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Just need a woman's point of view

Hi ladies. This isn't baby related. I just need the advice of another woman. I am going through a situation with my boyfriend who is also the father of my  unborn child. About four months ago I saw where he and a coworker of his were texting and I came and cross a few texts that were disrespectful. I mentioned it to him and he assured me that he had handled the situation. In October as I was going through our phone bill I saw that he and this same coworker had texted a lot, sometimes starting as early as 7 am and as late as 12am. He and I got into a big argument and he admitted that he deleted the texts because he knew I would be upset and admitted that at times they had gotten disrespectful. He called her and told her they could no longer talk. Fast forward to November and and I get the bill and check it to see if he kept his word. Unfortunately he hadnt. They exchanged 1200 texts from the date that he claimed he told her they could no longer talk. We got into yet another argument and I explained that I felt betrayed because I made it clear that I didn't trust the situation and asked him to stop and he blatantly lied about doing so. He claimed he was going to let her know. I saw where they were still exchanging texts late that night and I took all of his things to his house and told him I was done. He said sorry etc but I was done. The next day he calls and I go over there and we talk and he promises to leave it alone. He deleted her number and I asked him to delete her off Facebook which he did. We are currently trying to rebuild our relationship but last week I saw where they are friends again on facebook. I feel that this is a slap in my face and that he feels that her feelings are more important than mine or maintaining contact with her in a more important. Any advice???? Sorry so long
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In my opinion you should not give him more chances because in the past you have given him chances and he has done same mistake again and again. So the best solution is leave him. You dont need the stress while u r pregnant because u nd ur baby dont deserve it. He should be ashamed of himself because he is cheating on u, he should be looking after u nd the unborn baby. I would leave him now because once ur baby arrives u dont want ur child to suffer as well. He does not deserve u or the baby.
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I wouldn't trust him either. If he's lied once and twice & more don't trust him. Believe me u don't need a man to raise a baby &you deserve better don't feel the need that u wanna stay for the baby because if u do you'll get hurt worser throughout your life with him &keep on finding more stuff. See it like this if plenty of women can be single mom's u can do it too :) & if he keeps on saying sorry n keep messing up then he doesn't regret what he does cause he obviously keeps on disrespecting u and the baby so think for both of yall :)
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Where there's smoke, there's fire. Your bf is being dishonest and they clearly have more going on than he's divulging. I'm so sorry that you are having to endure this, pregnancy is difficult enough and you don't need him adding to that; so, you definitely should consider officially calling this relationship a wrap for the sake of you and your unborn child. I know the divide will hurt but it is best since he cannot get his priorities together....if workplace flirtation means more, let him have it because that has unfortunately take precedent over his family. On this decision you will have to show him just how much you love and respect you and baby and that if he can't do the same he needs to dismiss himself from your life.

Side note: Feel free to express whatever you need to on this app, either a person will answer or not but to the super extremely hormonal ******* woman that mentioned that this isn't what this app is about....the category pregnancy social is precisely for these things. You are pregnant and in need of support regardless of the topic.

Best wishes, congrats on baby and I hope everything works out.
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Um thats a major issue, obviously he has something for her and can't let go. You should be number one priority!!! U need to let him go when you do you'll see what choice he makes and that will give you the answer to what you should do.
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He obviously does not respect your feelings. ***** that you're pregnant by him but this isn't about you anymore. Think about the environment you will be raising the baby in. Arguing and tension is not what you need. Leave him alone. It will get easier with time. And I'm sick of certain people trying to say this isn't the place for posts like this. Some people come here for support because they have nowhere else to go. I had a bunch of haters jump on me a while back for a post.
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Just cut him loose, hes been disrespecting
You all. Along and and ur baby deserve better.
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