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hubbys watching porn?

So I went to set my hubvys alarm on his phone and unlocked it BAM porn ... I just clicked off and set the alarm idk if he knows I saw it. But seriously I try not to let it bug me I do t wanna be that psycho girl in his life. I think it bugs me because I'm 25 w pregnant and I don't feel so attractive ... and I compleatly understand I don't like to have sex as much as we used to obvisly so I try not to care. But deep down it bugs me he'd rather watch porn and go to bed other then even try to have sex after i get out toddler to bed at night .... does anyone have this issue how do u deal with it??
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Omg I just typed this and it didn't post ugh!

Well I dont like when my husband watches porn. And yes its a little because of jealousy but think about it this way your husband is supporting some girl taking off her clothes and degrading herself for money. What kind of example is that setting for your daughter?  Just because someone dosent approve of it dosent mean their closed minded... their are hundreds of reasons it could bother someone.  Jealousy,  what ibsaid earlier about degrading women, if your husband (or wife) is taking time away from you to do it, if hes buying dvds and you feel like its a waste of money, or in my case the #1 reason I dont like it is because my husband lIES about it their for hes making porn more of a priority then keeping an honest relationship with his wife. And never told my husband he couldn't watch it I told him how ibfelt about it he said he wouldn't because I dont approve (WELL HE LIED AND EVERY TIME I CATCH HIM HE SAYS THE SAME LIE OVER AGAIN) and for the record I dont mind masturbation by I just think husbands should keep their mimds to their wives. Screw that its just a fantasy bs... thats just how I feel. FOR THE GIRLS WHO DONT MIND GOOD FOR YOU! But please don't treat other people like theirs something wrong with them for not approving of it. Because their are some many reasons it could cause a problem.  Personally I was really hurt after I had my son  and felt fat and ugly and I pick up his phone to call my phone and first thing that pops up is " busted blonde! Skinny DD!
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Its sad anytime a question gets asks all I ever see is a bunch of women bickering and arguing with each other. Yes everyone has different views on everything no need to cut anyone down, just state your opinion and move on.
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lol honestly i'm 23 weeks pregnant an me an my husband haven't done it for awhile now.because i've been so sick with my baby.... he doesn't go running to porn to fill his needs. he respects me as his wife an a woman to not use that as an excuse. an I love him so much for that. since when were men entitled to always having to have sex? yes I feel bad that we can't do it atm. an yes watching it does make you less of a man, there are plenty of men who even admit that! I honestly feel sorry for you girls that are ok with it, I wish you had men that cared enough about you in your life! an I wish you guys wouldn't settle an fall into the trap of just accepting it.
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There is a difference between watching porn movies and watching naked women or a couple have sex over live cams. To me all of it is cheating and I don't go for that. I told my fiancé if he wants to watch it I have to be in the room with him. He even told me that if I was to do the same thing he has done that we would be over pregnant or not. He use to look at live cams, and pictures and actual porn and I told him numerous times how much I feel unattractive and that he doesn't want me and apparently I don't turn him on anymore. A lot of us woman have different views on porn or other naked women that are not us. To me its like cheating and I will not just be like "hey babe go watch it, its cool" yeah not me. I want sex more than him and always have so if he wants it I give it him no matter how I'm feeling or how tired I am at the end of the day.
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7381903 tn?1391464888
@Emnjer13,  Ignorance means a lack of knowledge , hun you gotta ignore the ignorant people. Ppl will think what they want. What can we do ?, state the truth and walk away .
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Lol jordy
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You^^ could not be more wrong!! Lol our doctor recommended it because i am never in the mood! It's not a crime to masturbate we're talking almost 9 months without sex here not a week! Porn doesn't make their penises fall off so yes men are still men if they watch it.
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i'm not sheltered or jealous...an you dont kmow how old i am. most girls that are fine with it are just too afraid that if they say something they might lose their guy. guys who do that are not real men. one day you will wake up an realize it!
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Emn no actually us who accept it are more open minded and confident in knowing that its just a movie...no settling involved...its actually exciting to watch together but that comes with age and experience. Someone whos sheltered or has jealousy issues would have the issue with it...im confident that if myguy watches a porn its no big deal...it really isnt unless it messes with his job.
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i'm so sick of all you ladies amusing that since you guys aren't in the mood you don't mind him watching it...... seriously???? that is a lame excuse! yea a lot of guys do it but there are plenty who truly are disgusted by it. I know my husband is, an not because he's afraid to admit it. he truly loves me an stands up to that. sorry but you all who are fine with it have settled an don't have a real man. there is something wrong with guys an girls if they have no prob with it. this is why guys are pigs to girls....because there are no girls having respect for themselves!!!!
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1938799 tn?1382642943
