How long did you wait to have sex after giving birth?

[BlessedMommy2011]

I know the Dr says 6weeks. But do you really have to wait that long?
I feel really bad because well I was not the nicest during my pregnancy with my son and I have not had sex with my husband since June.
I gave birth 3weeks ago. My husbands keeps bugging for some and well I'm a little scared cause its not 6weeks lol. His birthday is coming up and I would really like to be able to at least do it for his birthday in a couple days but again im scared.... I feel fine and my delivery was easy my son was barely 7lbs. But I am scared of getting pregnant right away ? I have read stories of others and it scares the crap out of me.
My daughter is going to be 3 in a few months and with her I waited 2 months because she was 8lbs 6oz and she did hurt me. But I was already on birth control when we did it.
I am not ready for another baby right off the back as it will be way to hard for me and financially on us.
What did other mommy's do ?

[crystal_soon_to_be_mommy_of_2]

My baby was 7lbs no tearing no stitches my SO bugged me for sex and I gave in at 4 weeks. It messed me up it hurt me to have sex for a whole year I stopped being able to enjoy sex and would be in pain for days after each time because it screwed up the healing process.

[JennJoy24]

You really should wait that long because your body needs time to heal from giving birth. Plus the risks of infection are,pretty high.

[CinSparrow]

My first was 6lbs 5oz and I needed a few stitches. I waited 6 weeks and felt great but every time we tried there was one area inside that hurt. Felt like I had a bruise inside me and had to wait for that to heal. It wasn't where stitches were and I couldn't feel it unless we tried to have sex. Just take it easy and if it hurts wait a bit longer.

[emy_aiden]

I think you should wait mines was 6lb 10 oz i had sex only 4 weeks after giving birth and i was worse pain and bleed a little and my labor was good only had 1 stiches and i took it easy my body just wasent heal i suggest you wait is up to youb

[ladysamwise]

I would wait, it isn't just because of possible tearing, it is also because you have an increased risk of getting an infection. Talk to your husband about it, let him know the doctor's advice, because he may not realize that the doctor said that or remember.

[specialmom]

I'm a big fan of following doctor advice.  We are healing within and that doesn't happen over night.  Six weeks fly by and it's best to do what the doctor says rather than risking hurting yourself. good luck

[BlessedMommy2011]

So Ladies... Me And My Husband Do Try Intercourse , Didn't Really Work ....
Not Cause Of Pain Or Anything But Because I Wasn't Comfortable :/
I Feel Loose? That Sounds Dumb To Say Lol But I Just Do Not Feel The Same At All And Its Kinda Putting Myself Down ?

[AshleyEli87]

It's not the same for everyone. My first two kids I had some stitches so I waited longer but after that I never had stitches. I could have sex earlier cause I barely had any pain and it seems the more kids you have the quicker you heal up. If you think your ready and your not having much pain then try it. Just go slow and if it's to much then stop. It's that simple and no you won't be loose just because you don't wait. I've had six kids and my husband now says I'm way tighter inside then his ex who never gave birth naturally. Sorry if it's to much information lol but its the truth. I find doctors are stern about these kinds of things but midwives are a little more understanding. I refuse to have a doctor anymore it's midwife for me all the way.