Baby#2 relationship ending

[NinaBoo69]

This is going to be a rant but I'm only 14 weeks pregnant with baby #2 my bf says I ***** to much but maby I wouldn't if he had my back when it comes to his family and treated me the same around his family and made me feel loved I cry almost everyday I love the guy but we are falling apart I'm just so sad I wish he would just treat me right and when I got pregnant with my first I told him I wanted to be a stay at home mom for all my kids and he agreed well now he just hounds me to get a job I just wanna stay with my baby and this pregnancy I'm just so tired and to top it off he doesn't act like he did having me be careful of every little thing I did with my first now he just doesn't care and he's even hit me it just hurts so bad

[lilkrazie209]

But congrats

[lilkrazie209]

Hi there im so sorry about your relationship falling apart same story is happening to my friend with my nephew thats when befor she had her lil girl my advice to her was to talk tough to him like is either you get your **** together with me and your kid or your *** gotta leave I don't need you but shes too nice so she still with him and stuff he still goes out but she will neva listen to me my advice that I said to my friend goes to you talk tough to him and watch he wil come begn from your hands trust me they will change my cuzzn got my advice and now he stops hangn around with his friends and he spend alot of time with her and their kid just think about it you see

[specialmom]

Hi there.  I just want to say that I'm really sorry you are having this difficulty.  That stinks!  Let me just tell you that you are at a hard point in life.  While it is joyful to be in the having babies stage---  and awesome that you have a baby and another on the way, it is also hard.  You are more tired than usual, getting through pregnancy, have less time for the two of you, are dominated by baby stuff, etc.  I had two kiddos back to back.  Wonderful and exhausting!  It can take a toll on your relationship because both of you are tired from baby care and have less time to focus on your relationship.

I will also tell you that my husband is our main provider.  I left my career when I had my first child and that put ALL of the pressure on him.  That's a lot to deal with hon.  It's very hard on a person to have the full financial responsibility for a growing family.  I hope that you can continue to stay home but if it can't work for the household bils, then think about what you 'could' do that would impact family life the least.  Is this a good time to plan for the future and take courses so that you can go back to work down the road?  Just something to think about.  But make sure you are thinking about what it might feel like to him to carry the burden of supporting the family strictly on his own shoulders.  It's hard and deserves acknowledgment.  :>)

Anyway, know that many couples do go through these things during this stage of their life.  If you stay in communication--- it helps.  If he says you complain to much or nag too much--  that stinks and hurts. But maybe switch up how you handle issues.  Tell him you'll work on it and then try to.  And as he sees you trying, maybe he'll reciprocate.  

good luck hon.  I really hope it all works out for your family.  

[19Karla92]

First of all congrats! A baby is always a blessing and if he dont see it like that then he probably is a little immature for you. It takes two to make a baby and what it seems like its probably his family getting to his head. You need to let him know how you feel and take the first steps towards your baby and your little angels happiness. If your not happy they won't be either. Guys are jerks and very childish at times specillay with responsibilities. Ill keep you in my prayers and you try to be positive and strong. Love your self and your babys more then any man lady. (: oh one question what state do you live now?

[NinaBoo69]

I don't have family out here I moved to another state to be closer to his family but thank you he's told me many times it's just hard

[Lee86lee]

Do you have any family you can go stay with for a little while? I don't know all of the content of your relationship but u do not deserve to be mistreated. Remember life is going to be hard anyway and as long as you don't give up you can make a better life for you and your kids. Love is not hitting one another, mistreatment, or anything of that sort. You have to redefine the word love. You may love him but does he has that same love and care for you. My mom always said to me don't let a man tell you more than once he don't want you. I'm praying for you make you just need a break apart for awhile.