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Emotinal wreck

I feel so sad that I'm alone 24/7 with my son & I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant and my husband chooses to be out with his friends on his week off from work, talking to him about this just goes in one ear and out the other. I hate that I have no one to talk to, I feel so alone and lost. All I want is to feel loved. The only person I talk to throughout my day is my 16 month old. Sometimes I wish I could have stayed with my family and never got married or moved far from them.
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I feel sad if any woman is going through similar feelings. I know the feeling as well and it suks. Im not married and this my 2nd child after 23yrs. Yes...its been a while.
Sometimes I wish I could move away and let him miss out but Id be hurting my unborn ..even tho we dont live together. I didnt realize it hurts worse as an adult to have nobody to talk to but mom and coworkers.
The dad ia already acting like he is not going to adjust his life. These signs make me depressed and regretful... But I stayed prayed up. Best wishes to everyone
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Sounds like you should maybe find a professional counselor that you connect with since sometimes it's easy to get others opinions and we all can be bias! I have been seeing one for my family and it truly helps... it's not easy being pregnant and feeling alone is never easy...
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I really like Rockrose´s idea! Know your not alone but it will take getting out to keet friends and get support. Best of luck to you!!!❤
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I had our day planned out yesterday and as soon as he got home he changed and left right away. I don't have any churches or stuff like that around, only an outdoor mall and a playground where I take my baby to play sometimes. I haven't seen any moms but I def agree my son needs to socialize with other children. Thank you so much ladies, I hope things get better before my daughter is born.  It's a struggle being with a man that has no intention of being mature and growing up.
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Hey mom, please know that you are never alone. Try getting involved with your local church or moms groups there.search Facebook for groups near you.
Don't get depressed or overwhelmed. Seek counseling if your husband doesn't understand what's going on.
I pray that things get better for you & your family
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Daret,  you will never in your life have as many opportunities to form friendships with other women as you do when you have small children.  

I don't know where you live (you do mention it's away from family) but do you have library story hours,  neighborhood parks,  Mom and Me gym classes,  children's museum mom's groups,  MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) at a large church nearby,  etc?  Your baby needs socialization with peers and other adults,  and really,  it is REALLY easy to form friendship when other women have small children too.  

Do you make it easy for your husband to participate in your outings - like,  if you planned a fun outing to a park or a zoo would your husband like that?  Does your husband have guy friends who also have wives and small children you could socialize with?

Best wishes.  
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I have definitely tried talking to him about this since my son was born. It's always been my baby and me since he was a newborn, idk why he acts this way if he had pretty much cried to me how his dad was never there and how he grew up without a dad and how he would never do that to our baby.  I was convinced that he would be there for my son 100% but I was wrong. I get threatened by him that he'll take me to court whenever I don't want to go to his step sister's house and I just laugh because he tells me that I don't "let" him spend time with his son. It's hilarious like you're the one that's gone on your days off. It's not easy at all especially when you're expecting another baby. Thank you so much! It was definitely nice finally being able to just chat with someone else other than my baby boy which I do love talking to but sometimes I need to talk to another adult.  
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You should let him know how youre feeling. It takes 2 to make 1 so he has no reason to be putting all the work on you. Of course its good for the both of you to get out and be with friends. But from what i just read, it seems like theres more to it. If its just thd 2 of you, I feel like you guys should be there for eachother and for your child. Its not fair or easy, i dont like to hear the mother doing everything with no help emotionally or physically when raising a innocent child. I wish you the best! And i hope it all gets better! Your baby needs both parents!
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