Sometimes you just have to unload...again!

[startingoverat38]

My daughter was born on June 30th via scheduled c-section. This has been in the books for about two and a half months, so it was no secret. When I got to the hospital, they informed me that they had an earlier opening and rushed me through all the technical stuff and into the O.R., so there was no time to tell anyone that we got the earlier time. After I got to my room from recovery, I was finally able to call my family to tell them the news. Nobody answered their phones. I sat in my room and cried on my husband's shoulder because, how could they? Really. My mom, who lives 10 minutes from the hospital, finally called; but she couldn't come see us because she said she can't afford gas to drive her car that far (of course, she could make it to the library which is about the same distance). Then she went on about how I should come to see her! I just had major surgery and can't drive! My brother called me back. He claims that he's sending us a package. Of course, he was also sending me a birthday card two weeks ago. I'm still waiting for that. Then there's my sister. She has never called me back, she hasn't acknowledged anything I've posted about the baby on social media, but she was able to make a stupid remark about a celebrity wedding anniversary yesterday! I just can't believe what a b*tch my sister has become. I want nothing to do with her again. Ever. Am I being unreasonable?

[jennynew]

Family is crap sometimes. My sister's don't even speak to me and my mother ain't interested because I told her my partner is coming into Labour ward with Me......so she took a back seat months ago and doesn't ask much but u have your little baba now don't get too down over it u have enough going on with your body right now. Pregnancy and new baby can be a lonely time, talk to your partner/husband don't keep it in xxxxxxxxxx congrats x

[jen0221]

Sometimes friends make better support than family. It's sad though when you have to go out of your way to accommodate people. The same thing happened when my first was born. I texted my step dad (along with others) to let him know my son had been born. About a week later I got a response saying congrats. No 'when can we come see him?' Nothing. 2 weeks later I ended up running into him at the store and I asked him when he was going to bring my brothers by to meet their (only) nephew. His response 'oh well I don't know. I don't even know where you live and I've been really busy'. He had been to my house before and I also told him I could text him my address. He said okay and we went our separate ways. I thought about it for a while and decided not to text him my address, that if he wanted to come over, he could ask. Been waiting nearly 4 years now. The only time I get to see my brothers is when I go to their house to see them. I know they aren't well off financially, but come on. We're not exactly on the high end of the income scale either!

[startingoverat38]

I'm not sad anymore, really. I'm angry. My mom acted in a way that was actually expected. My husband made me be the bigger person when we were discharged last night, and we took the baby to meet her. My sister is the one who really caught me off guard. I've made the decision that she is now dead to me. I will not take another call or text from her. She's been removed and blocked from social media accounts. If she tries to hack my account, I will turn her in to the proper authorities. If she sends anything, I will send it back. My daughter is almost 72 hours old, and my sister still hasn't acknowledged her existence. She had her chance.

Thank you all for your support and understanding. I've really loved this app! I also have a ton of friends who have given me their support. And my husband and I have our own landscaping business that has some really amazing customers, who have come out with their support as well. Who needs family?!

[Kpins13]

Going through the same thing with my Dad.my princess is 1 week and 2 days old and he hasnt even mentioned seeing her. It hurts but be strong and cuddle your little one. You have your own family now.

[mommy2aboy]

Sweetie I went through the same probably worse from my in-laws when I had my fist child.I know it is easier to say but trust me u need to stay happy and positive, Good for ur recovery and happy mood will help u take care of the new born. I wasted a lot of tears on them, no use. After a surgery u r anyways emotionally vulnerable, pull ur self together and eveeytime u feel blue, take a look at ur lil Angel and smile.good luck honey, u will be in my prayers.

[chriru79]

Sometimes family are the ones who let you down. They're supposed to be there for you, share in your happiness, put their own selfish desires aside. It does hurt & it really, really stinks. I'm so sorry. Try to just remain positive & happy in your celebration of new baby. Be the bigger person even though it hurts. Congrats on your bundle!

[Fatou10]

Wow that's crazy .... but congratulations on your new born!!!!

[startingoverat38]

On a happier note...baby and I are doing just fine, and we will be going home at any time!