Men.

[Buzzbeemommy]

My hubby is a good man, but lately when he's sleeping he's just rude. The other night I try to seduce him, the way I do almoat every night, and he totally shut me down in a rude way. Today I've been cleaning and getting everything done I've been putting off (as I'm 36 weeks pregnant, have depression and spd and I'm exhausted) while taking care of my 2 yr old with the stomach flu. Well after my house was spotless I realized I over did it and my spd pain is next to unbearable and I'm having BH contractions VERY frequently. So I lay down, my son is upset because our tv ***** and turned off his show and I just want to sleep and then! He pukes EVERYWHERE. I mean everywhere. And hubby peeks up and sees it then goes back to sleep. So after awhile I need help, my son needed new clothes on as he was shivering from fever, I'm scrubbing the floor on my hands and knees, trying to get the bedding together to rinse vomit out of then wash, our dogs wanted to go outside at the same time, and I'm having these BH'S and pain so bad I can barely move from my spd. I asked him twice to help. He said yes. Then went back to sleep. I got it all done THEN the man wakes up, AFTER my mental break down (since I also woke up getting puked on at 4 this morning, sleep deprivation is a factor here) and I explain I'm upset and everything I needed help with (though at this point I'm finished) and he barely says sorry. I lay down, finally, and he just lays there listening to me apologize for being a little bit dramatic but that it isn't okay. I stop talking for 30 seconds and guess who's sound asleep. Ugh. He really isn't usually like this, he's been working 9 days without a day off and been working late hours so when the baby comes he can take time off so he's just exhausted too but I am furious right now. I understand it isn't really his fault, honestly he probably won't even remember it all happened tomorrow, I mean he is just passed out, understandably after hard physical labor for 12 hours 9 days in a row. But I certainly will.

[Buzzbeemommy]

Wow^ unnecessary. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all. As I said, he isn't like this usually & yes, the excuse I made for him was that he's been working without a day off and overtime hours, but that's why I posted -_- because it wasn't an okay situation . I was venting ONE incident where he wasn't helpful, no need to judge me based on it. But hey, if your grass is so green I guess ya might as well try & **** on mine (;

[Lee86lee]

I see you make a lot of excuses for ur husband, give him too many options, and u defend his behavior. You know him better than anyone so I hope everything turns out OK.

[Buzzbeemommy]

That's why women are the superior gender (: we do it all, usually with a smile on our face & act humble (most times) while doing it.

[chloebirdie15]

A man may work from sun to sun but a woman's work is never done.

[msbocanegra]

Worked* came* spell check

[msbocanegra]

I have a 15 month old in my newborn is a week old my husband says sorry I don't have the luxury of sitting at home all day I do complain I'm tired in aggregated because I am but I worker full time in cane home to my oldest son in did it all he wants to come home in relax smh I don't ever get to relax.

[crittermom21]

good job momma..you did that and now it's over.thank g.anyway I just gotta say I'm proud of you because at this point I'm 35 weeks and can't bend over period .my baby is transverse and i finally couldn't have done wat u did.i probably would have just cried.and cried.

[anwhatin1]

OMG I feel for u women but u guys are putting up with too much and saying that men r just like that. I think it is somewhat our fault we allow this to occur. We need to put our foot down and say something.  It is not fair they act this way and I get they work but they r having a child too and they should help in raising that child which means they get up at night when their son is sick and help out so both of you can have some sleep.  Just not right in my opinion. I am a working mother and I work very hard in the orthopedic department in an animal hospital. I have work 126 hours in a 80 hour 2 week period and I still come home and help my husband take care of our daughter. Now he does not expect me too but man if he is having a bad night or she is I step in and vise versa.
I think as women we feel that it is okay for them to be this way and it is not. Just because they work three jobs etc is not a reason to not help your spouse. I would work 3 jobs if I had to and would still help as much as I could.
Girls stand up to your men or women in my case and get some help even if it is something so small it will help and they can do it too not just us.

[bjm_1125]

Yup! Same here. Sometimes I just wanna shake my boyfriend and make him realize he could never do it.

[Buzzbeemommy]

Right?^ they don't understand what it really takes and how much we really do everyday. I'm a stay at home mom so he often acts as if I have the easy way too. Drives me crazy, at least he can cone hone from work and relax and sleep without interruption.

[bjm_1125]

Couldn't agree more with the above comment! That's why women are stronger than men. They could never deal with half of the **** us women deal with everyday.

[chloebirdie15]

I understand completely. My husband is what I call a "sleepy husband" as well. He works 2 jobs and goes to school full-time and only has off every other Sunday and isn't home until 7ish 8 every night. We never see each other, then he usually goes and works out or hangsout with friends or does homework or sleeps of course. It's been that way our whole marriage/pregnancy and I still work full-time at 38 weeks, so when I get home I cook clean take care of my 6 year old do homework etc. Everything and I am super exhausted but I realized complaining gets me no where and he will just say hang in there that's why your taking 3 months off. Men are insensitive but it makes us stronger by being independent and realizing we can do it all with or without them.

[sassy_sam]

Your post made me laugh! Been there sister! I've had many nights similar to yours and it really does suck!