coddling/schedules

[penguing1227]

Im a ftm and My daughter is 2w5d. Had she carried to term she would only be a week. The way i see it shes my daughter I'll  raise her how i wish. But i keep being told that i need to train her to  follow a schedule and i coddle her too much. But she isnt even a month old yet! She is still eating/sleeping/cuddling  round the clock. I've  been told i need to "let her fuss". But again shes not even  a month old, she is still adjusting. I dont feel comfortable  just letting her fuss when i can comfort her.  Not trying to spark controversy, just get opinions from other moms. Coddle or schedule? If schedule when did you start  implementing  it?

[LaurenC86]

Check up*

[LaurenC86]

Yea, my little girl tended to set her own schedule as well around 3 minths. 3 naps a day feeding on waking and slept at night except for the occasional feeding. And of course as they get older the schedule is constantly changing as far as how many naps they take, and how often they want to feed. If your mom gives you grief about it then make her go with you to baby's next crack up and she can hear it for herself from the pediatrician that you're doing what is right for babe. :-)

[maw4389]

I'd rather let my baby figure out her own schedule. She just turned 3 months today and sleeps anywhere from 7 to 10 hours at night and has little naps throughout the day and eats when she gets hungry. Works for me!

[lovebella753]

I'm 10 weeks & 4 days and I feel like I smell different & I've been feeling angry towards everyone is that a bad thing??

[carterclan]

They are only babies for a short time enjoy your baby while you can especially with your first.  You also still need to take it a little easy your body is still recovering from having a baby.

[canmommy4]

When a child is born they need to know their mother is there to respond to their every need this is how they build trust and develop a secure attachment. You can't spoil a baby this young however you can create trust and attachment issues by not responding and trying to "schedule" her. Hope this helps.

[penguing1227]

My mum told me this  morning that i need to look into getting her on a schedule or I'm never going to be able to do anything even just around the house.  But I'd rather cuddle and  make sure my daughter is happy and feels loved for 10hrs a day than do the dishes

[LaurenC86]

And even when you do put baby on a schedule between 3-6 months, that doesn't mean that you can't still cuddle and be there for her when she crys, it definitely never stopped me!! Lol

[penguing1227]

Thank  you!  

[LaurenC86]

Studies show and doctors will tell you that it is technically impossible to spoil a baby at that age. I remember dealing with the same thing when I had my first, everyone said I was spoiling her by always responding to her beck and call, so I talked to my pediatrician and that's what they told me, they said that baby's need to know that you will be there and they desperately need to be comforted and responded to when they're that young. I can't remember at what age it does start to spoil them but I think it's around 4 or 5 months, so for right now, screw what people say and do what you feel is best. I always responded to my daughter though and never let her just "cry it out" even after the tiny infant stage, she is now 5 years old and she is actually a very independent little girl (I even have to talk her into sleeping with me when daddy's not home and I want to cuddle with her, bc she likes to be in her own bed by herself. Lol) but she knows that mommy will always be there when she needs me.

[jkbull]

I don't consider it coddling its meeting your babies needs. You arent going to make her spoiled. I never let my kids fuss if I could do something for them. Go with your gutt and don't listen to anybody else. Sounds like your doing a great job.

[emmittsmommom]

You won't get her on amy kind of schedule for a couple months. She sets her own schedule right now. Like you said she's not even a month old yet.