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Regarding the Name Caine
My family is really giving me a hard time naming my baby Caine. My sister calls him a murder and my others are sayings its a fidbidden name. I been calling him Caine since I got pregnant and its hard for me to change it. Any advice
Sometimes, it's good information to know how people in the public will think about your child's name. It's true you're spelling it a little differently from the Bible name - Cain vs. Caine, but almost everyone will know Cain is the murderer of his brother Abel.
And so, there's also a cultural saying "raising Cain", which means perpetrating acts of violence. So then there was the psychological thriller movie, Raising Cain, and a cultural parenting/schooling philosophy of raising Cain, which is how to deal with violent boys in the classroom.
It's good to have other people tell you things that you haven't become aware of yet - because although you are unaware of what Cain means to the American culture, most other people know.
And people do tend to take on the spirit of their names. A girl named Stormy is unlikely to be sweet and passive. You can google studies on names and how children turn out, and what is expected of them. A teacher seeing the name Caine on her class roster is unlikely to have good expectations of him before she meets him, like Damien or Royalty.
A child's name is often the first impression he gives, and Caine is not a positive one.
And so, there's also a cultural saying "raising Cain", which means perpetrating acts of violence. So then there was the psychological thriller movie, Raising Cain, and a cultural parenting/schooling philosophy of raising Cain, which is how to deal with violent boys in the classroom.
It's good to have other people tell you things that you haven't become aware of yet - because although you are unaware of what Cain means to the American culture, most other people know.
And people do tend to take on the spirit of their names. A girl named Stormy is unlikely to be sweet and passive. You can google studies on names and how children turn out, and what is expected of them. A teacher seeing the name Caine on her class roster is unlikely to have good expectations of him before she meets him, like Damien or Royalty.
A child's name is often the first impression he gives, and Caine is not a positive one.
I just wanted to say rockrose that was a really great answer. Sometimes when we as parents pick our children's names we forget that they will have to carry that name for life and will be judged and treated in accordance with that name.
People will always have something to say, we plan on naming our babygirl Nevaeh & people are constantly telling me that she won't get a job, her name isn't normal. It's your child as long as your happy with the name & love it then that's the name for you! Don't let em get you down!
Thank u RockRose I appreciate it. Anyone who has ever had input in my life I will take into consideration as long as its not negative or harmful in anyway. Somethings in life we just truly don't know until someone brings it to our attention. I just thought Caine was a beautiful name. I never looked up meaning to names but when I thought of it we have to have a means for everything we do in life. Its not just because we can because I can kill someone and go to jail just because I can. Because I have a means in my life I would never. It started with the delivery my sister came to me it was negative and I rejected it immediately. After giving it thought and research I see where she was coming from just wrong delivery.
Thank u RockRose I appreciate it. Anyone who has ever had input in my life I will take into consideration as long as its not negative or harmful in anyway. Somethings in life we just truly don't know until someone brings it to our attention. I just thought Caine was a beautiful name. I never looked up meaning to names but when I thought of it we have to have a means for everything we do in life. Its not just because we can because I can kill someone and go to jail just because I can. Because I have a means in my life I would never. It started with the delivery my sister came to me it was negative and I rejected it immediately. After giving it thought and research I see where she was coming from just wrong delivery.
Lee, you sound really mature. I think you'll end up making a great mom - you are thoughtful and deliberate.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
This is why I hate telling people what I intend to name my baby. My family hated the name we picked for our son (zaidan) they said it was "too foreign" but it's my son and as long as the name is not offensive offensive to the child then it is fine. I knew of some boys named Cain. People I'll always have a problem with the name you choose. We have chosen Ariana for this baby and people even judge me on that!
It is your baby, you should be able to name him whatever you would like your family shouldn't have a say it is your husband's and your child not your family's kid. It is a nice name and they will get over it as long as you and your husband are happy that is all that matters
I know I should name him anything that I want because its my child but I have to take into consideration of others for the simple fact that my son has to live in this world with others. Its easy to say this is my child and I do what I want but how I raise my child and what I do with my child affects others including other kids. I am not at the point of changing his name but I'm taking all the information given to into consideration and I will decide on the name for my son. I appreciate all of you who have added input into this open post.
