Co-Parenting

[raeedawnn]

Any mommies planning on co-parenting? My boyfriend and I live in separate households. How old is old enough for our child to start going back and forth between houses?  He wants to do it right away after our son is born but I think it's best to give it a couple of months. Im a first time mom and I don't have the slightest clue. Please help!

[Mrs_MP3]

Everyone is referring to you breastfeeding which you never even mentioned that you planned to do...but I would request that he gives you 3mo. Before you guys start the back and fourth process. I'm a product of co-parenting done right, so it's so good to hear you guys made that mature decision so early on. Good luck.

[ButterflyKisses23]

If you plan to breastfeed, you will literally be feeding every 1-3 hours the first few weeks. It won't be possible for you to be away for longer. You can try to pump after feedings to increase your milk supply so you can stock some milk but that takes months for most women. It is hard enough to get a shower in between feedings. I would suggest letting him sleep over where you have all of your baby supplies. Even if you have to set up another bed for him. It'll be nice to have help.

[mw89]

Ya right away seems kind of hard on baby.  Breast feeding should be established. And trust me you will not feel like giving baby up for a night right after he is born.

[mommalombardi]

Is there a reason you arnt living together? I totally understand if there are good reasons but the best thing for baby and you and boyfriend is to live together.  Think about those first few weeks...you are going to be tired! And you are going to want help in the middle of the night. It would be nice if he was there and you guys take turns getting up are night. Use my honest opinion.  I don't wanna offend ya!

[sweetvegetable]

You should wait until baby is weaned before sending baby to bf for nights. The breastfeeding bond is important for both mother and child and can have lasting impact on health and wellbeing (example that comes to mind is healthy attachment - for your baby to form healthy relationships later in life, baby needs a primary caregiver through the first year). So have bf take baby on outings, because baby needs daddy too, but maybe try to have baby love with you at least for the first year.