my husband tired to confront her name ask her about it. but she didn't Wana talk that she had smoked n brink a couple beers n left to her room n never came back out. her her boyfriend started crying cuz he didn't no she was doing that n has been good friends with my husband for many years before knowing her. I dnt think I can ever talk to her the same again..
I'm with rockrose. Next time she calls or comes over, tell her you are busy and can't talk right now. And every time after that, when she calls or comes over or asks you for anything (especially money!!) tell her NO.
You need to stop letting her walk all over you and you need to take charge of this. The more times in a row that you tell her NO, eventually she will get the message.
I don't think you need to have a big confrontation - that always escalates. Just shut her out. When she asks for something say oh sorry can't, I'm busy. Don't overdo the apology. Next time, sorry, I'm busy. It's certainly not a lie - you must be VERY busy!
It's amazing how great your life can be if you only gravitate to people who are positive and encouraging.
I've taken better care my kids then her.. her daughter has been arrested and into mental Institutes..she does drugs and drinks. and she has the verve to say things about me an my kids.. I'm 27 I dnt do drugs or go out with friends or drink. I'm pretty much to myself n the kids the only place I go out this my sister and my moms. an she has been telling peoplethat I have been sayingthings about other girl.. how can I if I dnt hangout with that girl o talk to her so I can talk really say anything if I dnt no.
Quite literally... Block her out. Its none of her business, your life, your body, your family. Personally speakin I've no quams telling someone to butt out and that my dear is exactly what you nees to do. As for giving her money, don't. In fact she needa to be returning it to you.
I might soubd harse, but I'm sick of people thinking the world revolves around them. You've kids to about!