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disrespectful older kids

I swear if I talked or acted the way my 8 yr old does I would have gotten beat..I know all these crazy hormones isn't helping either. I'm having my c section in 7 1/2 weeks and I planned it around the custody schedule we have and now her much younger step mom has told her to tell me we are changing up weekends. I told her no we ain't and now I'm a mean mom. Wtf.
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it is not up to her to change up weekends. If your ex does not want his visitation that weekend he needs to tell you. You then need to document that he gave up his visitation for that week, then you find someone else to keep an eye on your daughter while you go have baby. then he can wait till his weekend rolls around again to see your daughter. If she says your mean explain that you are not being mean and you guys have a schedule for a reason and it needs to be followed, tell her you love her and she needs a structured time to spend with her dad and he needs to understand that and follow the plan you have set out.

Then tell her father that he needs to be a man and follow the set schedule that you all have in place for him to spend with his daughter. If he cared for her he could set aside the time to make sure he is free on his scheduled weekend. He has known for how long that he was set to have her? Does he care that little that he can not remember that he has a weekend with his daughter? I could see if something came up that is very important and unable to be rescheduled but the solution to that would be to pick her up as scheduled and find someone to watch her while he is busy.

Good luck mom, He had no right to put your daughter in the middle and make you look like the bad guy because he is not responsible enough to come pick his daughter up for the weekend. I hope you get this worked out because he did put you in a bad spot. You don't want to talk bad about him in front of his daughter but you don't want her to think that she can not spend time with him because of you.
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Thanks ladies. I was just at the lawyer's office over her not being at our drop off stuff when she was supposed too be and the phones calls. I hate how they always put her in the middle of everything.  
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I think it's more disrespectful for a step mom to be telling your child to tell you things. It's not your daughters prerogative to be the adult about her care. I'd be so upset if my son tried something like that with me. Id also set some boundaries with your daughter and let her know you need to be respected.  If it were me I would have just acknowledged my child and then said something to them.  You are putting your child in the middle and that's not fair because they don't understand. Good luck to you!
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Oh wow that's ***** I'm so sorry. Good luck with everything
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I've talked to her and my ex till I'm blue in the face. She is ten yrs younger then us and she knows everything.
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Sounds like step mom needs to be talked to I guarantee that's why she acting that way. Sorry your going threw this but definitely talk to her and tell her that your daughter is not hers and to stop being disrespectful
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