frustrated with OB... overreacting?

[MYenc0307]

I'm 16 weeks tomorrow. This is my second pregnancy. my first ended in a missed miscarriage. Had to havea d&c bc I was not naturally miscarrying and had a bad infection for the MMC. The ob we are going to is a resident and I feel like he just doesn't care at all. We had a US at 5 weeks and saw baby and babies heartbeat. Haven't seen it heard baby since. I've had severe hip and groin pain. I had to go to another doc to have the pain checked out bc... Our ob doesn't care! I'm seriously thinking that if at our appointment tomorrow the  ob doesn't check on baby that we are going to switch obs. Am I overreacting? We've lost a baby already... Shouldn't he been even slightly more concerned about this pregnancy?? Advice mneeded!!

[andradac]

Definately change the ob. By now he should have done at least one other scan at 12 weeks and offer you the screening for genetic issues and down syndrone. And the heartbeat is a must with every appointment. I had a similar problem with my previous pregnancy, needed emergency d&c because i lost so much blod i was risking to die from it. My doctor took extra care this time, put me on progesterone treatment, told me not to do any effort, no sports, and sees me every 3 weeks for a full scan plus blod tests. Also i have pills for cramps or contractions and told me i can call any time if something feels wrong. You should find a doctor like mine, she is really helping me through this, calms me down and i always leave her office with a smile :)

[florcarolina]

He should be checking the babys heartbeat and measuring your belly if your growing how it should be. I got my firat ultrasound at 5 weeks then at 7, at 16, at 22, then at 28 to see if baby is growing ok because i had also go through a miscarriage 3 months before this pregnancy. I get appts every 2 weeks since i started getting my checkups and hear the heartbeat, if i was you because your concerned and i know how you feel i would definately change doctors and tell them why. Good luck and hope you can work something out

[sunshine6615]

My first was a miscarriage, and an awful experience with an awful doctor. I changed to a woman for my second pregnancy and she reassured me, double checked on me, and even saved my sons life during delivery. I'm pregnant now for the third time and she is still an amazing and caring doctor. I would switch. Men aren't very sympathetic to something they've never been through

[Corralynn]

I also changed doctors because the doctor I had for a previous miscarriage didn't seem concerned at all and was just like "yea, it happens. Call me when you're pregnant again". So when I got pregnant again, I found a different doctor to go to and she was much better about checking on the baby early on. Find a doctor who will listen to your concerns.

[mum2b260216]

If you already had a miscarriage, he should be more careful about this baby. Either he changes or you change. Good luck

[ElimayC]

He should be checking baby's heartbeat every.time you go in for an appointment. I'd definitely find a new doc!

[Blessed2425]

I went thru the same problem. I had a miscarriage 3 years ago and it was twins. I had to have a D&C surg because I didn't have a natural miscarriage. I just didn't feel no pain no bleeding what so ever. I just found out later on during my ultrasound that my twins didn't have no heartbeats :'( ever since then my husband and I went thru a rough time trying to get pregnant again and finally thank the Lord that we're carrying again. As of right now i am beyond paranoid all the time and I had actually changed my OB just because my last OB, well she didn't really cared about when i was pregnant with the twins and what i went thru the whole process of having the surgery..smh.. so my husband and I are more alert right now whenever I feel uncomfortable or feel something is wrong or questioned, we call my OB and she's always there to return our call and ease our mind of reassuring of what to do and what not. So don't be afraid to change your OB and I say it's always possible to make changes to your Healthcare team taking care of you and your unborn baby :) tc and hope all goes well

[JackieCrandall]

I feel like if you are worried the doctor should be too! And they should at least check the heartbeat and such even if its just out of your comfort. I definatly understand why you would be frustrated your not overreacting at all. I switched my clinic for something pretty simple if you feel it may be necessary go for it! And don't be afraid to take recommendations either thats how I found my new place and have been extremely releived and at ease sincw

[MYenc0307]

It's so frustrating!

[Drixya]

I understand you. I had a miscarriage last December and been paranoid about this pregnancy! I also felt that my doc didn't care and still doesn't. I have to ask for everything and argue to get check-up done. I keep the same doc because he was treating me for infertility so it would be too complicated.  I think that if you can you should change because it is less stressful when you have a doc that care. Pregnancy after a miscarriage is stressful enough!