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Bad Influences On My Daughter

Me and my husband recently moved back to California because were expecting our second baby and wanted to be closer to family. Were still looking for a place of our own but in the mean tine were staying at his moms house. She has three kids.. an 8 year old and a 7 year old (both girls) and a 5 year old boy. The kids are a nightmare. They scream at the top of their lungs when they dont get their way. They hit and fight eachother, scream at their parents and completely ignore anything you say to them. They are so spoiled and their mom and dad do not enforce any rules they let them do whatever they want. My almost 2 year old daughter watches everything they do and is starting to copy their bad behavior. They are constantly in her face bugging her and trying to make her do things and pick her up which she hates. I don't want her around them but every time I bring it up to my husband he gets mad that I complain about it all the time and just says their is nothing we can do. No matter how many times I tell them to leave her alone or to stop doing something they completely ignore me.When I put my daughter down for her nap they scream and yell and I ask them over and over to please be quiet while she takes a nap but they don't listen at all. And I can tell whevever I tell them what to do his mom gets mad and thinks I'm mean to them. I'm just so overwhelmmed and I'm about to have another baby in September and hate waking up everyday uncomfortable and unable to control the environment my daughter is in. Any advice would help...
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Hey that sounds like a complicated situation. I can only tell you to talk to your husband and convince him to get your own place. That will be the best
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Hi, I am sorry about that. All I can say is I wish you all the best in finding a place of your own. Trust God, he is faithful.
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Wow! You're in an ugly situation. You have to talk to your husband not sounding like you're complaining but more concern about your environment & your situation. You have to control your 2 years old now as this is a very vulnerable stage for her. She will copy everything she hears or see.
Praying & keeping your faith in God also helps. Ask God for your husbands understanding & support for you, your daughter & your baby.
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Find an apartment quick. Or something. I personally couldn't stay there.
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I agree with lksykirk, get an apartment until you find a house or you are going to end up messing up your relationship with your husband over those bad *** kids. Lol
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I'm losing my mind here. Every morning is just choas and screaming. I specifically buy orange juice for myself to have with breakfast in the morning and I even bought stickers to put on the food I don't want them to touch and the 5 year old boy (who is the worst of all of them) asks to have orange juice with every meal (and screams at the top of his lungs he's told no). Normally I would not care at all to share what we buy with them but this kid is such a brat and his parents won't buy orange juice knowing that he drinks it every day they just keep using the juice I buy. I know it probably sounds petty because its just juice lol but it bothers me sooo bad that they won't just tell him no that's not ours and just go buy their own dang orange juice. I asked the boy yesterday to please stop touching my daughters face and he looked at me and said "No. I'm going to do it whenever I want". We are stuck here for a while because we used most of our savings to move across the country and don't have much left saved or I would already be signing a lease for an apartment. I just don't know how much more I can take before I lose it. God give me patience lol
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This sounds awful. If I were you, I would try reasoning with the parents but honestly if that doesn't work just take things into your own hands.  Get a small mini fridge to keep in your room, take your daughter to parks or a public library or anywhere else during the day, and as far as another kid touching your daughter I would just end it. She's your daughter and rules that affect her directly can be enforced by you no matter what the relationship is to other children.
I would also think of some nice but firm statements in case anyone does question your decisions. That way you can avoid a nasty remark when you're angry or backing down when you aren't.
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My dad lives about and hour away so I think I'm just going to stay with him on the weekends cuz my husband works all weekend anyway and I can't be here by myself with them. Thanks for all the support and advice. Its nice to have people to vent to!!! Lol
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I personally would stay with my dad altogether. The stress is not good for you or your baby at this time. And your daughter is at a very impressionable age. Talk to your dad about the situation and let your husband know how this is affecting you and potentially your unborn child, not to mention the impact on your two year old. You have to take affirmative action and stand up for yourself and your children.
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I'm going to have to do something because this is ridiculous. They have no respect for us and I'm not going to live like this. My daughter comes first and she deserves better.
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Go move in with your dad. I think it's your best option.

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