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feeling highly emotional
My husband of 7 years told me he wants to do a trial separation during the year he'll be away for an army school. Which happens to start in February of 2015 and this baby is due in early June. I am feeling very lonely and kind of abandoned. I can't tell anyone because no-one knows I'm pregnant yet. He says he wants us both to be happy and that he knows he doesn't make me happy. I've been trying so hard to keep this marriage together I even lost 30# hoping it would help. When is it his turn to try? I feel like he's taking the easy way out because actually being the man I need him to be would be too much like work. Sigh. Trying so hard not to get bitter but I feel so alone.
Im am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Hugs to you. You deserve to be happy, remember that. What may feel like the end of the world now may be the best thing for your future. there WILL be someone for you, dont feel as if this is the end of the road for you. You cant change the way he feels, and you dont want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you. the beat advice I can give is to try your beat to let all anger and jealousy take a back seat and handle yourself with grace. It will be hard as hell now but you will thank yourself later. Stay strong!
Im am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Hugs to you. You deserve to be happy, remember that. What may feel like the end of the world now may be the best thing for your future. there WILL be someone for you, dont feel as if this is the end of the road for you. You cant change the way he feels, and you dont want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you. the beat advice I can give is to try your beat to let all anger and jealousy take a back seat and handle yourself with grace. It will be hard as hell now but you will thank yourself later. Stay strong!
Thanks for your advice. He is a good guy though he is also very selfish. I feel like this is him trying to get out without hurting my feelings and not wanting to work on things. He didn't want to cheat on me but if we're separated he can explore his options. I'm not evil, he'll have to do something bad for me to keep the kids from him but I think I'll start planning for this to become a divorce because I don't want to be his leftovers just because his future girlfriend didn't stick. I did tell him that I wanted him to wait until the baby is born to start seeing anyone else because I didn't think it was fair to me for him to sleeping with someone else while I'm home knocked up with his kid. He agreed when I get my grad school admissions sorted out I'll decide what to do about this. Thanks for letting me vent.
When one door closes another one will open! His actions sounds like an 18 year old!!! start treating/pampering yourself. Hopefully you have some good girlfriends! I would kick him out now if he is still living with you!
I am sorry to hear your going thru this especially while Carrying his child. Sound like bs, he admitted having attraction for someone else....the trial separation sounds like a way to make him feel better if he strays. So the big question is are you going to put up with it? If he is leaving for a year and not wanting to work on your marriage are you willing to hang in there? Maybe this is a good thing, the man made for you is out there! It might make you feel better to take control, file divorce. Move on with your life, you deserve happiness! !! Goodluck sorry such a long post
I'd say sure let's separate. I wouldnt wait around for him after everything you've done for your family and him. I say tell him that. I get so mad at my sister bc after 23 years of.marriage and 4 kids she just signed a lease for her own apartment and Then told my brother in law after the fact. They got together at 16 and got pregnant when she was 17. She never had to work a day in her life he did everything for.her. my nieces are 22 & 21 my nephews are 13 & 15 and once my oldest niece graduated she went and got her RN. Now she makes.great money and all kg a sudden isn't happy. But she says that it isn't permanent. BULLSH*T I told.my brother in law she has lost her damn mind. He should file seperation papers.legally and then collect.alimony. after everything he did for her the last 20+ years. Now all she wants to do is go.screw.around with doctors at her work. Ef that. if it was me momma I'd file some legal papers to show him your not going to let him walk all over you.
He's willing to support you? My goodness, how very kind of him! (Insert sarcasm here) He's going to have to continue supporting that baby for the next 18 years so he'd better get used to it. I'm sorry you're going through this sweetie. But you can do it. And you'll meet sometime someday who knows your worth.
My heart goes out to you. I'm in a similar situation. It's so hard. But life will continue on and so must we.
He's 35. He has never "broken up" with someone and he's admitted to being attracted to someone else. Said that he is willing to support us financially until I graduate with my BA. I find it highly irritating but maybe it's for the best because we don't have much of a sex life and as a result this baby was kind off a surprise. Trying to move past the shock and hurt to be ok with this but it's hard. This will be our second child together and all I can think of is how I wanted to break the cycle. I wanted my kids to have a father in not just their life but their home. I didn't want to be a statistic.
You will be ok hun believe me I've been separated since I was 5 months pregnant im now 33 weeks I've been with my hubby since I was 11 years old we were in 6th grade. I know if it's ment to be all will work out in the end. Just keep ur head up love :)
And by the way "I want you to be happy and I know I don't make you happy" is as lame as "I need to break up with you because you're too good for me and I'm holding you back". *vomits a little*
I think you should tell him make up his mind, does he want to be married or not. Period.
You need to make decisions for your own life and dangling at the end of a rope isn't going to help you.
I think you should tell him make up his mind, does he want to be married or not. Period.
You need to make decisions for your own life and dangling at the end of a rope isn't going to help you.
Im sorry to hear this...my fiance of three years just got cought cheating hes been living a double life so to speak.. Im beside myself right now im due in a week and we share a home im crying for days even tho i no its not good for the baby i cant help it...i had no idea we were having issues! He works six days so I've been home w the kids ..the hardest part is picking up the pieces and starting over alone..but we have to do it for our young ones..i wish u the best
A "trial separation"? Does that translate as "I want to have sex with other women for awhile and I'll let you know if I want to come back to you"?
How old is he?
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