horrible father inlaw?!

[laurenfayxo]

Yesterday me&my boyfriend told his father that we expecting he didn't really seem phased by it but today me&my boyfriend went with his father to do some work and he took us to the abortion clinic and told us that we either get an abortion or he will buy the pill online and will put it in my food so that I get the abortion that way. He then barged me in the stomach when I refused to walk in there. The thing is we haven't asked for any of his help, the only thing we asked for was his support and he seems to think his support is trying to black mail me into having an abortion?
I've told him that it has probably come as a shock to him but he said he already knew?!
I honestly don't know what to do? I'm definitely not getting an abortion but I just don't see how he can be like that.
Should I just tell him that if he isn't willing to support us and that he wants his first grandchild dead then he doesn't have to be involved with the child?!

[laurenfayxo]

Turns out my boyfriends father has persuaded my boyfriend so he broke up with me. I'm on my way back to my home state to live with my parents.

[luxah]

Thats a stupid reason. There are plenty of people out in this world under the age of 28 havin babies and do just fine. Its your life, your babies, and you've already said you're not getting an abortion. So just ignore him and do for you and your growing family.

[specialmom]

Well, if you two are adults, stable financially, living on your own and not at home and not teens, then this is an odd response to a pregnancy.  What's the deal with age 28?  I could see a parent being upset that the landscape of their kid's life and future was going to change dramatically due to an unplanned pregnancy but that is more when someone is a teen, just starting out and not quite in a stable place (or in college, those kinds of things).  Do you work too?  Do you two live together?  Is it because you aren't married?  Is he religious--- well, probably not if he is wanting you to get an abortion.  

Just seems like an over the top response and I'm wondering what I'm missing.  

[laurenfayxo]

His son works full time, his father just doesn't agree with a baby being brought into this world by someone under the age of 28

[specialmom]

Well, he definitely should not lay his hands on you.  He has a right to be upset and to ask his son to convince you to have an abortion if he truly feels it is a bad idea for the two of you to have a baby---  that's unfortunate, but not like hitting someone in the stomach.

He seems very opposed to this baby.  Is his son in college, a working man?  

[luxah]

I think you can press charges for threatening your childs life by him stating that he will buy the pill and put it in your food. There was a story in the news about a boyfriend doing that to his girlfriend and I think they charged him with murder, it happened a year ago I think. (Could be wrong though). But yes stay far far away. To me it doesnt sound like you guys are living with him, and if you are you need to run away before he does something even more drastic. Even of he were to get those pills and somehow slipped it into your food, praying he doesn't,  and you end up loosing the baby. Press charges for murder (I believe you can because it was your intention of keeping the pregnancy), and receiving medication from an unlicensed professional. Its a crime to administer drugs of any kind without a prescription. And later in life thats your choice of letting him in or not. Me personally would never go near the ******* again. Good luck, keep yourself safe.