IMO I don't mind it unless it takes time from me but if it keeps him from going out n screwing around then have at it lol. I can't have sex ATM so if my guy watches it idc
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All in all girl if YOU don't like it then it's a problem. You don't need anyone to tell you if it's wrong or not. One person's opinion of "wrong" may not be another's "wrong". If you feel deep down that it is wrong, you gotta tell him what's up ! This is about you and your man's relationship. Obviously you are very hurt by his actions... maybe try to have a constructive conversation with him. Like sit him down and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels so that it y'all can both learn each other's point of view. (: good luck girl and don't worry too much... be happy for baby (:
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7677085 tn?1395374075
He'd deserve it in my opinion. But that's your call.
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I'm just hormonal lol I shuldent let it bug me I'm sure its nothing personal but looking at him sleeping I seriously wanna punch him in his d!! Haha I'm thinking about it... :0
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7677085 tn?1395374075
Oh cheer up mama. Men can be insensitive! I've enjoyed reading through this debate. Damn we are done opinionated women when it comes to our porn lol! But seriously, there are times when we all take it too far. I think Imcplus4 just experienced that.
Porn as a way to fill in the gaps when wifey just isn't up for it? Maybe okay. Penn instead of wifey - not okay. I'm sorry mama.
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So lady's!!
To top it all off I totally came on to him tonight making a point that I obvisly wanted to have sex tonight and he works hard outside all day so of course he wanted to take a shower first... bit wanted it to be known I wanted to do it tonight thinking he will take a quick shower and jump on it!!...
. WRONG took a long *** shower after o finished cooking dinner and cleaning up the kitchen and he is PASSED OUT… I'm so sad he just dose not want me I guess.
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7924122 tn?1404037486
The father of mine admitted to me that he does it. This normally wouldn't be a problem, as I'm not overly controlling or cunty about that kind of thing. Except that he was addicted to it, to the point where for a very long time he couldn't even get off having sex with me. He had promised after I'd caught him in the act a year ago that he'd never do it again. Some stuff happened so we aren't living together anymore, and I told him I knew he was doing it and he lied to me about it. When he finally owned up to it after more times of not being able to successfully have sex together, I had a literal hour long fit over it. Mostly because he lied, the rest is the fact that I am pregnant with his kid and the fact that he said he ONLY watches this ONE PARTICULAR GIRL made it exactly the same as cheating. If he was doing it just for the skin, and because we only have 1-3 times we can even try having sex per week, I honestly wouldn't care. But the fact he's only watching ONE GIRL, does it often enough that he CANNOT GET OFF TO ME, and thay he LIED ABOUT IT for 3 months made me funking PEEVED off. So he got his earful, and so should he.
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7381903 tn?1391464888
@Calico236 , you couldnt have said it any better !!!!!!!!!
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7381903 tn?1391464888
Porn is disgusting . How can you watch sluts & perverted men have sex?, yeah I would talk to him abt it, if you feel some type of way then speak your mind & opinion.
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In my marriage I would consider that cheating -- but regardless of whether or not you agree, since it bothers you it's not ok! Talk with him about the issue and tell him how it makes you feel, hopefully he will respect you!
If he doesn't,  You should calmly suggest seeing a counselor.  This does not mean your relationship is broken! My husband and I saw a premarital counselor,  not because something was wrong but so that we could transition into our marriage easily and prepare for future situations we could not foresee. It really helped us solve future issues!
Besides, if you want him to stop you will probably need the guidance of professional help because porn is extremely addictive.
Like I said, neither I or my husband have had this issue, but a counselor will help so much! And maybe it will make your husband realize how much it hurts you and that you take this issue seriously
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Ok.... I watch porn... my husband doesn't!!! Lol ... I am the one who does it, and he knows it! From the very beginning he knows I am a very sexual person, but if he can't keep up with me I will not be frustrasted, I would just do it myself! He doesn't care!!! What do u prefer? He watching porn or he cheating with another woman? Just talk to him momma, we all have our sexual needs... talk with him, let him know how u feel about it and ask him why is he doing that. You are parters, not strangers! Just ask him hun! :) Good luck!
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It could be much worse...i understand it may not be comfy for you but if hes trird and youve turnrd him down why should he keep trying? Atleast hes not out there looking...ive never seen the big deal cuz i watch.porn and in both my pregnancies ive been a nympho...sorry youre feeling that way
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7458937 tn?1391882099
@Lily made a very very good point.  

And I'm sorry hun! I hope everything blows over soon. Hang in there♡
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I'm a little different and I watch porn with my husband.. Also when I'm not in the mood I suggest that he watch porn to satisfy himself as long as he's not touching another woman i don't have a problem and I would rather him watch porn than be tempted to find another woman to satisfy him (not that he would ever do that anyway) and please do not bash me because we choose a different lifestyle than you do because I'm sure your closets have skeletons also!
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