Don't change your sons name for other people. Unfortunately kids get bullied no matter what their name is and I actually think Caine is a great name :) I named my son Bryan Jr after his Dad and at first I was skeptical about doing it cause I didn't want people calling him B. j. But after I saw him I knew he was ment to be a Jr and I'd deal with the teasing if the time ever comes. I love my boy's name and the meaning behind it.
It's yours and oh's decision. Not your family, nor anyone else for that matter. I keep saying this when people ask me what way our baby will be raised, I'm from protestant community and my hubby is from Catholic community. Our response is - it's our decision and we'll do what we see fit.
Naming your baby is up to you and no one else!
I can assure you, picking out any name will always remind you of someone you don't like with the same name... Doesn't mean you don't use it!!
Naming your baby is up to you and no one else!
I can assure you, picking out any name will always remind you of someone you don't like with the same name... Doesn't mean you don't use it!!
You'll be amused to hear that someone who recently wrote in was considering naming her son Abel and had the same problem -- people finding it too hard to sort the baggage of biblical fratricide victim away from a child today.
I would add to the discussion that that the remarks you are hearing are the kind of comment your child will hear also, and that might make the child shy. There are other C names that are cool -- Carson was one we nearly chose for my son, my husband thought Kit would be a great nickname. Go on Nameberry or one of the other sites and look up boy names that begin with C and see if you can find one that has the sound you like and the crispness, without also the baggage.
I would add to the discussion that that the remarks you are hearing are the kind of comment your child will hear also, and that might make the child shy. There are other C names that are cool -- Carson was one we nearly chose for my son, my husband thought Kit would be a great nickname. Go on Nameberry or one of the other sites and look up boy names that begin with C and see if you can find one that has the sound you like and the crispness, without also the baggage.
Thank u and I appreciate your opinion and I like the way you broke it down to me. If my sister would have come to me and explained to me why I should considered changing his name with valid points instead of him growing up to be a murderer than I would have considered her opinion more openly. She was so negative and mean when she said it that's why I rejected it the way I did.
:( you should definitely do what I want to do
I hardly ever argue with my sisters because my mom raised us to not fight or argue with each other. Now that we are older she just feel she can say what she wants. She is a lawyer and she has all these debates and reasons why she feel so strongly about it. I just told her I'm changing his name and no one will find out until after I have him.
Well I can't do "K" because his daddy name starts with an "C" I figured I could spell it Caine instead of Cain (which is how they spelled it in the bible). My sister called and apologized after I told my mom but she still hurted my feelings.
If your family doesn't like it, they can come up with a nickname for him. Or they can get over the fact that it isn't their child. Caine is a lovely name and you shouldn't sacrifice the name you've chosen because some people will associate it with the biblical Cain.
My parents both hate the name I've chosen for my daughter. I've told them that it isn't their kid and they can deal.
My parents both hate the name I've chosen for my daughter. I've told them that it isn't their kid and they can deal.
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I think that you and your partner are the ones who created/ are creating this tiny human. You name them whatever you would like to. Research other non biblical uses of the name Cain, spell it with a K. But don't change the name you like because your family members don't agree. They can always call him by his middle name (should you give him one) or a nick name. Pregnancy is a time where you should be doing everything to my YOURSELF happy, not every one else.
Maybe spell it Kane? I would have never related that name to the Bible...I'm pretty sure we can find someone with bad character related to every name.
you will never make everyone happy, so start with yourself and your husband. if you let them win on this, they will continue to push on everything.
if they hate the name that much, they can call him by a nickname :)
if they hate the name that much, they can call him by a nickname :)
Yes I googled it but I didn't choose the name because of the Bible. I chosed it because I liked it. I didn't think of the bible Cain until they mentioned it. I just don't like how she calls my baby a murderer and he is not even here yet. Nobody helped them choose their names for their kids they named them what they wanted.
My parents named me Jesus and I wish they would have question themselves. It was rather embaressing my whole life and that JESUS.... I cant imagine a mom naming her baby Cain. I understand were ur family is coming from. Have u googled caine?
I thought about it and his dad got really mad. He was like we agreed and if I change it than he is upset and everybody else is happy. Its like I'm stuck in rock in a hard place
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