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8075190 tn?1401035475

Open Relationships ?

How do u ladies feel about open relationships? & any advice for me ? Im not in a relationship but it feels like we are. We do everything we did when we were together , we still celebrate our anniversary even if we're not together but he can have sexual relations with others. I dont have sexual relations with other because im pregnant and i just cant! It hurts that we have a relationship like this but i dont want to loose him .. Especially if we're about to have a baby. I need advice .
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8241203 tn?1446763200
Aren't you 14 ? Sounds like a sticky situation but you have to Forget the boyfriend it's not a about you guys anymore so don't stress out its not good for the baby I would dump him & if things are meant to be he'll come back to you , if he's as young as you are im really not trying too tear you down but reality is your pretty young to think you absolutely love someone , i mean you could have love for each other because your having a child but doesn't mean you both truly love each other enough too spend the rest of your lives together im 17 been with my bf for 2 years now he wants to get married & says he loves me & i love him too but when it comes down too it im exremly scared of getting married FOREVER  & EVER to him & still think about it all the time like is this really what I want it is but it isn't you know it's just scary were young , so i would sit down & have a serious talk about your guys relationship tell him you want ONLY him too be yours & you to be ONLY his & if he doesn't understand than you have too understand he's young & still has life too live both of you do so don't just wrap your mind around him thinking your in love because your having his child , talk it out because if you don't your just gona end up the side check with a baby instead of the main & only check , so again talk give it time & things will fall in place Goodluck
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I agree this sounds hard and I know u love him but thia isn't healthy for you to be stressing over him and this open relationship. Ur pregnant and u only need to be relaxed for the sake of you and ur little one. U need to tell him how u feel. U need to be honest with urself and say no im not ok with this or yeah I think ot could work like this. I feel bad for u hun and I wish u weren't going through this! :( I know if it were me I couldn't handle this. I would feel so sad and hurt. I hope all goes well for you hun! Good luck!
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8870903 tn?1403153273
Right, specialmom is correct, your settling for way less then you deserve. Just because you remain monogamous doesn't mean he is, or why else would it be an "open" relationship, since you clearly don't want that. He's double dipping and your like, cool with it?? You deserve better momma.
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Tell him how you feel and if he simply doesn't understand there is no point in keeping faith in something that isn't going to happen idk if you speak Spanish but there's a saying that goes "mejor sola que mal acompaƱada" which means "better alone then with the wrong company"
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973741 tn?1342342773
Whew, this is a rough one.  to me, it sounds like you are compromising what you want just to keep him.  That usually ends in unhappiness and resentment down the road.

I'd actually do the opposite if you want to keep him.  I'd tell him that you don't share and it's over if he cares to be with others.  Then he can either get his act together or not.  

If it is a not, you will find someone to be in a relationship with YOU.  

This is, of course, unless you don't mind sharing him with other women.  Some people are into that.  I personally wanted a more traditional relationship ---  one person for one person.

Don't compromise.  good luck sweetie
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If your not okay with it then it's not okay! That's the thing about open relationships one person is always not okay with it and in that case your just torturing youraelf
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