please help me

[190915]

He made me pregnant now he does not want to b with me anymore. Been together for 3 years now he telling me he not sure about how he feels about me. I dnt know what to do just want to kill myself

[ribaby15]

he showed up at my ultrasound appt. the next day.
I reiterated how hurt I still was and how I did not want to see him, and wasn't sure if I EVER wanted to see him again.
I heard from his sister in law that in December, he said if he was going to have another baby - he would want it to be with his ex. And then still tried to have a baby with me.
Now I'm the one stuck hurt and alone with another mouth to feed because he had no balls to end things then.
so dumb.

[190915]

Oh my gosh that is so terrible. He sounds like a real ***!! Thank you for sharing your story with me. Its good to know that i am not alone

[ribaby15]

I know EXACTLY how you feel.
Me and my (now ex) fiancé were TRYING for a baby after we lost our son at 16wks in September.
6 days after I found out I was pregnant (the 1st week of Jan), he drops the bomb he wants to get back with his ex...
Boom, done. No questions asked.
We had NO issues at all, we were madly in love.
He acted like i'm going to lose this baby too, (because I had a gush of blood at about 6wks) which hurts :( and other times he would cuddle up to me and puts his hand on my belly. Saying he was holding his baby.
I texted him Friday saying I wish he'd change his mind and he said no :(
I moved out this past weekend. And told him I never want to speak to him again, basically.
I'm almost 12wks now and just had another gush of blood. I'm scared because I might lose the baby. I want to text him, but I cant... Why would I want to give him the satisfaction of me losing OUR baby?
Please if you need someone to talk to. Im here for you as I'm going through more or less, the same thing.
It's hard because our lives were so planned out, and then at the drop of a dime... he changed his mind for someone he (and his entire family) said he cant stand and made him miserable.

[JuliaLindsayDawn]

Don't think about harming yourself princess.. It's not easy to put your feelings for him aside but you are not only thinking about your life now you are responsable for one more!! I'm going through something simalar, I know how it feels and you need to just hold yourself higher than him and keep yourself healthy and possitive for that baby. With him or not the baby's coming and whatever will be will be. If he's smart he will come back around and be apart of his child's life, don't push anything because we are not in control. Stay possitive by keeping busy and not thinking about him think about that little baby and staying healthy :) I will pray for you and wish you good luck and happiness you can do this!!!:)

[tinaabinaa]

Yes, I agree with special mom. Please talk to someone. You will get thru this

[190915]

Thank you so much. I rrly neended that. I love him so much cant believe he could do this since he wanted a child.

[specialmom]

I am oh so very sorry you are going through this difficult situation.  People sure can let us down, can't they?  Stay strong.  No man or ANYONE is worth our life.  You have options regarding the child if you feel you can't do it alone---  there is always adoption for example.  Or if you keep the baby on your own, you will make it through like so many others do hon!  We women are so able to deal with so much and take care of business!  It feels awful now but time heals the pain of a break up!  If you really do feel like you could hurt yourself, I urge you to reach out.  Talk to someone--- your family, close friends, etc.  And suicide prevention hotlines have someone on the other end ready to listen and help you.  

Let me know if I can help you.  peace and big hugs