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Sorry for this guys but I have no one else to vent to at the moment.. My partner and I were both management at a Fast Food Restaurant. It's how we met. I left in Feb this year due to new management and some health problems, they wanted me to stay and made me have at least 3meetings requesting I 'try' but it was to hard. My partner is still there. I've supported him 100% because all though I didn't like the way they were, I knew they liked him and wanted to promote him to the highest level. Anyway, I fell pregnant in March. I'm due in Dec. My partner requested time off and at first was denied because the owner said "I only took two days off for the birth of my first baby." That's all well and good for him but we wanted a bit more than that.. so when my partner told him he was entitled to at least 6weeks because that was the time off he gave another manager when he had a child, plus my partner has so much paid leave left as he hasn't taken time off in a year and a half.. the owner got nasty and said he would only grant him 3weeks and said "She won't be happy with it but she will have to suck it up. That's life." I feel like he's nasty towards my partner because of my choice to leave the business.. the other day he said to my partner "I don't know how supportive she is of your job but..". and I'm like, are you kidding? Why wouldn't I be supportive? I'm just a tad upset that they've given him 3wks.. I know it's childish and some guys get given less but to me it just seems like he's being stupid because he actually knows me. I wish I had never worked for the guy in the first place, I feel like it would be so much easier if we were unknown to each other.. being emotional ***** :(
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"Family comes first" and he has only made it to 2 major ulstrasounds and the rest of the appts and ulstrasounds I'll be doing by myself only because his bosses have changed their mind and want him to work. I just take it on the shoulder now, and hope for the best. It was hard at first knowing he is only having two weeks off and no pay but I can't do anything about that. Hopefully Centrelink will help us just for the few weeks.
All the best to you and your little family xxx
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Honestly they are all the same bosses! They said to my husband "family comes first" and he
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Thank you.. I guess that is the postive side to it :) I was so emotional this morning but I've had a chance to calm down.. now I'm more upset about his little inputs into our personal life. One more time and I think I'll tell my partner it needs to stop. Naturally, he's worried about mentioning it and screwing his job up but a friendly "Its between my partner and I and a personal decision that I don't feel should be discussed at work" should get him to stop. I dunno, we shall see.. thanks for the kind words ladys, I'll look on the bright side of things xx
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His boss sounds like a total jerk and control freak. Nice. I'm sorry. But you can kind of look on the bright side, if he only takes half of his PTO now, then when you or the baby gets sick he can take more time off and not get chewed out for it.
Idk mama, I'm sorry. But I'm sure you'll get things worked out.
Best of luck
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I get angry at him knowing it's not his fault.. I also found out today by the trainee restaurant manager that the same boss was digging into my partner about me going back to work after the baby and how Josh shouldn't be the only one supporting the bub, he was also asking about how I will feed him and a few other things. He has no right to have an input about how we raise our boy.. My god, I will try to get a job when bub is born I can't help that I was let go due to my pregnancy. My partner would like me home for a bit for feeding the baby and resting but I will look for a job asap. My partner didn't tell me because he already knew I was upset and didn't want to further upset me.. I wish I could take it further but I can't.. Josh said he will put up a fight if I have a cesarean for more leave but if I deliver naturally, he said he will just try and take the rest of his leave in April/June next year.
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Why doesnt your husband appeal it? I would.make mine do it!! If thats what everyone is given hen thats what he deserves.. and not only that... if he has PTO I SAY HE SHOULD TAKE IT... #ONYOURSIDE
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I'm in Australia too.. and also have worked since I was 13.. this is the longest time I've taken off work, I lost my most recent job because the boss felt like I wasn't pulling my weight (Hello, I'm 31weeks pregnant!) I don't know why most bosses here are like it, I don't think I've met one that was nice and understanding towards a pregnancy. I'm not saying they are all evil and nasty because I know some are but I've yet to meet one.. your comment has helped heaps, at least I know I'm not alone.. would be harder for you, he should be entitled to some type of pay at least.. but I guess all we can do is keep moving forward and just be thankful for everything that we do have. You worded it very well though. They put so much into they're work and get nothing but negativity .. my partner sometimes works 13hr shifts and I'm okay with that until he cops it at the end for not doing good enough. I know they're pushing him for a reason but it just makes me so angry .. everything will work out though xx
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You sound like a very supportive partner. Unfortunately that's how bosses can get. I have worked since I was 15 in Australia and u have met numerous of bosses whom hate when people take sick days or maternity leave.y husband isn't even getting paid for the two weeks he is having off when our baby is born because he isn't full time so he isn't entitled to any sick days, holidays nor maternity leave. It is very upsetting when you know they are great at what they do and try so hard to get where they are but the owners take it for granted. I haven't got much advice as I'm in the same situation, try not to stress and be happy he has 3 weeks off even though you wanted more. It's not childish because I feel the exact same Hun xx
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