hope the question isnt weird just so confused

[jordanna88]

Hi my boyfriend of almost 4 years walked out me almost three months ago and I am 6 months pregnant as well he leave for someone else who he was secretly seeing for about four months he tells me he will be back home every other day then switch's some days he says he want to work on the relationship but as friends but as also is dating this other women still and I believe he moved in with her. Should I wait to see what is going to happen or just move on? I really love him and want our family together when the baby comes.he comes over and hangs with me and tells me he loves me. I have lost five pounds due to this and worried I am going to cause damage to my unborn son..I really don't know what to do anymore

[Van818]

I really feel sorry for you - pregnancy is hard and break ups are hard and you're dealing with both at once. I think most women have experirnced a relationship similar to yours on some level. It's so, so hard to move on from someone you love, even when they treat you badly; especially for you as you're having his baby and whatever he is like, your baby will need to know his/her father. Remember that regardless of how you feel about this man or how he feels about you - he is selfish, he has wronged you by cheating, his is not honorable or dutiful having walked out on his pregnant girlfriend. These are facts about his character and unlikely to change. It will be very hard but will make you stronger if you make sure he keeps away from you, so you can move on. I hope you have good friends and family to support you through the pregnancy and birth. Don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help from them. Good luck! You'll get through this and come out stronger, more independent and with a lovely baby who will love you unconditionally x

[ariannakathleeen]

Move on, he isn't worth it and eventually he'll realize what he's missing. Until then focus on you and your baby, a real man will come along sooner or later.

[Danielleberger1]

It is best to move on. How I see it is with an adult relationship, if you break up, your done. Plus with your son on the way, you don't want him confused on whether mom and dad are together when he's older, he will always have hope you guys will end up together. Just find a way to be happy on your own. I'm doing it on my own, I think every woman is strong enough to do it on their own if they put their all into it.

[lindashalee]

Move on!!! He is totally disrespecting you! Tell him you don't need his fake love. He can support his child and be around his child. But to run back and forth between you and another woman is ridiculous. It's just wrong on so many levels. And will only make you depressed.

[zulema1015]

Last thing wirh ny ex i thought that was as good as it gets that i wasent going ro find abyone like him. We were together for 5yrs and he always made me feel insuffient and like i was never good enough. It was the hardest thing to leav him because he made me feel like i wouldnr find anyone to lov3 me cuz i couldnt be loved. My fiancé right now is the best man I've ever met since day one he treated me with respect and admired me. He took me out and made me feel special and not once made me feel insufficient.  He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. You will find true love you jus need to let go of the negative and allow the positive to come into ur life...good luck to you!

[zulema1015]

I agree with everyone. I've been in a relationship where I was always second choice and trust me it was not fun. I dealt with that for 4 yes and it is emotionally and mentally damaging. You don't need him. I know you love him but trust me that is NOT love, if he truly loved you he would be with you and not with someone else. He would be by ur side and his baby's side if he cared but ad sad as it sounds he doesn't care. Put ur foot down and tell him he can no longer tell you that he loves you. Do not allow him to tell you that because you will jus fall back in his trap. If he isn't doing so already he needs to help out with what baby will need and that's as far as that goes. If he realizes he made a mistake I pray u make him work for it. Love is a beautiful thing but it's only beautiful when both feel and ACT on the best interest of their partner, or else it's just a one way street with a dead end

[smydgen]

Move on and put your foot down. Its not healthy mentally what he's doing to you. If he truely loved you he wouldn't do this.You and your baby deserve better. I know its hard but bring that inner mama bear to the surface and protect your little one. Imagine how your child will feel growing up thinking daddy doesn't want to be with them.

[mags242001]

U Need to move on. U have to stop it cuz he is just going to continue to hurt u n u are allowing him to play with u. N he doesn't love u, if he did he would have cheated on u n left u when ur pregnant . He is just using u both until someone else comes along. Still once the baby is born u have to allow him to be there for the baby. But u n him r over. Just when he come around u n tells u he loves u remember that he goes back to the other girl n sleeps with her. So u can start letting go.

[PatricksMommy]

^ agreed.  If he's not in it 100% he's not worth it. I understand you love him, he will always be in your life because  of your baby. But if he can walk away from you, he's not in it. And your going to always question if he's being faithful or really in love with you. Your better then that mama, and you have to think of stability for your baby

[Hahn6]

He is eating his cake and ice cream too. He is taking advantage of you be vulnerable. And you should be treated better than someone's second choice. When he decides what he wants to do then maybe I would expect him back(maybe) but don't be someone's door mat where they can go and come as they please.

[megantea123]

Move on. Concentrate on you and your baby.