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Worst Roommate Ever!

I don't know what to do I'm at friggin wits end. My fiance and I live together.  We have a cat and a dog. And his best friend is our roommate and she has a cat too.  

And I think she is literally the worst roommate ever. And I don't know what to do.


Me and my fiance were looking for a place. So was his best friend.  Well we were looking in 2 sept neighborhoods. She lost her job mid house hunt. So my fiance and I agreed to let her move in with us. We found a house in the middle. It has 3 bedrooms a basement and a 3rd floor. We gave her 2 bedrooms and the basement as hers as well as full access to the house [everything but our room] the agreement was she would pay half the rent and 1/3rd the utility.  [Even if you think that's to much in rent remember this is what she wanted send agreed to]

So fast forward and we're all living together.  This girl is so rude to me! She hides our mail [fiance missed an important meeting because of it] she only gives us 138$ a month for rent [which is not even a third of the rent] she hasn't bought a single grocery since she moved in. Or cat food or liter. Her cat has stomach problems and pukes like 3 times a day and she leaves it! I'm constantly scrubbing puke off everything.  But she does things just to bug me.like throw my toothbrush behind the toilet [which I'd on the opposite side of where I keep it] she opens all my canned food and takes a bite send puts the whole freaking awesome can in the fridge just like that!

Now I don't work due to a medical condition. But I still make money from home to help with bills [though it's not much it'd more than 138!] And because I have this disability I get food stamps every month.  About 175$ and every month I put every penny into  food for everyone in the house. Because it's hard to make 175$ feed 3 people I'm also a bit of an extreme couponer.  And I take it very seriously because if I can't we can't eat.

Yesterday I had visited my mother.  She saves all her coupons she doesn't use for me. I was sleepy when I got home so I put them on the coffee table in my living room.this is where I always keep them. Not all over just in a nice pile. I went down this morning to organize the coupons and there gone! Hubby knows not to touch them. [Though I did call and verify he had not moved them to be sure] I know I left them there as all the other stuff I had brought in is still there. Just not my coupons.


And I also found out today she didn't pay the electric bill! We had forgotten last month so since she has a bank card and we use strictly cash she agreed that if we gave her the Money she would pay it. Well on March 11th in the morning I gave her all the electric bill money. Well today I got my new bill and it didn't make sense so I pulled up the statement online and she never paid it! I'm livid.

I just don't think it's right. She leaves messes everywhere.  Eats the last of everything.  Can't even wash her own dishes! Now she stole my coupons and money! She doesn't even pay for any food how the he'll dies she expected me to buy food without them? Wtf does she think she's gonna eat? She will demand I go to the store when she wants but is so ungrateful.

I've complained to hubby a billion tines. He just keeps saying it's only a little longer [were moving in 2onths] but he does not deal with her as much as me. He says he feels bad kicking her out because we did this to help her. But I don't feel like this is what I agreed too. I just don't get it. She works full time again. Why in 10 months working full time are you still with me? If you only pay 138$ a month even at minimum wage you still have more than enough to save. So in mind if she doesn't have the money saved to pay her own rent somewhere by now that's her fault. I agreed to help  her but I feel like I'm totally being taken advantage of.  And hubby just won't kick her out or agree that we don't have to wait the 2 more months to move.

I'm literally so angry I'm in tears. Idk how to deal with this
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Kick her out, you don't need this stress right now, especially while pregnant, stress can make for a sick baby and if she's only paying that much you don't need her anyway
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I would kick her out!
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Tell her like it is. If she doesn't help out by at least cleaning her messes and don't her part you can have her evicted. You don't deserve to live like that and you shouldn't. Make sure your husband knows how you feel about it and what you have to go through. Does he know she stole the electric money?? If you have to threaten her with eviction do it. I would.
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I don't see how u let you'd hubby have a best friend as a girl!  My husband don't even talk to woman cause he says it makes him feel guilty cause the only woman he should talk to or be friends with is me.  . AnotherThing it sounds to me that she has some jealousy tendency to be doing that to your things as far as your tooth brush and stuff.  Sounds like she's being spiteful!  I'd say talk to her and let her know u are moving in 2 months that u have helped her long enough and she is ungrateful and doesn't treat u or your things with respect. Let her know that u know about the electric bill and you think she should pay it back. I don't see how your husband is letting this happen!  Mine would be livid!
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This is the first time she's taken money from us. My hubby is at work but I did call and tell him everything and he said he would deal with it after work. I just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.  I don't mind there friendship at all. He's never given me any reason not to trust him.

But I want to kick her out. Idc. It's been like this for months.  Hubby won't kick her out because he feels bad. I'm afraid if I kick her out anyway he will be mad. Idk.

I'm so sick of this. It's not like her money helps at all anyway
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Girl you have every right to kick her out. She not doing nothing to help you so there's literally no point for her to be there. You can give her a deadline by telling her she need to catch up on the bills or she can be out by the end of april. But if I were you I would just tell her to leave you don't need that much stress on you & the baby.
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Let him be mad if he cares and loves you he will understand. He shouldn't take her side over yours,  your the mother of his child and his fiance.  
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I totally agree with Sophie. Sounds like she's doing this cuz of jealousy. Why else would she be doing all this? Why would she have so much hatred towards you. Your pregnant. You need to be looking after yourself. Tell ur husband how u feel. And ask him if ur more important or she is. And yes u do trust him. But we always get done by trusting them too much.
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Kick her out! You don't need that kind of stress, stress isn't good for the baby. Sounds like she's jealous because your with him and she's not, that would explain why she's rude to you and is doing all this. I agree with all the other ladies!!
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Your all probably right. The only time she's mean to me in person is when my hubby isn't around. And because he never sees it I feel like he thinks I'm making it up
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kick.her out or start grabbing the vomit and throw it in her room also tell her that she has to buy her own.food and wtf i would pay 500$ a month on my own this ***** is scandalous tell ur hubby hes with u or hes not cuz ur not going to put up her her bull
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