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update :( please read

hello everyone I am really new to this I just found out on Feb 24th that I was pregnant and about 13 weeks along only dated because it was the last and only time I had sex with my ex or anyone at all.  I called and told my ex that I was pregnant and he seemed excited however after talking to his parents they made him feel like I was just making up everything and so I told him to come with me to an appt at the dr's and he could ask anything he wanted, however he said that he couldn't afford to drive up here because he lives a couple hours away.  he wanted me to sign a medical release so that he could call my doctor and I said  I wouldn't do that because it was an invasion of my privacy but that when my doctor returned from vacation I would get him to write down my conception date and expected due date because the replacement one was trying to charge me to have him write down the estimated conception date and the due date and I wouldn't pay $75 when I knew my doctor would sign the paper for free for me.  They pretty much straight out told me that I was not pregnant and I had to provide them with proof after I had invited him to doctors appt's with me so if i wasn't that would be pretty stupid then this past friday they decided that his parents wanted to talk to my mother however she has been sick and I haven't gotten much of a chance to sit down and talk with her so I didn't tell her because my sister told be that It was not a good time to because if she is too stressed she would be hospitalized as she is a cancer patient and we have had several close to family deaths within the month.  I told his mom that I would talk to my mom and then have her call them in a few days after we worked out our issues.  (they were rude like this after I had stated that I did not want his money that wasn't why I had called and I had told him that if he didn't want it I would figure out how to raise the baby with my family alone as I have a good paying job and a great family) However saturday night I started to bleed a lot and went in to the hospital and they told me that I was miscarrying they had done an emergency US and they said they baby had not grown since about 11 weeks and gave me medication through an iv to help me finish miscarrying and sent me home after with pain killers.  I spent yesterday in bed bawling my eyes out and feeling like everything was my fault.  I am really upset which I know is understandable because I got really excited for the baby I mean I had even picked out which crib I was going to get for the baby.  And now I don't know how to tell the dad and his parents that there is no baby now without them saying that I am lying because right now I really don't think that I can handle it.  (I thought about asking my sister to call them, but she doesn't know how rude they were too me through all of this and if they were rude to her like they have been to me making me cry everytime and treating me like a liar there would be a huge over the phone fight) I have NEVER been called a liar so many times in my life and I really don't know what to do please if anyone has some help, guidence, ideas, or even just comforting words right now it is all greatly appreciated I am really upset and lost :'(
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The reason I don't know his number is because I only ever had my cell phone and so his home number was programmed in there and I always just typed in his name and not the number, I am really bad at remembering numbers.  I have his number now I am just choosing not to use it because I want nothing to do with him right now because he just puts me on such an emotional roller coaster like no one else ever has and I hate it because I am not really an emotional girl
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The fact that you don't know his phone number makes me wonder about the relationship to begin with.
Glad you got your point across, and no this is not the relationship for you.  Of course he was nice, he now owes you nothing. You could have put a huge damper on his life as far as he and his family is concerned and now that is nothing he has to deal with.
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I broke my phone so I didn't have his number any more so I sent him an email telling him and I told him that if he had any questions he could ask me or call me but that if it was just a way to make me cry that I would just hang up.  I told him that if he had anything rude, desrespectful, degrading to say to me that he could keep it to himself becaue I knew it wasn't easy for him but that I was going through enough without his family saying rude and hurtful things to me and I said that I didn't call right away because every time I got off the phone with them I was in tears and they were fine.  He sent me back a message appologizing and was so nice that he made me cry but we aren't talking anymore and although I still miss the good times with him because they were so good and he was so incredibly wonderful when we were dating this just showed me once again that it is not what I am looking for and that I need to find someone that would respect me no matter what and not have insane emotional changes every 2 days
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I'm sure you were discharged from the hospital with papers. Maybe photo copy them and send them a copy. Say that you lost the baby and it is a very sad time for you right now. I just don't understand the relationship you had with this fellow to have him not be on your side 100%. Sounds to me that you should send a letter with the copy of discharge and close this chapter of your life. It is very sad that you have lost your baby, but miscarriages happen for a reason. It was nothing you did. The baby must have had an abnormality that caused it to abort itself. Now that you see you didn't have your "boyfriend" or his parents on your side, walk away a clean slate. You will heal inside and out. It may take time. Don't take any phone calls from your bf or his family until you are ready to deal with the accusations.  It may be a relief off of the parents so they actually might be nice. No way to tell though.
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its ok guys I mean I just found out that I was pregnant I shouldn't be so upset but I mean I was so far along so it was constantly in my head and I spent all of my time at work just figuring out how I was going to deal with them and how I was going to raise the baby without needing money from him and then I started getting ideas for decorating the room and i am just so crushed and really don't want to call and tell him :'( I don't want to get called a liar again I know he is going to say that I made it all up I mean they said that I was making stuff up last saturday and they needed proof that I was even pregnant (I mean I told him he was more then welcome to come to the dr with me that would be pretty stupid to say if I wasn't pregnant) I don't know what to do and I'm stuck sitting at work depressed and super emotional it is like I am in a zombie state right now, and my body doesn't handle medication or pain killers especially very well so I feel kind of high as well.  This is horrible

And I am finishing school this week I write my final exams on thursday and saturday for college so I don't even get time to focus on me until after that :'(
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im sorry for putting my pregnancy tracker on i'm quite new to this aswell and didnt know what i was pressing still thinking of you hun xx
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I am so sorry you are going through this! I agree with emmiesmam, sounds like his parents are jerks. They are more concerned with the paternity of the baby than it's actual health. You need to concentrate on yourself and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers! Take care of yourself!
xxoo
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so sorry to hear about your sad loss please just concentrate on gettin yourself better and put his parents to the back of your mind for now they dont sound like very nice people my thoughts and best wishes are with you. Look after yourself hun xxx
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