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hey does anyone have a siginifacant other that is in the military or is away?
i just took my boyfriend to basic this morning and this whole month ive done nothing but cry. now i cry even more its to the point where im getting sick im so upset. i dont really know how to stop crying. i was doing good when i was talking to his mom but i cant just hang out with his mom everyday until he gets back. any suggestions on how what to do?
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thank you. any suggestions on hobbies. im hoping that i get two jobs and that will keep my mind busy. but he graduates in march and was suppose to have a month before going to ait now there only giving him 3 days and he will miss the birth and the first two months. but i struggle getting out of the house because my only friend is my boyfriend my other friend lives hours away.
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My hubby went to bmt when i was pregnant, it was hard but i just continued working till he was back
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My hubby went to bmt when i was pregnant, it was hard but i just continued working till he was back
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Yes yes yes
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I know exactly what your going through, my husband was on basic training with my first baby and I was so depressed but my pregnancy was high risk and I try to at least do something with my family and he meet my Lil boy when he was 1 month old :/, with my second pregnancy I was so happy he wasn't deploy or training, and this is my last pregnancy and he is with me I'm almost done but once he born he get his vacation and then he is going for a training that last a whole month :/...my advice for you is try to find a hobby I know it's to hard on us and more if we are pregnant I can't tell you dnt get depress or dnt cry but try not cause all that affect alot on your baby I told you for my experience with my first bby I pass through alot my grandpa and my dad passed away when I was pregnant and then my hubby left I had to much, and when my bby born he cry affect during the night every time when my bby sleep he cry and now he is 5 yrs old and he do that, but I wish you the best for you and your baby  and try something different, and also try to write him alot I did that and help me alot
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Yup my first pregnancy i had to do all alone because my boyfriend was in iraq he wasnt even there for the birth. Its very hard.
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I have not been in this situation so I am in no place to offer suggestions but just wanted to thank you and your boyfriend for your sacrifice! You should both be so proud of yourselves!
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Invite someone over and cook for them. Or make something that sounds really yummy.
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Hobbies are a life saver, as well as just getting out. Look at classes for you and the baby, they are everywhere and most are free, you'll gain a new connection with your soon to be. Writing, scrapbooking, crafts, friends, basically distractions of things you like. Plus you can make all kinds of memories to share when he gets home and when your baby gets older
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thank you both. what do i do about eating though im so upset that i dont want to eat or if i do i just pick at it and then barf
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I know exactly what your going through. My husband was deployed my whole last pregnancy, he came home when she was a week old, but only bc she was 6 weeks early and in the nicu. Its so hard, I made plenty of mistakes and let myself get seriously depressed. Be sure to keep busy, set a routine for yourself and get a hobby or interest you can commit to while he is away. Use this time as good training for the future. Being a military wife is hard work! If you commit yourself fully and stay strong it is so worth it. You can do it sweety!
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You need to find a hobby. And while he is in basic write him letters.
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