Choosing who stays in the room during labor and delivery

[Megan_Koehler18]

How do you choose who will be with you during labor and delivery? I'm 36 weeks and it's pretty much down to the wire. I've chosen who but it seems to be causing problems between family members. Any advice on how to handle this?

[slicktatiana]

It depends what hospital as well", because I only had 1 in the room and that was my fiancee everyone else had to go .

[ShannonLass]

Its ur baby i have only every had myself and hubby in the room when i deliver everyone else has to wait to see baby as its a very special exsperience and only mom and dad deserve to be in the delivery room

[kaylabugsmommy]

If you have the support of daddy. Kick everybody else put that way nobody has an advantage.  But I definitely  have that same problem with my daughter it happen so fast everybody was in the room ( 2 sisters mom best friend and hubby) but this time me and hubby are putting everybody out so it's a little more special  considering this is it lol . Everybody was mad but who cares lol

[weldermom]

with my little boy it was my sister and boyfriend i wouldn't mind if it was the same this time around everything was lovely

[katiij81]

I let my partner pressure me last time & didn't have anyone I wanted there. Now it really upsets me. Second time around I'm doing what I want. Do what is best for you & don't worry about upsetting anyone. They'll soon forget when they're cuddling that baby x

[KineticKim]

I'm only 19 weeks but so far I'm thinking just my husband. I want us to have a chance to spend at least the first 30 minutes to an hour with the baby before anyone else comes in. My first got rushed to the NICU so we got absolutely no bonding time. A quick visit in the hospital can be nice but I'm going to encourage most of our family and friends to come visit once we are home.

[busyme123]

My husband, my mom and my sister for the first. #2 was my husband and sister. #3 just my husband. #4 husband and sister #5 & 6 just husband and with #7 I'm hoping and praying that my sister will make it! (she's 2800 miles away). Choose whoever you're comfortable with :)

[asamya]

I had my husband, and 2 sisters in the room. It was supposed to just be my husband and 2 sister, but hubby was hungry..they didnt offer him food only a soda...so my other sister was on food duty and came and brought him some food. We were under the impression that she was coming soon so my sister stayed, baby didnt come til 8 in the morning lol but they all stayed and gave support. I think this time it will be just my husband and I

[Bree_29]

With my first born it was suppose to be my boyfriend(babies father) and my mom in the room when I was actually pushing, I ended up with an emergency c section at 7 in the morning and only aloud to have one person in the room I left it between the two of them because at that point I was already in labor for 20 hours and it was terrible. My mom let him come in for my c section and he was with me the whole time at the hospital and never left my side, now we are on baby number two and it will be a scheduled c section and it will just be us two and we want to invite everyone over the hospital after I've rested and we get to spend a little bit of time with the baby because with my first born I didn't get any time with him because I was so sore and couldn't move much.

[ctberalmu]

Omg all those comments, it seems like a crowd to me!
I had my hubby with me first time around and it will be the exact same thing this time. I would rather be alone than have anybody else staring at my intimate parts!
Plus, my midwife adviced us not to let mothers in the delivery room because when you become a mom there is a change in role between you, your mom and your child.. And having her in there it messes with this role change

[roflbecca]

Last pregnancy I had
My mom, boyfriends mom, my grandma, and boyfriend in the room
I had several family.members try to sneak their way in but I had them removed.

Giving birth is a VERY intimate thing, at least for me.
This time I will probably have me, boyfriend,and our.mothers.
My best friend will be in.the room as well. I got to watch her delivery!!

[mommyofmelanie]

First time I had a huge audience, which was annoying and made me very tierd ! This time I'm only having my husband and my sister.

[mombojombo]

I do agree it should be whomever will be of comfort to you. But be sensitive to in laws as it is hurtful to have your mom and not his.  I would rather have neither than to make that division and just have my partner.  Good luck!

[ireloc24]

I had a c section so only 2 were allowed. Since it was an emergency at 11:30pm, my mom and husband were the only 2 still there.

I was thinking my husband and his mom this time, but I think my mom really wants to be there again (we we're having another c section)

[C_H]

It is whoever you want it to be. Don't let anyone put any pressure on you. You might find that when you it comes time you might not want anyone there if that is the case have your nurse kick them out.

[swatts919]

I only had my mom and husband in the room for my first baby this time I'm having my mom husband and mother in law I feel it's whoever your most comfortable with but i wouldn't say this to anyone but I go back and forth about asking my mother in law sometimes I'm like yea and other times I'm like why did I