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I have a question to all you women. Im currently maried 5 years we have a 3 year old son currently 36 pregnant.. well I have always had a problem with my husband texting once in a while with his female friends.  What bothers me is him texting and erassing the messages I ghink that you only erase msj if your aaying somethinv you don't want me to read. Wrllthis sunday he was mesaaging a excoworker and did see him send a message saying ive been missing you "mamasita"  I got really hurt because no husband shoukd me messaging other women and expressing yourself like that he says there is nothing wrong because he is just playing and I take everything so serious but he knows it hurts me a lot what shoukd I do leave him
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I'd leave. But I've been cheated on a lot in the past. And I refuse to ever sit around and allow it to happen again. Marriage is a commitment, and no one - husband nor wife should be hiding anything from one another.. The second d he started deleting texts I probably would have left.. But then to catch him telling another women he misses her.. You don't just say that to someone other than your wife unless something is going on - in my opinion.  They have programs to help single mothers.. Do not stay just because of the financial support.
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I use to put up with crap like that an I feel an experience things like that leave an open window for things to happen. Don't be passive like I was an just put up with it put your foot down an if it's that big of a deal to him to not want to stop then maybe it's something worth looking into.
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That definitely stinks! My husband would have felt five fingers to the face after I saw something like that. We had those issues while dating, each time it would hurt but once we married something changed. Whether it was the texting that stopped or he just got really good at deleting them, Who knows! But I don't really go through his phone either anymore. It's pointless. I worked prior to being pregnant but am now a SAHM. I would never feel like I'm stuck due to finances. I would get my proof of infidelity move out and make him pay alimony and child support. All that "independent woman" stuff is fine for some, but there are those of us with old fashioned values, like family first. And there is nothing wrong with that. Just know that you are never stuck in a bad situation. BUT marriage is something that you work at. Neither party is perfect. Don't go trying to divorce behind text messages. Man. There's so much I could say, but I'd need a bottle of wine to eloquently express it, lol, and well that won't be happening for a while!
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Oh id leave whether hes a husband or not. If he loved you so much then he wouldnt be doing that s.h.i.t behind your back and deleting. Its wrong and a high school childish move. You deserve much more.
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Yes I have always been a hard worker even two jobs but just last year I bacame a full time nursing student witch was a big mistake thats why im determined to work as soon as I have my son
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Reading this make me love the way i am...i dont depend on no man i work really hard for what i have, I dont take no **** from no man sorry to say it like that but you dnt be txtng no female friend and erasing it.. My advice to you dont depend on no man.  Work always think that today you could be with your partner and tomorrow you wont..
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Yeah it really makes me feel me horrible I love him but it's ***** I just knoe I cant leave him I dont work have no way to support my children just want to have my girl to start working and continue my life as an independent women... I love staying at home with my kids but going thru this now makes me feel more wortless
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I personally don't think that is cause to leave him but it is something to take very seriously. I would get a babysitter and have a very serious talk about it where you can express your feelings and thoughts, if never works to do it in the moment (when you catch them) because your emotions are running to high and they will use that against you. If he is a bad listener or if you have a hard time expressing yourself without getting overly emotional then put it into a letter and make him read it in front of you. Either way good luck!
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I dont put up with **** like that nor would I .Id kick him out or leave him period
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