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7642836 tn?1410611040

last name

I feel so left out bc im giving my daughter her fathers last name and we arent married. We've been together for 6 years and im sure we will get married but I dont want my daughter to grow up and feel like im not a part bc I dont have their last name. Its also too long to combine both and it sounds too funny ..
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Maybe give her your middle name. My youngest daughter me her grandma and great grandma all have the same middle name.
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I feel what your saying. Im doing the same and names only with j. I really don't want to but hey. Don't worry though because you'll are still family regardless of the last name
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8171562 tn?1408628833
I was with my daughters' father for a long time and was sure we would get married but I refused to give either of them his last name til we waere married, it isn't anything for the name to be changed within the first year...or even for him to adopt her once you do get married.
We were together over ten years and our daughters are 6 and 4...I am very thankful that I didn't give the girls his last name because...I left him after his girlfriend calling me accusing me of being the other woman, when it was I he was living with and I was not even a month from the due date with our second child. (He had been "with" her since I was about 6weeks pregnant with our first child...) and years after, I find out that she wasn't the only one he cheated on me with before during and after pregnancies.
My husband wants to adopt my daughters....and we are expecting our first.
But each circumstance is different. And if you are planning on more children regaurdless if you ever get married you will want ALL your children to have the same last name.
Good luck on deciding what is best for you and your circumstances.
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Good to know I am not the only one feeling this way! My man and I have been together for 3 years almost and he doesn't get how important it is to me for our last names to all be the same. We do eventually plan to get married, but it just makes me feel sad we don't now :(
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9414151 tn?1406839268
I've been with my man for almost 7 years now n he doesnt want to get married n we r having our 3rd child together! They all have his last name
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Yeah I gave my daughter her dad's last name, I named her after me & she's more proud if that
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7552771 tn?1469929649
Its not that big of a deal. My first son has his grandmas maiden name so he has neither mine or my ex's last name. He's 5 and knows his last name is different he doesn't care. And I have a bf now that I will marry and the baby I'm about to have will also have his last name. I just teach my son that names don't make a family.
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I have a daughter to a previous relationship and when her dad decided to take nothing to do with her I changed her name by deed poll to my surname. I am now between 5 and 6 weeks pregnant with someone I have only been with for 6 months and I want this baby to have my surname to keep my kids the same... I ain't broke the news to my partner yet I don't know how he Will take it.
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My little girl is two (today actually) and her daddy and I have been together but are not married for over 10 years. Our daughter has daddy's lastname and we both do not want to get married. I had always said that if it bothered our kids then I would just change my last name but not get married.  It is just starting to bug me these past few months when people ask for my lastname and assume it is hers too. At he same time families are so diverse now so I really shouldnt care.  I have friends who are married but didnt take their hubby's names!
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I never really put that much thought to it I'm not married either but I'm giving our daughter her fathers last name and I didn't think twice about it I mean heyy either way god forbid if it didn't work out or we didn't get married right away that's still her father and she's apart of him. And plus I think Armstrong sounds way better than mines lol
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I gave my daughter her dads last name. And regret it now but she is his regardless.. Also did my son and regret it also, because although weve been together for 3 yra he doesn't even wanna talk about marriage/engaged/or even a promise ring...:( its a shittybfeelung not knowing...
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