My rites if i don't know if I'm the father.

[dsteven]

This girl is 5 months pregnant, claiming I'm the father. she slept with another guy 1.5 weeks before me. I know more about the planet Saturn, then I know about the girl ( one night stand, I'm embarrassed to admit it) my question is, she's claiming when the baby is here she doesn't want me to be around the child or participate in anything besides pay checks for child support. She's acting like this she says because I have helped out in anything while she's pregnant. Should i be helping out in anything even though I am not sure I am the father? If after the blood test is taken and the baby is mine, i will take up responsabilities. But i don't want her or the court to hold me not knowing if I'm the father during pregnancy against me and take away my opportunity of being a good and responsible father. Please help, what can you tell me regarding my rites. I live in California.

[151207]

Don't sign anything get legal advice first and wait till baby is born for dna as the one u get while pregnant can cause miscarriage. Also if I were u I would open a savings account for the baby and put a little bit of money in it every week instead of giving it to her until u get dna results. This should also stand to u in court to prove that u haven't abandoned the baby during pregnancy  but that u are being cautious and waiting for dna but that u have money put aside for baby if it is urs

[151207]

Don't sign anything get legal advice first and wait till baby is born for dna as the one u get while pregnant can cause miscarriage. Also if I were u I would open a savings account for the baby and put a little bit of money in it every week instead of giving it to her until u get dna results. This should also stand to u in court to prove that u haven't abandoned the baby during pregnancy  but that u are being cautious and waiting for dna but that u have money put aside for baby if it is urs

[Nikki148]

DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING PLEASE!!!! Listen to what everyone is saying wait til u get a DNA test!!! Like someone else said if u wanna give diapers n wipes do so as a gift but please wait til u get DNA test b4 signing any form admitting u r the father! U will be responsible for that child financially til it's an adult n that's not a good feeling when it's not urs! tell her u want a DNA test n if she doesn't want to then u know y it's not urs.

[Mamaofdeux]

When the baby is born get a DNA test. DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING until you have the results IN YOUR HAND. Do not just take the girls word for it. If you find you are the father, you will be held accountable for child support, but that will also give you rights like visitation and possibly even partial custody depending on how much you are willing to fight for it. Go talk to an attorney that specializes in family law. If you want to be involved more than just paying child support you'll need to learn how to make a custody agreement. This will be a lengthy process. Good luck

[mags242001]

If you request a DNA while the girl is pregnant it can cause miscarriage n hurt the baby. Beside even if you know it's your b4 the baby is born you can not as for 50/50 custody until the baby is born. N the law doesn't not require you to help her out with the pregnancy. Just if your the dad the law requires you to help with child support for the baby n medical support nothing before the baby is born.

[mags242001]

Well in the state of Texas this is how it works since I work as a case worker for the child support office for 10 years. Legally you r not obligated to help her out with anything b4 the baby is born. If you do it is considered a gift. Now after the baby is born she or you can open up after case n since u two after re not married it is considered a paternity case. They wi ask you if you want a dna  test or if you want to sign a form admitting your the father. Since u don't know ask for the dna. Once u sign that form you can not request a paternity test so don't sign it. Once the test results come back they wi let you both know the results. If it's negative the case will be dismissed n closed. If it's positive then you will sign the form admitting ur the father any they will establish paternity n issue a child support order that will include child support custody medical support n visitations. Since ur not involved with the mom they will start with supervised visitations then unsupervised once the child is 2. Now remember you want to be on the moms good side so she doesn't give u a hassle with visitations because the child support off doe not enforce visitation n usually it hard to enforce thru a private atty also. Let me know if this helps or if you have other questions

[AriellaMer]

Ask her for an amniocentesis. Pay to get a DNA test done now while she's pregnant. You can know before the baby gets here so you can be involved. Then if it is yours, you should request 50/50 custody

[maw4389]

Ya I'd be getting a dna test done as soon as you can. She's being a ****.

[Vins_Girl]

I would consult an attorney on this issue. You don't have to tell her you are doing this either. Every father that wants to be a dad should get the chance. But I also think if you remotely think this child could be yours that you support the mother of your possible child on an emotional level as much as possible. But after the baby is born and you are waiting on paternity test you may also consider buying diapers, wipes, and formula and giving it to the baby. I wouldn't give cash to her though. Also keep records of it all receipts and a calendar of when and what you did, trust me court pays attention when it comes to custody and taking into consideration your actions to support the child.

[Sassy1041]

That's really sad she acting like that .. I have a cousin who was dating a girl who pretty much did the same thing we are from California too long story short she told him he was the father and he believed her come to find out a year after she was born she told him the truth over a fight but being he signed his name on the birth  certificate they held him accountable for child support even though it was not his child so make sure you really do your research 1st sounds to me it's the other guys baby but you must be the nice guy so she making you feel like you should be the father and the one to take care of her child because the other one could careless she did the same to my cousin she new the whole time take about drama but you do what you feel is right don't know how old you are but don't let her hold this over your head she can not keep baby away from you if you are the father you have rights just as much don't be fooled

[emi236]

You need to file for paternity before you sign anything.  Otherwise you'll be paying for a child that isn't yours.  Plus if it turns out she is your baby you can file for joint custody.