of the ladies on this site after my m/c. *HUGS*
1035252 tn?1427227833
I'm so sorry sweetie :(
924332 tn?1284573918
I'm soo, soo sorry. I know how hard it is. I had mine before this pregnancy back in march. Sending you tons of hugs!!
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Thanks for your wonderful thoughts and prayers ladies. I'm so torn apart now, I feel this deep pain in my heart.
906115 tn?1344200509
Give yourself time! I lost my daughter at 23 weeks and she was born alive but they never tried to save her. All three other kids were there and held her. THey were 3,2 and 17 months. They drew pictures for her to say good bye and they picked out her outfit and a toy for the funeral. After I lost her I went to a grief group at the hospital and they had so many people and every year like 300 people meet to set off ballons for each baby they have lost. Helping a child say good bye in a way they can grasp is vital and they always remember.

I lost one early on at 4 1/2 weeks the monthe before I got pregnant this time and this will be my first baby since Emma ( 8 years ago) It will be nice to hold this baby but I know I will remember Emma at the same time.

Give yourself time and may you get pregnant with a healthy baby soon after you recover and are ready.
760797 tn?1303264540
I am so sorry. I had a loss last year around this same time. My baby stopped growing at 12w5d and I didn't find out until I was over 16 weeks. It was such a shock and really hard on my DH and the kids, too. I still haven't told the kids about this baby yet b/c I don't want them to experience that pain again in case something were to happen. I grieved for quite a long time and I still think about my angel baby so much. It's something that will be with you forever so give yourself time. It's not easy to go through this alone. Just know that we are here for you if you need to talk or vent. I'm praying for you and your family during this time.
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Thanks again Ladies, it helps to hear you are all here for me. I'm terrifyied of this Friday when I have to go in for the D&C. I'm so nervous.
1103592 tn?1274753561
So sorry for your loss :( My 2 miscarraiges we're early on (7-8 weeks) & sucked, but I'm sure what you are going through is much harder.  hugs!
1116010 tn?1280021252
I'm so sorry!  Thinking of you!
705807 tn?1300751246
I'm so very sorry about your loss, you are in my thoughts and prayers
924332 tn?1284573918
Don't be scared. I had one when i miscarried in march and it was quick. They put me asleep and their was no pain!! Sending you a big hug!!

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I'm so terrified about tommorrow, the D&C. I wish the OB doctor would have sent me straight for the D&C  after the ultrssound, and not let me carry my dead baby around for 3 days, that part makes it extra hard.

I wish you all the best of luck with you little bundles of joy. Enjoy your pregnancies, and a happy healthy baby.
924332 tn?1284573918
I too had to wait 3 days. Found out on a friday and had it done on monday
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Im sorry..  the same thing happened to me in october. It was my first checkup nd I was so exicited.. it turns out that they couldn't hear the heartbeat so I went to get an ultrasound nd the dr told me that my baby was dead. I was 11weeks nd the baby died at 8weeks.. I was very sad too.. but now im 4weeks pregnant nd I hope everything turns up good
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