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I've never posted on a forum before but I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone else and I need advice. I'm 6 months pregnant and my boyfriend and I have been having a fair few arguments recently. A couple of nights ago I was upset with him for saying something quite inappropriate to a friend in regards to pregnancy, it was late at night and we were both tired. He got angry all of a sudden and stood up because he wanted to leave the house and before he left he said he didn't want to be with me anymore but still wanted to be a part of the baby's life. Of course I was heartbroken and didn't want him to walk out the door without us talking about it first. It got to the point where I had to hold him so that he wouldn't leave, as in I held him back from walking out the door. He kept repeating not to touch him but I kept holding him back, not violently at all, just holding him back so he couldn't leave as I wanted to talk. He ended up pulling my arm hard enough and and pushing me so that I fell on the tiled floor. He then said that he told me not to touch him and then walked out the door and didn't come home for a few hours. I've always told myself I would never put up with domestic abuse in a relationship but I'm not sure if it's my fault for pushing him too far? Should I not have held him back when he told me not to touch him? Should I have just let him walk out the door? I'm not sure if I'm making excuses for him but we were only together for 3.5 months before I found out I was pregnant and he is looking forward to the baby because he's always wanted to be a father. I just keep thinking am I being too harsh because he has been quite supportive in most other ways.

I just don't know what to do...
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I understand how you feel. Every times my husband and i have arguments he tell me to leave him alone or not to hold him and of course i do not listen to him and believe me it always make things worst. Try to talk to him when he is calm and do not do anything in haste.
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You're the only one who can decide what your limit is. But personally I have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to any kind of domestic abuse. I literally don't care what his excuse is. If any guy hit, pushed, shoved, choked, slapped, or in any other way physically hurt me I would be out the door and would never come back. That's my policy. I don't allow disrespect. I was raised better than that.
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