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So my little man is 10 days old. And hubby wants to go have drinks with all the back packers he works with before the season finishes and they all go home. But the main one he talks bout and gets msgs from is a chick. And from what I can gather 90% of them are girls. Now I'm usually pretty good with the while jealousy thing but during this pregnancy and since bubs been born I've been insecure as hell. I know he won't do anything but all the wrong things are running through my head constantly. Doesn't help that I'm so tired and scared to have my first night on my own with bub and toddler. I stupidly looked at his msgs on his phone from her and he's told her how I don't want him to go and she's writes backs things like 'its a couple of drinks not a ******* orgy.' I just can't help think she's got other plans. And considering I've never met her and not even got an invite even though I know I wouldn't go with a new born anyway. ***** cause I can't even satisfy him cause of the 6 week rule. And by the time both kids are in bed he's asleep anyway. I just feel like crap and know I'm being silly but had to rant. Just feel like curling up in a ball and bawling my eyes out at the very thought of him going.
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4309243 tn?1353919791
I am sorry... Sometimes men just don't realize what they have till they loose it....
I had same with my ex husband....he used to say: ''i know you will shout at me, but you will be all ok in a short while.'' he never thought that one day i will leave him.... I guess we let them do it to us. With my new partner i am much firmer and he wouldn't even dream of going out without me....same as me, i don't go out without him.
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4 and a half hours. I got a msg an hour ago saying just having a feed and sobering up. Yer if he only 2 drinks he wouldnt need to sober up. :'(
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Thanks for all your comments ladies. We talked. Well sort of. He still went. We agreed he could go for 2 drinks cause he has to drive home. That was 3 and a half hours ago. If its taken that long for two drinks its gonna be a ******* first. Someones gonna be in the spare room for a while. So pissed off. So upset. As usual I give in to him and get treated like this.
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I wouldn't let my partner to go to such party. But to be honest he wouldn't even think going. Don't feel guilty about it and just ask him to stop texting that girl!! I hate when people trying to make problems in the family.
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your not crazy,I would be the same!just talk to him about it
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My hubby was a jealous type also lol. But a friend and his wife helped "kill the motor" so to speak. And Im not so much jealous as I am emotional (Im bipolar among other things) and my hubby is like my rock... he and my kids keep me sane aside from the medication I take when needed. So he knows exactly how I will react to various things.

Anyway, you arent crazy. I honestly would be the same way about it. Hell Id probably go so far as to kick his *** out but because Im so attached to my hubby, Id hunt him down and bring him home crying my apology all the way.
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My hubby would be stupid to even consider leaving to do something like that after I just had our baby on top of our toddler who's a handful. Girl don't hesitate to say something. If it's bothering you that much speak up
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Thanks bri. It defiantly helps knowing I'm not going crazy. Yes I did have the same hormonal issues with my first but didn't have the female work mate to deal with too. You and I and our hubbys sound very similar. He doesn't have many male friends and gets along with females better. And I get along with males better. It's crazy cause he use to be the overly jelous one. How things change. I guess a bonus is she's going back home in the next few days (Germany or France I think) just might have to get hubby to lose her phone number and change his so she can't get in touch with him.
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your* jeebus...
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One more thing - kids right? Thats plural... ****** should KNOW by now that you're still gonna be emotional... didnt you still have you rollercoaster emotions the last time?
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Wtf? First off, you JUST had a baby hun. Your hormones are still gonna be out of whack and he should honestly understand this. My hubby knows that when he goes to work he will have to call me asap if hes going to be staying over at work because I already forewarned him Im gonna be a wreck still - which he knows because of our last pregnancy.

Secondly, who the hell is SHE to get upset over you not wanting your hubby to go?! Me personally I dont think you're being silly at all. It took me some time to get used to my hubby getting along better with women instead of other men (Im the opposite, I get along better with men rather than women go figure lol), but he was very choosy about what female friends he had. Because he knew if one smarted off like what she did - Id be a force to reckon with.

Whether you are generally good about the whole jealousy bit or not, you arent "normal" yet even after ten days and hubby needs to realize that. I think he ****** up by saying "She doesnt want me to go." no wonder it brought up that response. Id of been pissed at my hubby for that... he could have said "My wife needs me here so Im skipping the get together this time." And left it at that. *nod* Want me to smack some sense into him for you? Im 41 wks I think I can get out of trouble using that for excuse O:-)
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