Rude fiancee

[lil_bump]

Hi everyone,
This is my first pregnancy and been with my fiancee for 4years now. I'm 7weeks pregnant and the only thing he keeps repeating to me in an aggressive tone is to make sure my body doesn't get ****** up. Make sure I rub cream to prevent stretch marks! He is unloving physically...though he does do little acts of service like picking me up from work. He's rude and callous. Today he told me I'm more trouble than I'm worth...after I just made us breakfast ?!! Says weekends are for chilling on the sofa with movies and games...not going to stores and shopping for baby stuff when I'm not even showing. He is needy and always wants me to rub HIS back at bedtime. I kinda feel alone and today I cried alone in the washroom after eating. I try to avoid him when we have days off together because I don't want any conflict from him. I thought the pregnancy would be a beautiful time for me/us.
I want to mention that he has a 4year old that he never sees....the baby momma and him split while she was pregnant and have hardly spoken since. I think he carries baggage from this life event. I wish we could go to councelling together. I feel unsupported  :(  and sad.

[lil_bump]

We spoke together about having a child and then we actively started trying. We got pregnant on my first cycle within  a few tries...and its been kinda bumpy day in and day out with him. We have good days...but there will always be a bump along the way, a rude thoughtless comment...something. I cannot at all imagine him reading a parenting book. Though I would so so love him to be excited and really into the pregnancy and the baby that is growing inside of me.
When we sit on sofa together in the evening it is almost as though he tries to antagonize me or annoy me in order to get a rise out of me. And then of course I pull away and get upset by him...which results in what may have been his goal: me wanting nothing to do with him for the rest of the evening...so he has his time to himself to play games, watch porn...wtv.

[lil_bump]

Thank you for your response. I will talk with him and address what has been bothering me head on.

[selena_santiago23]

God bless you and your pregnancy and family and your relationship

[siloe713]

It stinks to have to deal with that kind of immature behavior. Honestly, if I were you I would start discussing with him how you're feeling and take a stand for yourself. Being a single parent stinks, but you could do it. He needs to know that you don't have room in your life for an emotional abusive person.
When I broke up with my ex the thing that I kept coming back to is that even if I'm okay with him disrespecting me, I'm not okay with him disrespecting my family. Unborn children included.
It'd be great if he was willing to work it out and go to counseling, but if not, he can't be that nasty to your new family member.

[Miyu19]

Did he even want to have kids? It could end up being the same scenario as his other kid and the mom. Was he like this before you were pregnant?

He needs to grow up. It really doesn't sound like he wants kids since he is a big one himself and was able to shirk his responsibilities with his other kid.

[maw4389]

So tell him you want to do what you think is best for your relationship.

[lil_bump]

Him being the obstacle