Fake friends

[Cindy0624]

so when i told my bff i was prego she told me to abort i was already like 2 months n 3 weeks n it just so sad to hear dat from her. I let her knw dat i thought she was fake for sayin dat n we got into a huge fight where she told me im poor n i shouldnt be proud cuz im 20 n prego like who says dat to sumbody. Mind u her sister is the same age n just had a baby. How can people be so fake n cruel?  She called me poor cuz i had told her i had nuttin save up for the baby yet

[specialmom]

I'm just not sure fake is the word I'd use.  Brutally honest?  Insensitive?  Those may fit.  If she works at the same place as you, she probably feels she couldn't afford a baby with the income.  Why does it have to be negative?  Maybe she is looking out for you in her own warped way.  Just set her straight but if she were a FAKE friend, she'd tell how fantastic it is you are having baby when she felt otherwise. THAT is fake.  good luck

[Cindy0624]

Im not poor i have a job we work in the same place which is y her sayin sumthin like dat to me makes her fake. She wanted me to abort cuz she didnt like my baby father who i been with for 5 yrs

[RockRose]

I don't think that's a "fake"friend who is trying to spare you a lot of heartache and difficulty.

I personally don't believe in abortion,  but it sounds like she does, and after watching her sister struggle it sounds like she was trying to spare you all that.

I don't know what your financial situation is,  whether you have plenty of money to raise a child on your own but sounds like she was being extremely pragmatic.  

[specialmom]

And her comment calling you poor again just may be a really poor expression of her worry for you regarding what is known to be very expensive, having a child.

I will give you some unwanted advice right now . . .   one of the best things a young mother to be can do for herself is to get educated.  Think about what kind of job you may want to do and figure out where either college, community college or job training/tech skills classes are offered to make that happen.  all sorts of things you could pursue that would lead to a bright future of financial independence.  SOOOOO  important for a woman who is going to have a baby.  There are lots of grants to pay for this or loans if necessary but if income is low, grants usually cover the cost.  

Anyway, sometimes people say things in an insensitive way not knowing they are striking a nerve.  I'm sure you are really worried yourself and she just made it worse.  

Check to see if it is her wording or what.  Being a good friend at times means saying some realities but we should do it in a kind, helpful way.  Not in a put down kind of way.  hugs

[kendallleblanc]

That doesn't seem fake. It seem like she is not being a good friend by putting u down.

[Juel19]

That just shows you she wasn't a true friend from the beginning! Of course yes we're young and yes we're going to have a couple of trials and tribulations but that only makes us stronger :) dont let what she said get to you to you its all about you and your baby that's all that matters

[specialmom]

I don't know if that is fake so much as her just telling you what I think that differs greatly from how you feel.  Some women do see abortion as a viable option when a pregnancy is unplanned.  She may have been worried about you and not realized she was hurting you with her comment.  Just talk to her about it and tell her you are excited about the baby and her comment made you feel bad.  You'd like support from your friends.  good luck

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Listen.to me hun dont talk to her shes not a true friend a best friend will help u and stick by u n shes not one u do for baby i didnt have anything saved and now im five months a.d i got everything but clothes for my son and with that u can go to churches they give bags of baby clothes or help centers dont u worry ur baby is ur gift dont let a man or woman tell u not to have ur kid pray to god and ask h for help trust me u will c his blessings

[Katie92lady]

Babies don't happen at the perfect time. and they will show you who is your true friends. I lost my apartment and everything all within two month before I am due. It will show you who is really true. Be prepared to loose a lot more but you will only gain who is truest to you and you child.