Baby Daddy

[Emmers2112]

So I was seeing a man for three+ months and he told me he was single but had a son by another girl and that they still lived together but he slept on the couch just until she could get a job. Well turned out they were actually together.... I know how could I be so stupid, but I ended it when I found out but now I am pregnant with his Daughter.well his gf won't let him have any contact. Even concerning just our child she said that if I go for child support she will have full access to my child or he will just give up his rights and have nothing to do and no payments is that true? I'm not trying to keep him from our daughter. Just don't want her around my baby. She is crazy! Is there anything I can do?

[Lee86lee]

Just be very careful with the hold situation I have seen women and men do some strange things especially where I am from. I am definitely no means saying that she is like I am mentioning but woman kill other woman over situations like this. Pray hard on this situation and remember that God build you strong and a fighter. It will be hard at first but you will get thru it. If you decide to raise the child along God will never leave you nor forsake you. Find a job, church home and daycare and everything will work out for the best. Just pay attention to the things that he and she says because its not worth physical confrontations.

[RockRose]

Sorry,  I should have read your profile before answering.  It sounds like you are still with the father of your first child?  You mention your boyfriend, who will film this delivery although he wasn't able to film your first child?  I'm confused about your situation.  

Best wishes.

[RockRose]

This is very complicated.

If you get child support,  he will likely get visitation.  In that case,  if he is co-parenting she will have access because she's in the home.  When the baby goes there,  she will also be there with her child(ren).  She will be on his list of people who can pick your child up from school,  can take your child to the doctor,  and can attend teacher conferences and school plays.  Unless she has a criminal record involving violence,  she will have access to your child through his access.

She doesn't sound crazy - she sounds like a woman who has been wronged and she's very angry about it.  Her anger is misplaced - it should be on him,  and not this baby but it never really works out that way,  it seems.

So you have options.  You can choose to get child support and endure this split family dynamic for the next 20 years +,  you can decide not to go for child support (not a good idea if you have financial hardships) or you can choose to relinquish the child through adoption to a couple who are desperate for a child.

Best wishes.  You sound like a caring mom who is just trying to do the best and you're in a tough situation.  

[lilkrazie209]

oh goodluck girl emmer my advce is to,follow your heart,and do,what you gotta,do,best this is,basically your choice and do wat you gotta do best for you,and your baby ok girl i know about childsupport im eypierenxe,of,dat if,you,need,anything,message me ok but it basically your,choice on you wat to,do,in this situation follpw your heartgirl and do whats best for you and,your baby

[babyonboardxox]

Just because she is with him, doesnt mean she has any rights to your child. Custody and support do not work that way. Just like you would have no right to her son.

She cannot forbid you from contacting him in regards to your child. If he is not talking to you because she doesnt want him to... thats selfish. Sue for child support, because that girl cannot do anything about it.

The only person who has rights is him and you. I know i am repeating myself but, this girl really knows nothing on how access, support, and custody work.

[lilkrazie209]

she cant do nothing longest she dont have prove if she dont let him see his daughter well give him,childsupport,and say that his girl living with him and the judges and everything they will desl,with it and help you
its your choice next time dont sleep,with a man havn a gf and make sure if you eva meet a man,make sure he represent his family thats wat you called a real man,wantd to take you serious but goodluck,best wishes,for,you,everything will,turn out,for the best you see its all,in God hands

[Emmers2112]

Looking back I realize that maybe I was ignorant for thinking that he was truthful. But I have been far nicer about just asking for a little support and some family history I was willing to make deals because this baby wasn't planned but now im gonna let the state determine what happens

[Lee86lee]

The only way she can take that child away from u is if they can prove u are unfit. Also just because u give up ur rights does not mean he still doesn't have to pay. My first child father thought that and he was absolutely wrong. Please don't have negativity towards the woman because you decided to be with that man living with another woman regardless of what he said. If you decide child support they will explain to you everything that u need to know. Every case is different even if it sounds similar. You will have to accept your responsibility and ur part in the situation. We all make mistakes and things will work out for the best. Next time don't accept a man living in another woman's home. Best wishes to you and good luck