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19 married and pregnant

Hello i am a 19 year old and found out this week that i am pregnant. my husband and i don't want to tell any of our family an tell we have consulted a doctor about it. I really just need to talk to some women who have been through something similar to this. My husband is amazing and does everything he can to help and is so supportive, but he just is not a woman he has not and never will go through this. At least not like I am. I just really am looking for an older woman out there who has gone through something like this.
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11886352 tn?1439436334
Well what kinds of questions do you have? A good book for a newly pregnant mom is what to expect while your expecting, it breaks pregnancy down for you week by week and has a ton of info. Im sure you can by it onlin or at a bookstore. Lots of women choose to wait to share their news with family until after their 12 week of pregnancy. If you have an Obgyn make an appt, if not, look in your area for midwives or obgyns.  
11356079 tn?1421357818
I was 19 with my fist. We didn't want to tell either. His mother found out because she found a baby name book. She gave him footie pajamas and said, "I think you'll be needing these." lol...anyways, basically pregnancy can make you tired, nauseous and uncomfortable (in short). congratulations! btw I'm 31 now and expecting #3.
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Well coming from your shoes I got married at 18 when I had my first child. We lived on our own in till I went back with my parents. There was some negativity towards it all but at the end of the day it was still my child and that man was still my husband.....
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I was also 19 with my 1st 23 with my 2nd and now 28 having my 3rd . Its definitely easier when your younger. You body bounces back alot quicker.you have alot more energy and your still gonna be a good mom doesnt matter your age. You should tell people whenever your ready . its gonna be amamzing. My son is 8 almost 9 and ive actually loved growing up with him.
11587059 tn?1427628263
I was newly 18 when I got married. Got pregnant at 19. Now I'm 20 about to have our baby boy any day now. My husband is military which makes things a little harder for us. He is getting deployed a lot for the next 3 years. Us getting pregnant was completely unplanned and out of nowhere. He didn't tell his family till I was in my second trimester. I told my parents when I was only 4 weeks bc I knew they wouldn't be happy and needed the time to deal with it. Now our baby couldn't have more excited grandparents on my side. His parents don't give a crap about the baby at all. Which makes things easy!
11587059 tn?1427628263
Oh and my husband through this has been not all that supportive. I've had a very awful pregnancy. In and out of the hospital. He'd make me call 911 bc he wanted to sleep. He'd tell me I'm being weak and i need to work out to get toned instead of fat. He wouldn't let me get anything for the baby. I'm happy to say now though that he is so excited and very happy that we are about to have our baby boy!
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i had my son at 17 got married at 18 i told my parents when i was 5months because thats when i found out rhey did get mad then they got over it with this pregnancy i didnt tell nobady until after 12 weeks because anything could hapend in the first 3 months and congrats on your baby
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Just yesterday I found out exactly which part of the body the baby comes out of and I know that sounds strange but i had very protective parents, protective to my own harm. So my husband being the medical guy that he is decided to pull out his emt book and scared the daylights out of me. So right now my biggest question is, and i know every pregnancy how much this is going to hurt?
11587059 tn?1427628263
It's going to hurt. Not going to lie.. it's going to be the worse pain ever but it'll all be worth it. I'm having contractions every 2 minutes now and I want to rip my back muscles out of my butt and rip my uterus out of my stomach!
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Im 18 and 24 weeks and everything hurts! Haha my back hurts my feet hurt my stomach hurts (all bc of streching body parts) but i love it and hate it all at the same time!! All the pain is worth it when i feel my son kicking around inside me. Im a ftm so i really cant tell u how much labor is going to hurt. But everyone is different. Good luck mama everything will be just fine!
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hi, I'm 19 &&, my two & only best friend is my baby daddy &&, his older brother . I have no girlfriends to talk to. I recently found out I am 9 weeks pregnant. my babydaddy & I at the moment we are butting-heads because we don't know what to do &&, we are to afraid to tell anyone . I cry because I don't have any friends to talk to &&, pour my heart out . looking for a great long term friend (:
11587059 tn?1427628263
Ahdiamond. Feel free to message me! I have all the time in the world to talk :)
13167 tn?1327194124
To  Cadida.  You are an adult,  you're married,  and now you're pregnant.  

CONGRATULATIONS!  

2194701 tn?1432394206
I'm 22 and pregnant with mine and my husband first. I recommend you write down all your questions and take them to your first OB appointment. Some they will push off till further along, sometimes they can send you to a support group for first time mothers. I'm planning on going to one soon.

Get coconut oil and Palmers stretch mark oil from Walmart and start rubbing it on your belly and breaststroke (helps with stretch marks). Try not to scratch your itchy skin (if you have to scratch do it through your shirt).

Don't be afraid to have sex just don't be rough.

Some people have morning sickness, I did not. Some people get really bad acid. I am one of those, anything slightly spicy is out for me. If you do get morning sickness ginger snaps. If you get acid, peppermint, tums, I like milk. Also sit up, do not lay down with acid! Prop yourself up with pillows or lay in a recliner. Be prepared to be exhausted, it will dim in the second trimester and kick back in the third.

I live in Missouri and our Schnucks has a great program, if your OB writes you a prescription you get a years worth of free prenatals.

You can find out what you're having around 16-20 weeks, depends on your doctor and baby. Some women feel "flutters" around 13 weeks of pregnancy. I felt Aspen move at 14 weeks. Everyone said it was gas but I just knew it was her. At about 16 weeks I felt her kick. They only get stronger from there. In between appointments if I have questions I Google a lot and I spend a lot of time on pinterest for helpful tips. Best of luck! :) and congratulations!
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I think if your already pregnant and you've only just found out how babies are born then you really need to tell people around you and speak to docs (ask loads of questions) there is so much to know about pregnancy, birth and afterwards and that knowledge is important. You are already pregnant so your parents are gonna find out sooner or later and in my opinion it's better sooner, after all you are an adult and married I'm sure they expected it to happen anyway.

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