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Anyone deal with cps?
I can't lose my babies I just can't:,,(
Someone called cps on my husband and I and idky. I think it was my mother in law.
I haven't talked to the cps lady. But yesterday she came with a cop, idk what to do:,,,( I've done nothing wrong.
Someone called cps on my husband and I and idky. I think it was my mother in law.
I haven't talked to the cps lady. But yesterday she came with a cop, idk what to do:,,,( I've done nothing wrong.
Hi mamac. Gosh, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I can read in your posts that you are worried and scared and it is always scary when you feel like you are being evaluated/judged/etc. with such high stakes. Look at it this way-- this is a chance to 'show off' that you are a great mom.
What I know of CPS is that they do NOT want to separate kids from parents. That is a last resort. Even in abuse cases, kids might be removed but parents are given every opportunity to improve things and bring their babies home. And from what you say, there is no abuse/neglect-- so you have nothing to fear sweetie.
Even if someone made up lies, they would have to prove it. That does happen and CPS figures it out. Now, say your partner has been doing something wrong or illegal--- you two are sepeare entities as well. If he's on drugs, for example. You could be with the kids while he can't.
I do find his reactions unusual. Hiding and leaving with the kids will not make the problem go away and might draw more attention that they interpret as negative. I think you can tell your partner that you are handing it this way---- call cps proactively and invite them or be available to them. Don't call his mom as she sounds difficult and you don't want any more drama or reasons for her to go after you (if it was her).
Try not to worry. It will be over when you deal with them--- putting that off just prolongs things. If your boyfriend was abusive--- he's in the hot seat, it's not both of you. Remember that. good luck and do let us know how it goes!
What I know of CPS is that they do NOT want to separate kids from parents. That is a last resort. Even in abuse cases, kids might be removed but parents are given every opportunity to improve things and bring their babies home. And from what you say, there is no abuse/neglect-- so you have nothing to fear sweetie.
Even if someone made up lies, they would have to prove it. That does happen and CPS figures it out. Now, say your partner has been doing something wrong or illegal--- you two are sepeare entities as well. If he's on drugs, for example. You could be with the kids while he can't.
I do find his reactions unusual. Hiding and leaving with the kids will not make the problem go away and might draw more attention that they interpret as negative. I think you can tell your partner that you are handing it this way---- call cps proactively and invite them or be available to them. Don't call his mom as she sounds difficult and you don't want any more drama or reasons for her to go after you (if it was her).
Try not to worry. It will be over when you deal with them--- putting that off just prolongs things. If your boyfriend was abusive--- he's in the hot seat, it's not both of you. Remember that. good luck and do let us know how it goes!
What does he know that you don't know, MamaC? It really sounds like he knows something, maybe HE's done something, and he has reason to fear.
Call and talk to her. Don't hide it will make things a lot worse.
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Wish this wasn't happening.
You have a lot of ways that you can deal with then some might not be as great as others. Don't make it worse. The only way to know what they are looking for is to ask them.
Ugh. My husband is making it worse. He don't want them coming in so he makes me leave with the kids .
I might call her and ask what it's about
I might call her and ask what it's about
Don't avoid them that will give them reason to possibly think you have something to hide. Let them come in and do their walk thru and talk to them
Is it bad that we leave before they show up? Only reason I was home when she showed up with a cop is because she came 2 hours after her job
Mama, they won't just come right in and take them. It's a process of the court. Unless something horrific is going on when they arrive, this will be a discussion/interview format.
And you're right, it IS scary. Hang in there, this will pass.
And you're right, it IS scary. Hang in there, this will pass.
Well I'm with them 24/7. Idk just when I talk to them I hope they don't try to say something that's not true and take them. I've been doing nothing but crying because it's scary
Well, they'll check out whatever allegations anyone made.
Sometimes it's for something like leaving them unattended - and there's no real way to prove or disprove that, and it certainly won't leave any "marks".
The best way to approach this, Mama, is to act open to their investigation and treat them with respect, and not make overly angry statements against your mother in law.
Sorry you're having to go through this.
Sometimes it's for something like leaving them unattended - and there's no real way to prove or disprove that, and it certainly won't leave any "marks".
The best way to approach this, Mama, is to act open to their investigation and treat them with respect, and not make overly angry statements against your mother in law.
Sorry you're having to go through this.
They have food, they're bathed, they have toys, we take them to their doctor appointments, they're not beat, they're healthy, my son is 1 and hasn't been sick once .
Idk who called but I think it's my mother in law. She hates me, she's said "I'll get your kids taken away" to me more than once when I wouldn't let her up my kids butt, and yesterday when my husband asked for her help she said she won't sooo
Idk who called but I think it's my mother in law. She hates me, she's said "I'll get your kids taken away" to me more than once when I wouldn't let her up my kids butt, and yesterday when my husband asked for her help she said she won't sooo
Yes, the kids can be "fine and healthy" and taken away by CPS if there's abuse and/or neglect.
But they really don't want to - they want to work with the parents when possible. And often, the report of abuse is determined to be "unfounded" and the case is closed.
But they really don't want to - they want to work with the parents when possible. And often, the report of abuse is determined to be "unfounded" and the case is closed.
Ugh it's just scary.
My husband and I read some stories that cps would take the kid even if the kids are fine and healthy
My husband and I read some stories that cps would take the kid even if the kids are fine and healthy
So she came by, but you weren't there?
CPS doesn't want to take your kids, and will work to keep your kids at your home if it's possible. There are way too few foster care homes to take kids without good reason, so you can rest a little easy there.
Until you find out why they were there, it's hard to know what else to tell you.
Best wishes.
CPS doesn't want to take your kids, and will work to keep your kids at your home if it's possible. There are way too few foster care homes to take kids without good reason, so you can rest a little easy there.
Until you find out why they were there, it's hard to know what else to tell you.
Best wishes.
When they come they tell you why they are there. If you take care of them correctly they won't have reason to take them
They won't take then without a good reason.
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