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Husbands, BF's, etc rant.

They are all just inconsiderate jerks! I am very emotional and all my husband does is act like a d*ck. I wish men would just get their heads out of their a**es. I'm so tired of having to explain how I'm feeling and still get treated the same way. Seriously men need to open their f***ing ears and grow up and listen to what we are saying. I'm so fed up with it. I should not be dealing with it during pregnancy and neither should any other woman. They need to just stop being jerks and just be there for us and stop begging for sex, or expecting us to cook and clean and do laundry like seriously I can't stand it anymore. I know I'm not the only one. Sorry this is long but men just need to realize how this makes us feel. We feel tired, achy, irritable and unattractive I just wish they would learn but they never will.
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Agreed! I am very fortunate and lucky to have my hubby.  Super supportive throughout the whole pregnancy,  esp towards the end and now that our little munchkin is here via c section. Don't know what I would do without this wonderful man of mine :).  It's sad "some" of these men don't take care of their Preggo women like they should
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I'm Sitting here reading all y'all post and thinking to myself... Don't we all have enough going on to come on a site where women come to get advice,vent or share experiences with other women without getting talked down to for having or not having something someone else has. I completely understand from all point of views. I've been in both sides of relationships. The one where the man just refuses to do anything for me or his children and makes me feel like Crap for asking any little thing from him and dealt with it for 9 years. I'm now lucky enough to have the total opposite type of man. I just think we should be more understanding of each other's situations. There are some of us women out there who have found men who treat us like gold but the women who haven't don't want to listen to us throw it in there faces either. Good luck to all y'all. Happy pregnancies!
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10484110 tn?1411177266
Just because you're miserable doesn't mean you have to be rude.
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10214025 tn?1410965080
To be honest, if you have to have a rant about how "ALL" guys are like that there is about problem. I'm not going to flaunt my man but let me tell you, I sure in he.ll didn't pick a piece of sh*t for a father. Everything I or my unborn son need/want we get no questions asked. It's understandable that your guy might want time to himself but if you can't even get a good morning beautiful than I feel for you. I don't want to be in an argument over something extremely petty, but I don't think the true men out there that are doing what they need to be as a father and a man should be classified as "inconsiderate jerks."
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Aghh I totally get u.... I wish they can feel what we feel for they can have a Lil more of consideration with us. Like we are pregnant and still find time to keep the house clean cook for them and be up and down if they need anything.
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You took the words right out of my mouth, my bf is the same way! when I tell him I'm tired he'll say crap like your only pregnant how tired can you be, or when I'm not in a good mood he'll say stop using the fact that your pregnant to be in a bad mood. I wish men could be pregnant and see how it feels!
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I don't care how amazing your man can be they all have flaws as do all of us women and sometimes its nice to vent about how they pissed us off! People who think everything there partner does is perfect are living a lie we are all human we are going to have issues in our relationships!!
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I don't think its fair to say that the women who have good men shouldn't comment, because I think they are just trying to show that not all guys out there are jerks, that there are some good ones out there. It is extremely unfortunate for the women who have guys that don't treat them the way they deserve to be treated, but it's also good to know that there are some good guys out there that do treat women the way they deserve.
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5255779 tn?1414034937
I think the women who have the great guy shouldn't comment because it then lets us who get the crap treatment  guys fe el even more like crap because we now know they could be doing more then there not
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10248973 tn?1408999792
Oh and how many guys have you been with to say "all men" are like that?  I'm a ftd and disagree with your "rant"
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You couldn't have said it ANY better. My husband had been such an a-hole.
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10248973 tn?1408999792
Sounds like you picked the wrong guy lol
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Well telling by your personal attitude, you don't seem like much of a catch either. So maybe your attitude is attracting these kind of men. Because apparently not all of us are having these issues with ours that you are having. You started off your post with "they are all inconsiderate jerks." & all I & other women are simply saying is, that is not the case with every man. Did I say my husband was perfect? No. But he sure makes my life worth living. He sure wakes up every morning with the intentions of making my day a good day. He sure shows our daughter how a good man talks, acts, & takes care of his family. If you don't have that then that's very unfortunate. But don't go being a debbie downer & pointing fingers at all men just because yours is a slum.
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I'm cat*******
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If that's how you feel then that's how you feel but don't classify all men to the same catigory. No they will never truly understand but some men really do their best to make us happy and as comfortable as possible. And sometimes they need their space and get tired of listening to us complain. Also if he is used to you cooking all the time then yes that is what he will expect
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I'm cow
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You people are getting way too technical I'm just saying in general. I didn't ask about your "perfect husbands" I was just talking as in general most women have that problem.
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Hey Snoo kill yourself your a ***** *****
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Well good for you @athalya. But most are like that. Guarantee he's not the perfect prince either.
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I don't think it's all men to be fair. My fiancé is pretty amazing. When he's home he cooks, cleans, makes me tea. I still do chores and stuff when he is here and when he isn't I obviously do everything. We've got a 17 month old as well as another on the way and my fiancé helps look after him as well. Sometimes he's annoying and won't get off his phone or playstation, but mostly he's pretty awesome.
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I have to disagree. Its not all men. I am almost 5 months preg with my 3rd baby and my bf works all week and soon as he gets home he does the laundry I only have to fold it. He cooks and helps me clean up. And I don't work bc he doesn't want me to work while I'm pregnant so he leaves money for me at the beginning of every week just in case I wanna get out of the house with the kids or need anything. And as far as sex goes. We have sex at least twice a day when he's home because it doesn't feel like an obligation to me he always gets me in the mood first and makes it all about me. I must say I'm very blessed. Oh and when he gets home he will watch the kids and help do their homework so I can nap. I can't say enough good things. I don't know what I would do without him.
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Girl idk what your talking about. My husband rubs my body, talks to me, walks with me, helps with our 1year old daughter, treats me like his bestfriend & a queen. Not all men are jerks. There are some awesome amazing men out there who will love their woman like she's the only thing they have to live for.
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Atleast im not the only one! It's sad that I have to ask my fiancé everyday to act sweet or be nice for just a day and he still can't do that.  Apparently his video game is more important than the woman carrying his son. . I have to ask him to touch/kiss my belly.  I hate it.  I really thought this would be such a special thing in our relationship but he acts like it's nothing. ..
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YES EVERY COMMENT IS SO TRUE . THIS WAT I DISLIKE 'BAE YOU COOKING TONIGHT OR Bae you ain't done laundry .while pregnant women are content with flowey not breezy sun dresses  or when you do get a energy surge to cook  you get no help  with the clean up. Tho I vowed to never make my man eat microwave  food....HE NEEDS TO EAT A NOODLE CUP .
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